in school all they ever basically taught you was, either don't do it, and if you decide that you're ready to do it, wear a condom and be safe.
when you're young, you don't usually feel comfortable talking to your parents about stuff...especially when it comes to sex. cause most of the time they'll freak out and have a cow and ban you from leaving the house or something or they'll give you the lecture you already got 20 times in health class in school.
i think it's great that people, whether young or old, can have a place to come to to find out about the other things they don't tell you about sex. and to be able to ask questions on boards like this and not be judged on what you're doing.
people just have questions sometimes and they just need answers and as nurse naddy said... "I can't say I've ever known someone worse off for having knowledge."
[QUOTE=Quote (Nurse Naddy @ Dec. 10 2003,12:03)] I can't say I've ever known someone worse off for having knowledge.[/QUOTE]
Excellent statement, Nurse Naddy.
I think this site is a great resource for kids and wish I had something similar growing up. I think kids probably get at least a couple of other things from this site besides just cold, hard facts.
They hear statements that sometimes must coincide with those they have heard from their parents. Things such as "Wait until you are sure you are ready", and "WEAR A CONDOM". I think they are more likely to listen and HEAR for the very reason that we are not their parents.
They also hear a variety of opinions-showing that even adults don't have all this figured out. Maybe when they see that they aren't the only ones unsure in this "whole sex thing", they feel more confident in asking questions. And we are not just preventing pregnancies, we are talking about preventing deaths. No matter what mistakes these teens make in exploring their sexuality, they shouldn't have to die for them.
And, of course, the one that I would know a lot about: There are some questions you can't ask your parents or teachers. I'm talking about being gay. It's still not unheard of for parents to "disown" a child for coming out. And if you are "outed" at school, well, the best you might hope for is harassment and the worst could be death. Then, there is always the chance that keeping the secret could result in death; the gay teen suicide rate is ridiculous-higher than any other group. These kids might not HAVE anyone else to talk to.
So I say keep fighting the good fight, and let's not worry about ages.
I am a strong believer in education of every sense, especially sexual health and education!
Now, being a nurse, that is probably some of my education speaking, but I am also a mother and I talk with my four year old already about age appropriate sexual things in words that he can understand and use.
I don't think it is ever too early. People are going to have sex whenever they want to and the best thing you can do is instill in them the information to make it as painless a process as possible. There is nothing wrong with having well informed kids and teens who understand anatomy and physiology and sex. I also like to include in all sexual education means of sexual communication and open and healthy relationships.
Sex education is not just about teaching children to have sex. It's a learning process about relationships and behaviours which will hopefully instill confidence, courage and understanding in people. I can't say I've ever known someone worse off for having knowledge.
But, out of curiosity, becuase it is a very similar touchy issue, how do people feel about drug education? ie. safe injection techniques, what street drugs are, how they are used, what they do to you, drug smart ideas......
I do agree this site should be put into traffic on other sites. Becuase this is an awesome resource for us teens. It's like "They dont need a site theyll never have sex until they are married." which is all wrong. We will have sex wether they accept it or not. The MTV Fight For Your Rights isnt doing the best either. They are driving people to annoyance with some of their idiotic stuff. Like the guy singing about a condom. Now im a rapper and I find rapping about my dick alot more appropiate. I understand all about condoms and how important they are. But I think that MTV should do better and there should be more forums like this.
[QUOTE=Quote (Jracer @ Sep. 01 2004,21:31)]No one here is dumb or stupid just a bit challanged, even with a strong collage edgumication Im learning on a daily basis.
My point? Simple. Todays watered down schools especially public have little real fact to offer our new generations, most is biased in one way or another and those "good" teachers who say it like it is are offered exceptional packages for an early retirement or shifted to other positions. They are considered a liability and not an asset just like computers over vocational training. One of the first things I learned as a freshman in collage is question everything and this I do well.
My son is now actually 17, a junior in school and very sharp... All parents say that about their kids and rightfully so but Im still that proud parent and that won't change. Just like you guys he knows right from wrong and gives a damn but still makes mistakes like everyone else does. I also know my son is gay and is very happy with his boyfriend of 5+ years and has no plans of window shopping for another, I stand behind him all the way.
Want an open mind? You hold the key
JR[/QUOTE]
I tip my hat to you.
I love the Bush bashing "edjumacation" quote.
I will have to stop with the politics unless you wan't to read a five hour rant.
I need to add that I am stupid Ex. one day I thought pig rhymed with orange, I got an 18 on a Geography final, and I wanted to see what would happen if you drink 2 liters of mustard.
I would also like to point out that (if anyone is offended by this it is my friends opinion and mine) Catholics think the key is the bible and I don't and am very open minded.
[QUOTE=Quote (?wiseman? @ May 07 2003,09:01)]Wow, deja vu. I'd swear I heard Guido's words someplace before. I agree with all he has to say and would like to add a couple things.
This forum is a valuable source of information for all ages. HOWEVER, it is not a substitute for having open and honest communication with your PARENTS. I know it's tough, (just last night my 9-yr old son asked me what a tampon was) but as a parent I can tell you that our love is unconditional for our kids. We are much more receptive of the idea that a teenager would come to us to discuss questions about relationships and sex, than we are "Mom, Dad, I think I'm (or my girl friend's) pregnant," or taking you to the doctor for a course of penicillin.
Despite all of the great advice and suggestions posted here, there are still occassional posts under the general topic "Could I be Pregnant?" Please understand that no matter how careful you are and how many precautions you take, boyfriends and girlfriends will still count the days to her period.
Ask questions, become informed, but simply because you've read alot about swimming, that doesn't mean you're ready to jump into the surf. Be knowledgeable, but be smart with that knowledge.[/QUOTE]
That reminds me of this one day I was visiting my family (parents and 10 yr old brother) and my brother had a really bad sunburn so he went to my parent's bathroom to get some but he found a box of tampons shoved two up his nose running around saying "Look I'm a walrus!"
this is sooo true. in public school they teach and preach. this was my sex-ed:
protection
intercousre fundamentals
hundreds of pictures of stds
they really should focus on pleasing one another, complications of love, and ... well...important things. most kids know "the basics/stds" long before middle or high school.
weak sauce.
glad to know im not the only 14 year old on the forums here ^_^
im not gonna go and be repetitive with the "school teaches you crap" statement, even if it is true.
but, because of this site, and others ive stumbled upon, i have learned quite a bit, and im glad ive learned what ive learned at my age. like now, i know what the g spot is, instead of the place where you see your friends from down the street (seriously, i used to think that)
and because of sites like this, as well as other kids at school, i realise what to use during intercourse. a steady comdom and possibly spermacides.
my parents never was good at teaching me about sex and other similar topics. a few times when i was around 10, they would catch me masturbating, and when they did, they would start telling me first, that masturbating (and if theres something i cant forget, its that masturbating is perfectly NORMAL and FINE.) is evil and wrong, and that my "pecker" is for a girl when im "much older", including 'the birds and the bees' lecture. because of that, it naturally became harder for me to talk to them, and now, with my mom being my only parent because of my late father's death, talking with her about sex has become something that will never happen.
[QUOTE]if i didnt kno this stuff i would be worrying my ass off about trivial matters such as penis size, and cum coulour..[/QUOTE]
funny, before i got my pre-teen hands on the internet, porn, sex info, etc., i thought that sex occured only in the anus, and that if "white stuff" came out of your penis during masturbation and otherwise, that it meant you were going to have a baby.
i thought id share that memory :P
anyway, im also glad for sites like this one, because as today's society changes more and more and sexual content etc. becomes more easier to obtain, music, internet, etc., its became something you have to know about. also, it seems at school that sex has became something EVERYONE knows about. as well as that, girls at school have already started their career as prostatutes (seriously), and the friends of your girlfriend/boyfriend always want to know if your going to "do it" or if you already have, how was it.
lol, wedensday, my girlfriend came up to me and was telling me how a girl at school was asking her questions all sex related. have you done it yet? when are you moving to your dad's? (a few months ago, i was going to go with her to her dads house in St.Augustine [i live in central Florida] and everyone expected us to have sex because of the certain conditions of her dad's house. to let you know, i never went because she got mad at me the day before and broke up with me lol) has he fingered you yet? (i havent actually fingered her, but the next closest thing) and questions like that. and, its questions like the one the girl asked that make you realize stuff like that is stuff you need to know. for instance, at school, i was offered 2 (two) condoms the week i was supposed to go to her house. the people who offered the comdoms was 2 chicks, one was the chick asking the questions and the other is the twin to my gf's best friend. funny isnt it?
whatever the matter, im glad for sites like these :)
Let me say that, as a victim of a Catholic education, this site taught me about the following:
-what contraceptives are and what kinds are available
-what STD's are, what kinds exist, and the risks of catching them
-what a clitoris is for
Yet somehow, people in my school think that installing childcare facilities is promoting teen pregnancy. I see it as sleeping in the bed that you've made.
The real problem I have is that my school board is publicly funded. It's a deal that's over a century and a half old that was designed to protect the rights of minority Catholics, and is extremely outdated. No matter which way you slice it, it is simply socially irresponsible of the government to refuse to teach kids about contraceptives at all (I'm not kidding, not a thing was mentioned to us about contraceptives), STD's, risks, etc. I didn't even know that a clitoris existed until grade 9, and I really had to find out from the internet what its purpose is. Talk about an unhealthy attitude towards sex.
im new to this website, so i hope someone can advise me. My boyfriend and i have recently started experimenting, my question is what would any of you guys recommend i could do, to pleasure him? any advice on this would be greatly appreciated as im a bit shy in this area, not knowing what im supposed to do. Thnx.
I built a magazine and webpage just for teens to be able to ask questions and to read about all things related to drugs, alcohol, sex, and health. Everyone should check it out at:
I've got a site as well. HandJob Cafe
We all should be learning about sex and masturbation at an early age. It's nothing to be ashamed of, and if we learn early we only benefit from that knowledge by not having sexual issues/problems later in life.
my g.f. wants to have sex however we are both virgins and i want to know what are some good positions that canmake sex that much better especially for her since i got a 5.5 in penis.
can anyone hel p me out???
If you both are virgins...start with the basics. Begin with a missonary position, and just see how it feels to her and to you. For deeper penetration, you stand on the floor and have her slide to the edge of the bed (lying on her back) and put her legs on your chest/shoulders, hold onto her hips and gently penetrate her...if that is too deep have her drop her legs down to the outside of your hips and you can also manually stimulate her clitoral area while you are in her (this is not so awkward). My first time we (both virgins also) were lucky to get him inside of me...just trying to hit the opening was a major ordeal. Leave the advanced positions until a time where you get a rythm going and you both are feeling really good, able to orgasm, and comfortable with each other.
I am not a virgin but my girl is, We have not had sex and probably wont. We dont have sex but we try other things and on multiple occasions i have taken my gf to a point where other girls would b having an orgasm but she wont let me go any further cause she says it "tickles" really bad. Ive nvr heard it explained in this way and since she is unexperienced she doesnt know how to explain what she is feeling to me and she is shy so its hard for her to talk about these things. To explain it better, i only stimulate her clit, i have not fingered inside her yet but i have fingered her clit, given oral, and humped w/o penetration and have brought her to this point. She says it "tickles" so bad that she wont let me go near her genitals after and the rest of her body is very sensitive and receptive to touch, especially her breasts and upper thighs. So...im not sure what to do, if im bringing her to orgasm and then she cannot handle it yet, or if she has already gone through it like a guy and she is just sensitive after, or if this is something else? One other thing is that she explains when i lick on her nipples or kiss her ears and neck that it "tickles" so i have thought maybe this is how she explains the feeling, but i kno that feeling is very much different to how the feeling of being tickled under the armpits, which she says her vagina feels like after we play around.
There are so many negatives being boadcasted right now on television, adverts and in Sex Edu. Yet never the positives I use a saying here that goes against all reckoning haha.
"I'd rather know how, and not do. Than do and not know."
Sex Education in schools has improved alot over the last 10years but it still has a way to go, until people can be more open with sex and talk bout it there is always going to be this stigma during our youths that sex is intimidating. Far from it, its only as intimidating as you allow it to be, and telling your child or pupils the details about sex will not turn them into a rabid sex mad nymphomaniac.
I thanked the day I found 'self-help' with regards to sex, relationships and the myths, so I also thank SexInfo101.com.
[QUOTE=Abenn26;160886]I am not a virgin but my girl is, We have not had sex and probably wont. We dont have sex but we try other things and on multiple occasions i have taken my gf to a point where other girls would b having an orgasm but she wont let me go any further cause she says it "tickles" really bad. Ive nvr heard it explained in this way and since she is unexperienced she doesnt know how to explain what she is feeling to me and she is shy so its hard for her to talk about these things. To explain it better, i only stimulate her clit, i have not fingered inside her yet but i have fingered her clit, given oral, and humped w/o penetration and have brought her to this point. She says it "tickles" so bad that she wont let me go near her genitals after and the rest of her body is very sensitive and receptive to touch, especially her breasts and upper thighs. So...im not sure what to do, if im bringing her to orgasm and then she cannot handle it yet, or if she has already gone through it like a guy and she is just sensitive after, or if this is something else? One other thing is that she explains when i lick on her nipples or kiss her ears and neck that it "tickles" so i have thought maybe this is how she explains the feeling, but i kno that feeling is very much different to how the feeling of being tickled under the armpits, which she says her vagina feels like after we play around.[/QUOTE]
Quite simply Abenn, your ladyfriend is becoming turned on at this point, or further. So your assumptions are near enough right, the only other reason she may be stopping you from playing/touching her genitals and other sensitive spots is beause she is in a very aroused state and on the verge of cumming. Unfortunately some women have trouble differentiating between tis feeling and the feeling of needing to pee. Hence she may stop you thinking shes about to pee.
Try asking her, find things out. I it turns out that she does have that feeling and you know she does not need to use facilities, coax her a little get her to relax and / or push it out.
You may get lucky and she might 'spurt'. If she enjoys this next time dont let her. Get her to keep a old of her cum for aslong as she can. Keep stopping and starting. The more you do this the more vaginal fluid builds up with greater pressure and then when shereleases the orgasm will be much greater for her.
I reckon that for some teens this site could be a bit too much to handle - but I have definately learnt alot from it and im sure many other teens have. I think it's good it's open to teens. If it's too explicit for some then they won't come back - and that way it's still accessible to those who want to use it.
I am only 14 and this site has given me a lot more insight into sex, relationships, etc. The classes at school has not been very helpful, because the only thing they told us was not to have sex and showed us some pictures STDs. They did not go any deeper into details of anything at all. This site is great for all ages to allow them to learn more info from people with experience.
I understand that I am not ready for sex, and I don't (or my girlfriend) plan on having sex for a while. Although I "want" to have sex, some info on this site has helped me realize that I am not ready yet. I understand much better now that I need to give this some time.
[QUOTE=gtchamp7;178664]I am only 14 and this site has given me a lot more insight into sex, relationships, etc. The classes at school has not been very helpful, because the only thing they told us was not to have sex and showed us some pictures STDs. They did not go any deeper into details of anything at all. This site is great for all ages to allow them to learn more info from people with experience.
I understand that I am not ready for sex, and I don't (or my girlfriend) plan on having sex for a while. Although I "want" to have sex, some info on this site has helped me realize that I am not ready yet. I understand much better now that I need to give this some time.
Great Site[/QUOTE]
You ARE DEFINITELY a breath of fresh air!! Read all posts and answers by Dancin'Doc,Brandye,and Sera...take these to heart and remember them! They are your best source of reliable up to date information...in saying that.. I don't mean to exclude some of the other SENIOR members..it's just the names that came to mind..Peace OUT!
[QUOTE=hotbabe;182396]i never had the patience to explain some thing to teenagers, they make fun of that.[/QUOTE]
And this is a very good thing since they prove to be alive by doing it… the fun, I mean. Do not forget that our future lays in the balls of the younger generation, man!
Whats the chances of getting pregnet if he wears a condom. its both of our first time and im researching to get all the info i can get. i got till sunday. help!!!!
Whats the chances of getting pregnet if he wears a condom. its both of our first time and im researching to get all the info i can get. i got till sunday. help!!!![/QUOTE]
well, people like Planned Parenthood and other condom advocates will tell you it's a ridiculously low number like .1% on the other side, people who are so afraid of even talking about sex will tell you it's 10-15%. in truth, it's neither. in between. the most objective studies i've found suggest about a 1-2% chance.
just remember what a condom is. it gets held up as the miracle cure to teen pregnancy and supposedly is the keystone tool in "sexual liberation", but once all the flowery left-wing stuff gets stripped away, it's just a 79 cent piece of latex that's thinner than a sheet of paper. be careful trusting your future to it.
it sounds like some corny thing from american pie, but try doubling them the first time. not only does it virtually guarantee you will not get pregnant, it well let him last longer.
condoms are great, but dont get suckered into all the stuff you hear about "safe sex". there's no such thing. you're having "safer sex". big difference. condoms are not carte blanche
between all the mush thats been pushed in my face: sex ed at school, commercials and what every adult says.. whats really stuck is "if your gonna do it, use a condom"
having lost my virginity i can't imagine having sex without a condom, its the one thing i've really learned, i think that if i got a girl pregnant ide cut off my... uh.. cut off my marbles!
don't really know so much about individual STIs... everything a woman can get a man can get too... and they're all hell
personally i dont think that i need to be "scared" into using a condom anymore, not that i feel that way, but learning about individual infections and diseases may just do that... (that is something that they aim to do in sex ed @ school... scare people into using condoms, on the account that instincts tell them to respond to fear)
parents should give their children a support system, something to rely on, a life line.
personally, my dad has given me the feeling that i can really on him.
-he says that if i ever have a question about sex, that he can talk to me about it, and show me some of his pornos...
-he has told me that he would rather have me having sex in our home with his knowledge than in my car or on the beach
-he says that if i'm ever at a party and i need a sober driver that i can call him... no matter what time, what the situation, no questions he will pick me up, which i have taken him up on
-before he knew i was going to parties he said that he would like to show me how to drink *ie get me really drunk and throw up so i know my limits* however i never took him up to his offer, partly because i did not feel comfortable to.
And thats exactly the point, even if trustful parents offer the most secure, embarrassment-free, way of talking to them about "growing up," the teenager will probably not make the jump to talk have a three hour conversation about giving oral or what ever it is... but just knowing that there is a lifeline to really on, so they can be safe.
Even though i've never gotten drunk with my dad, or talked to him intimately about the acts of sex, i know that he's totally cool about me having sex.
unfortunately i think that most teenagers are trying to keep their parents from knowing that they are sexually active, or keep them from knowing that they are going to parties which provides an unsafe atmosphere. Teens should know that their parents would rather have them home safe, than drinking and driving, even if their parents had to wake up at two in the morning to drive them home. Teens should know that their parents would rather have them having sex at home than out on th beach.
I hope that all teenagers can make that connection with their parents, and always know that there is something to fall back onto.
we all know that parents want their children to be safe, but i hope that parents realize that TEENS ARE GONNA SNEAK OUT, PARTY AND HAVE SEX REGARDLESS OF WHAT PARENTS SAY... Parents should tell their children that its okay to have sex BUT you should wait till you're married, and its okay to have a drink responsibly BUT you should wait till you're 21, even if you tell them to wait, and to drink responsibly and that they shouldn't really do it, parents should provide a life line.
teens would trust their parents enough to tell them that s/he is having sex with his/her partner, teens would trust their parents enough to tell them that they are going to a party and not be worried about getting grounded.
This way parents know where their children are and teenagers know that there is always a safe place to have sex and that they should never have to make the decision to drink and drive.
Even with that all said
i dont really think that im gonna ask him how he likes to stimulate mom, or what his favorite position is, or how to find the g spot... i just don't feel comfortable asking that, and any teenager who does, i envy them.
and thats why i first came to SI 101, to learn to pleasure my girl :o
because, come on people lets be serious, where else are you gonna learn how to pleasure you sex partner. if its not in school, if its not from your parents, and all porn does is give you a hard on, you cant actually learn jack squat from porn... only jack off
I Started Coming To This Site When I Was 12. I Didn't Know What I Was Doing Cuz I Kept Squeezing My Vagina And Tits. I Found Out That I Was Masterbating And It Was Completly Normal. Since I Felt Mature Enough I Started Getting Physically Active This Year(I'm 14). I Leaned The Best Condom Brands, And The Best Moves, This Site Is Great!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hey, I was just wondering if there is a right way for a woman to do it on top? And if there is, please tell..
I'm new and I want to pleasure my boyfriend
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[quote=JCAT;197690]Hey, I was just wondering if there is a right way for a woman to do it on top? And if there is, please tell..
I'm new and I want to pleasure my boyfriend
:)[/quote]Search under topics such as new to sex.
Yeah. This Site Rocks! Tells you about anything! its just great in having a website like this! Keep On Rocking Guys! and a very great salutations for the moderators and the creators of this site!
I know I'm glad I havn't had sex yet cause I'm still having feelings about the guy I'm with but at the same time I hope it happends I trust him and he says he trusts me. I feel safe with him and good with him.
He said he didn't want kids but I'll give him a while until he's a little older and see what happends there same with me I want kids but I'm kind of young and not exactly ready and don't know anything.
I might tell my mom as much as it's emarassing to tell her that I might have to call my Gyn she said I should let her know when I'm ready for sex I should contact and visit her before I do anything.
Of course it's been a while since I've seen my Gyn no matter I'm going to go to her.
At your age it's not uncommon for people to have feeling of not wanting kids; mainly men. When they want to settle down they change their thinking. If you can talk to your mom fine. If not just make an appointment for your annual.
Additionally, do not think that sex+love=marriage + kids.
[quote=KMB;204635]Oh man, I'm not exactly sure I want to dump him I mean he just called me and he was crying so hard. I hate to have guys cry on something I did.
I do want to show him how much I love him and always will.
I know we can work things out, taking time is what love's all about.
I know Sera that I should wait for marriage and kids and I will I'm just talking about having sex and being on Birth Control.
Sorry for confussing you all[/quote]Again, wait two weeks before making any get back together stuff! Your his yo-yo...he has had you up & down & you have allowed yourself to fall to his behavior...This is sort of like when you work as a VT...do you reward the dog which bit you? Or back up?
I'll do what you suggest[/quote]You have been up and down for days. On and off with going to engage in sex, etc. Yet he has ignored you for sometime. As you said he does not talk to you out of school, etc. Now, he is calling you & crying?
Just back off & cool it for two weeks...seriously KMB, you are going to get hurt. Don't jump just wait. No need to apologize.
[quote=KMB;204641]I know I really agree on how he is treating me.
So I might wait a while and think on what I really want to do and then I will let you know.[/quote]If he loves you, he will give you the time....trust me.;)
I have a feeling he will be my first time and hopefully for a while.
Tim said he wants to be with me forever but I told him I know it's nice to think that and say it but in real life it's got to take time and go slow, and to wait and see what happends in the next 10 years.
Hello sir. Your article is such very nice. but I just don't understand! parents want the best for their children but don't educated them about sex and tell the the disease they can catch but all they tell their children is that sex is bad and not to have it. at last time your thought is too good and I agree with you. thanks for sharing this.
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i lost my virginity when i was 15 to a bloke i didnt even know! i had barely any idea from sex ed and my views were, i wanted to get it out of the way so i know for a good boyfriend what im doing and what its about. now i wish id kept it for my fiance, it wouldve brought us way closer.
That time i had sex for the first time i was intoxicated on alcohol and this bloke was walking me to a bus to go home and i just said once, lets **** and so we did, i was barely conscious. Never used anything, i couldve been in a devastating situation if i hadnt been lucky.
I am 15 years old, and my girlfriend's birthday is in about 2 weeks and she says that she wants 1 b-day prezzy from me... Birthday sex, but I am a virgin and she has had sex twice in her life and she is 16. I am quite self-concious about size, as all/most guys my age are, and so i dont know how enjoyable i can make it with only 4 1/2 inches to work with. Help please! I really need the advice, thanks guys. E-mail me at [email]......com[/email] to make it private and such. Make sure to include that you are responding to the comment i posted on SexInfo101.com please and thanks.
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I notice that a moderator removed your address. It is never a good idea to give out contact information on a public forum. You are inviting all sorts of trouble doing so. Nobody knows who you are so privacy is a non-issue. Other people will be reading this information so the information you receive will also be of benefit to others reading this after you. A forum format also lets those who wish to respond see what has been said.
I recommend that you broaden your overall knowledge by reading all of the articles in the Index a couple of times. Knowledge is empowering. Please begin by reading the very first one on "size". Second, please read this article: Shyness / Confidence / First time issues
Third, read the articles under the heading "SEX e.g. INTERCOURSE".
I recommend that the two of you spend several weeks if not a few months just fooling around and making out {Necking, Petting, Heavy Petting) all before getting to the Foreplay stage. I wouldn't even think about intercourse until you are much older and mature. Take these weeks and work on learning how to arouse each other as well as developing a strong emotional connection between you. Learn all you can about each other physically as well as emotionally, first and foremost; then practice, practice, practice just these things.
Learn all you can about contraceptives and why three forms of birth control are recommended and why. All this is covered in detail. Above all else, never ever try to fool Mother Nature by not wearing a condom or not insisting that she be using some form of contraceptive before engaging in intercourse. You and a partner both need to take responsibility for protecting "Number One"--each of you, and not relying exclusively on the other person. Teens are more apt to become pregnant than at any other time and this is one reason why the triple redundancy is strongly advised.
> I am a virgin and she has had sex twice in her life and she is 16.
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in school all they ever basically taught you was, either don't do it, and if you decide that you're ready to do it, wear a condom and be safe.
when you're young, you don't usually feel comfortable talking to your parents about stuff...especially when it comes to sex. cause most of the time they'll freak out and have a cow and ban you from leaving the house or something or they'll give you the lecture you already got 20 times in health class in school.
i think it's great that people, whether young or old, can have a place to come to to find out about the other things they don't tell you about sex. and to be able to ask questions on boards like this and not be judged on what you're doing.
people just have questions sometimes and they just need answers and as nurse naddy said... "I can't say I've ever known someone worse off for having knowledge."
i'm 14 and i've learned a lOT! they dont teach you anything in school
[QUOTE=Quote (Nurse Naddy @ Dec. 10 2003,12:03)] I can't say I've ever known someone worse off for having knowledge.[/QUOTE]
Excellent statement, Nurse Naddy.
I think this site is a great resource for kids and wish I had something similar growing up. I think kids probably get at least a couple of other things from this site besides just cold, hard facts.
They hear statements that sometimes must coincide with those they have heard from their parents. Things such as "Wait until you are sure you are ready", and "WEAR A CONDOM". I think they are more likely to listen and HEAR for the very reason that we are not their parents.
They also hear a variety of opinions-showing that even adults don't have all this figured out. Maybe when they see that they aren't the only ones unsure in this "whole sex thing", they feel more confident in asking questions. And we are not just preventing pregnancies, we are talking about preventing deaths. No matter what mistakes these teens make in exploring their sexuality, they shouldn't have to die for them.
And, of course, the one that I would know a lot about: There are some questions you can't ask your parents or teachers. I'm talking about being gay. It's still not unheard of for parents to "disown" a child for coming out. And if you are "outed" at school, well, the best you might hope for is harassment and the worst could be death. Then, there is always the chance that keeping the secret could result in death; the gay teen suicide rate is ridiculous-higher than any other group. These kids might not HAVE anyone else to talk to.
So I say keep fighting the good fight, and let's not worry about ages.
I am a strong believer in education of every sense, especially sexual health and education!
Now, being a nurse, that is probably some of my education speaking, but I am also a mother and I talk with my four year old already about age appropriate sexual things in words that he can understand and use.
I don't think it is ever too early. People are going to have sex whenever they want to and the best thing you can do is instill in them the information to make it as painless a process as possible. There is nothing wrong with having well informed kids and teens who understand anatomy and physiology and sex. I also like to include in all sexual education means of sexual communication and open and healthy relationships.
Sex education is not just about teaching children to have sex. It's a learning process about relationships and behaviours which will hopefully instill confidence, courage and understanding in people. I can't say I've ever known someone worse off for having knowledge.
But, out of curiosity, becuase it is a very similar touchy issue, how do people feel about drug education? ie. safe injection techniques, what street drugs are, how they are used, what they do to you, drug smart ideas......
I do agree this site should be put into traffic on other sites. Becuase this is an awesome resource for us teens. It's like "They dont need a site theyll never have sex until they are married." which is all wrong. We will have sex wether they accept it or not. The MTV Fight For Your Rights isnt doing the best either. They are driving people to annoyance with some of their idiotic stuff. Like the guy singing about a condom. Now im a rapper and I find rapping about my dick alot more appropiate. I understand all about condoms and how important they are. But I think that MTV should do better and there should be more forums like this.
[QUOTE=Quote (Jracer @ Sep. 01 2004,21:31)]No one here is dumb or stupid just a bit challanged, even with a strong collage edgumication Im learning on a daily basis.
My point? Simple. Todays watered down schools especially public have little real fact to offer our new generations, most is biased in one way or another and those "good" teachers who say it like it is are offered exceptional packages for an early retirement or shifted to other positions. They are considered a liability and not an asset just like computers over vocational training. One of the first things I learned as a freshman in collage is question everything and this I do well.
My son is now actually 17, a junior in school and very sharp... All parents say that about their kids and rightfully so but Im still that proud parent and that won't change. Just like you guys he knows right from wrong and gives a damn but still makes mistakes like everyone else does. I also know my son is gay and is very happy with his boyfriend of 5+ years and has no plans of window shopping for another, I stand behind him all the way.
Want an open mind? You hold the key
JR[/QUOTE]
I tip my hat to you.
I love the Bush bashing "edjumacation" quote.
I will have to stop with the politics unless you wan't to read a five hour rant.
I need to add that I am stupid Ex. one day I thought pig rhymed with orange, I got an 18 on a Geography final, and I wanted to see what would happen if you drink 2 liters of mustard.
I would also like to point out that (if anyone is offended by this it is my friends opinion and mine) Catholics think the key is the bible and I don't and am very open minded.
[QUOTE=Quote (?wiseman? @ May 07 2003,09:01)]Wow, deja vu. I'd swear I heard Guido's words someplace before.
I agree with all he has to say and would like to add a couple things.
This forum is a valuable source of information for all ages. HOWEVER, it is not a substitute for having open and honest communication with your PARENTS. I know it's tough, (just last night my 9-yr old son asked me what a tampon was) but as a parent I can tell you that our love is unconditional for our kids. We are much more receptive of the idea that a teenager would come to us to discuss questions about relationships and sex, than we are "Mom, Dad, I think I'm (or my girl friend's) pregnant," or taking you to the doctor for a course of penicillin.
Despite all of the great advice and suggestions posted here, there are still occassional posts under the general topic "Could I be Pregnant?" Please understand that no matter how careful you are and how many precautions you take, boyfriends and girlfriends will still count the days to her period.
Ask questions, become informed, but simply because you've read alot about swimming, that doesn't mean you're ready to jump into the surf. Be knowledgeable, but be smart with that knowledge.[/QUOTE]
That reminds me of this one day I was visiting my family (parents and 10 yr old brother) and my brother had a really bad sunburn so he went to my parent's bathroom to get some but he found a box of tampons shoved two up his nose running around saying "Look I'm a walrus!"
[QUOTE=14yroldVirgin]
1. most sex ed classes are crap..[/QUOTE]
this is sooo true. in public school they teach and preach. this was my sex-ed:
protection
intercousre fundamentals
hundreds of pictures of stds
they really should focus on pleasing one another, complications of love, and ... well...important things. most kids know "the basics/stds" long before middle or high school.
weak sauce.
glad to know im not the only 14 year old on the forums here ^_^
im not gonna go and be repetitive with the "school teaches you crap" statement, even if it is true.
but, because of this site, and others ive stumbled upon, i have learned quite a bit, and im glad ive learned what ive learned at my age. like now, i know what the g spot is, instead of the place where you see your friends from down the street (seriously, i used to think that)
and because of sites like this, as well as other kids at school, i realise what to use during intercourse. a steady comdom and possibly spermacides.
my parents never was good at teaching me about sex and other similar topics. a few times when i was around 10, they would catch me masturbating, and when they did, they would start telling me first, that masturbating (and if theres something i cant forget, its that masturbating is perfectly NORMAL and FINE.) is evil and wrong, and that my "pecker" is for a girl when im "much older", including 'the birds and the bees' lecture. because of that, it naturally became harder for me to talk to them, and now, with my mom being my only parent because of my late father's death, talking with her about sex has become something that will never happen.
[QUOTE]if i didnt kno this stuff i would be worrying my ass off about trivial matters such as penis size, and cum coulour..[/QUOTE]
funny, before i got my pre-teen hands on the internet, porn, sex info, etc., i thought that sex occured only in the anus, and that if "white stuff" came out of your penis during masturbation and otherwise, that it meant you were going to have a baby.
i thought id share that memory :P
anyway, im also glad for sites like this one, because as today's society changes more and more and sexual content etc. becomes more easier to obtain, music, internet, etc., its became something you have to know about. also, it seems at school that sex has became something EVERYONE knows about. as well as that, girls at school have already started their career as prostatutes (seriously), and the friends of your girlfriend/boyfriend always want to know if your going to "do it" or if you already have, how was it.
lol, wedensday, my girlfriend came up to me and was telling me how a girl at school was asking her questions all sex related. have you done it yet? when are you moving to your dad's? (a few months ago, i was going to go with her to her dads house in St.Augustine [i live in central Florida] and everyone expected us to have sex because of the certain conditions of her dad's house. to let you know, i never went because she got mad at me the day before and broke up with me lol) has he fingered you yet? (i havent actually fingered her, but the next closest thing) and questions like that. and, its questions like the one the girl asked that make you realize stuff like that is stuff you need to know. for instance, at school, i was offered 2 (two) condoms the week i was supposed to go to her house. the people who offered the comdoms was 2 chicks, one was the chick asking the questions and the other is the twin to my gf's best friend. funny isnt it?
whatever the matter, im glad for sites like these :)
Let me say that, as a victim of a Catholic education, this site taught me about the following:
-what contraceptives are and what kinds are available
-what STD's are, what kinds exist, and the risks of catching them
-what a clitoris is for
Yet somehow, people in my school think that installing childcare facilities is promoting teen pregnancy. I see it as sleeping in the bed that you've made.
The real problem I have is that my school board is publicly funded. It's a deal that's over a century and a half old that was designed to protect the rights of minority Catholics, and is extremely outdated. No matter which way you slice it, it is simply socially irresponsible of the government to refuse to teach kids about contraceptives at all (I'm not kidding, not a thing was mentioned to us about contraceptives), STD's, risks, etc. I didn't even know that a clitoris existed until grade 9, and I really had to find out from the internet what its purpose is. Talk about an unhealthy attitude towards sex.
jeez that sucks.
i kinda learned about sex when i was 5 and figured out the password to the tv channels, and i accidently unlocked playboy :P
Today is my first day visiting this website. Its already shown to be a beneficial resource. If a close friend need help. I will refer them here.
im new to this website, so i hope someone can advise me. My boyfriend and i have recently started experimenting, my question is what would any of you guys recommend i could do, to pleasure him? any advice on this would be greatly appreciated as im a bit shy in this area, not knowing what im supposed to do. Thnx.
lightly touch the area around the bottom of his testicals and behind them with your finger tips. Drives me wild!
I built a magazine and webpage just for teens to be able to ask questions and to read about all things related to drugs, alcohol, sex, and health. Everyone should check it out at:
http://www.dashmag.com
I've got a site as well. HandJob Cafe
We all should be learning about sex and masturbation at an early age. It's nothing to be ashamed of, and if we learn early we only benefit from that knowledge by not having sexual issues/problems later in life.
hey i got question dose sperm cells die when ur seamen drys up like kinda crusty ???
my g.f. wants to have sex however we are both virgins and i want to know what are some good positions that canmake sex that much better especially for her since i got a 5.5 in penis.
can anyone hel p me out???
If you both are virgins...start with the basics. Begin with a missonary position, and just see how it feels to her and to you. For deeper penetration, you stand on the floor and have her slide to the edge of the bed (lying on her back) and put her legs on your chest/shoulders, hold onto her hips and gently penetrate her...if that is too deep have her drop her legs down to the outside of your hips and you can also manually stimulate her clitoral area while you are in her (this is not so awkward). My first time we (both virgins also) were lucky to get him inside of me...just trying to hit the opening was a major ordeal. Leave the advanced positions until a time where you get a rythm going and you both are feeling really good, able to orgasm, and comfortable with each other.
I am not a virgin but my girl is, We have not had sex and probably wont. We dont have sex but we try other things and on multiple occasions i have taken my gf to a point where other girls would b having an orgasm but she wont let me go any further cause she says it "tickles" really bad. Ive nvr heard it explained in this way and since she is unexperienced she doesnt know how to explain what she is feeling to me and she is shy so its hard for her to talk about these things. To explain it better, i only stimulate her clit, i have not fingered inside her yet but i have fingered her clit, given oral, and humped w/o penetration and have brought her to this point. She says it "tickles" so bad that she wont let me go near her genitals after and the rest of her body is very sensitive and receptive to touch, especially her breasts and upper thighs. So...im not sure what to do, if im bringing her to orgasm and then she cannot handle it yet, or if she has already gone through it like a guy and she is just sensitive after, or if this is something else? One other thing is that she explains when i lick on her nipples or kiss her ears and neck that it "tickles" so i have thought maybe this is how she explains the feeling, but i kno that feeling is very much different to how the feeling of being tickled under the armpits, which she says her vagina feels like after we play around.
Hear hear!
There are so many negatives being boadcasted right now on television, adverts and in Sex Edu. Yet never the positives I use a saying here that goes against all reckoning haha.
"I'd rather know how, and not do. Than do and not know."
Sex Education in schools has improved alot over the last 10years but it still has a way to go, until people can be more open with sex and talk bout it there is always going to be this stigma during our youths that sex is intimidating. Far from it, its only as intimidating as you allow it to be, and telling your child or pupils the details about sex will not turn them into a rabid sex mad nymphomaniac.
I thanked the day I found 'self-help' with regards to sex, relationships and the myths, so I also thank SexInfo101.com.
[QUOTE=Abenn26;160886]I am not a virgin but my girl is, We have not had sex and probably wont. We dont have sex but we try other things and on multiple occasions i have taken my gf to a point where other girls would b having an orgasm but she wont let me go any further cause she says it "tickles" really bad. Ive nvr heard it explained in this way and since she is unexperienced she doesnt know how to explain what she is feeling to me and she is shy so its hard for her to talk about these things. To explain it better, i only stimulate her clit, i have not fingered inside her yet but i have fingered her clit, given oral, and humped w/o penetration and have brought her to this point. She says it "tickles" so bad that she wont let me go near her genitals after and the rest of her body is very sensitive and receptive to touch, especially her breasts and upper thighs. So...im not sure what to do, if im bringing her to orgasm and then she cannot handle it yet, or if she has already gone through it like a guy and she is just sensitive after, or if this is something else? One other thing is that she explains when i lick on her nipples or kiss her ears and neck that it "tickles" so i have thought maybe this is how she explains the feeling, but i kno that feeling is very much different to how the feeling of being tickled under the armpits, which she says her vagina feels like after we play around.[/QUOTE]
Quite simply Abenn, your ladyfriend is becoming turned on at this point, or further. So your assumptions are near enough right, the only other reason she may be stopping you from playing/touching her genitals and other sensitive spots is beause she is in a very aroused state and on the verge of cumming. Unfortunately some women have trouble differentiating between tis feeling and the feeling of needing to pee. Hence she may stop you thinking shes about to pee.
Try asking her, find things out. I it turns out that she does have that feeling and you know she does not need to use facilities, coax her a little get her to relax and / or push it out.
You may get lucky and she might 'spurt'. If she enjoys this next time dont let her. Get her to keep a old of her cum for aslong as she can. Keep stopping and starting. The more you do this the more vaginal fluid builds up with greater pressure and then when shereleases the orgasm will be much greater for her.
Then if shes nice she'll return the favor ;)
I reckon that for some teens this site could be a bit too much to handle - but I have definately learnt alot from it and im sure many other teens have. I think it's good it's open to teens. If it's too explicit for some then they won't come back - and that way it's still accessible to those who want to use it.
I am only 14 and this site has given me a lot more insight into sex, relationships, etc. The classes at school has not been very helpful, because the only thing they told us was not to have sex and showed us some pictures STDs. They did not go any deeper into details of anything at all. This site is great for all ages to allow them to learn more info from people with experience.
I understand that I am not ready for sex, and I don't (or my girlfriend) plan on having sex for a while. Although I "want" to have sex, some info on this site has helped me realize that I am not ready yet. I understand much better now that I need to give this some time.
Great Site
[QUOTE=gtchamp7;178664]I am only 14 and this site has given me a lot more insight into sex, relationships, etc. The classes at school has not been very helpful, because the only thing they told us was not to have sex and showed us some pictures STDs. They did not go any deeper into details of anything at all. This site is great for all ages to allow them to learn more info from people with experience.
I understand that I am not ready for sex, and I don't (or my girlfriend) plan on having sex for a while. Although I "want" to have sex, some info on this site has helped me realize that I am not ready yet. I understand much better now that I need to give this some time.
Great Site[/QUOTE]
You ARE DEFINITELY a breath of fresh air!! Read all posts and answers by Dancin'Doc,Brandye,and Sera...take these to heart and remember them! They are your best source of reliable up to date information...in saying that.. I don't mean to exclude some of the other SENIOR members..it's just the names that came to mind..Peace OUT!
Hi, i'm new around here so please take it easy with me :).
i never had the patience to explain some thing to teenagers, they make fun of that.
[QUOTE=hotbabe;182396]i never had the patience to explain some thing to teenagers, they make fun of that.[/QUOTE]
And this is a very good thing since they prove to be alive by doing it… the fun, I mean. Do not forget that our future lays in the balls of the younger generation, man!
Someone help!
Whats the chances of getting pregnet if he wears a condom. its both of our first time and im researching to get all the info i can get. i got till sunday. help!!!!
[QUOTE=pinklady9;189588]Someone help!
Whats the chances of getting pregnet if he wears a condom. its both of our first time and im researching to get all the info i can get. i got till sunday. help!!!![/QUOTE]
well, people like Planned Parenthood and other condom advocates will tell you it's a ridiculously low number like .1% on the other side, people who are so afraid of even talking about sex will tell you it's 10-15%. in truth, it's neither. in between. the most objective studies i've found suggest about a 1-2% chance.
just remember what a condom is. it gets held up as the miracle cure to teen pregnancy and supposedly is the keystone tool in "sexual liberation", but once all the flowery left-wing stuff gets stripped away, it's just a 79 cent piece of latex that's thinner than a sheet of paper. be careful trusting your future to it.
it sounds like some corny thing from american pie, but try doubling them the first time. not only does it virtually guarantee you will not get pregnant, it well let him last longer.
condoms are great, but dont get suckered into all the stuff you hear about "safe sex". there's no such thing. you're having "safer sex". big difference. condoms are not carte blanche
[COLOR="Red">DO NOT DOUBLE UP ON CONDOMS.[/COLOR]
This is not recommended. It is bad advice because the skin of the two will rub together and often cause a breakdown.
Please read this:
Birth Control Failure Rates
speaking as a seventeen year old now,
between all the mush thats been pushed in my face: sex ed at school, commercials and what every adult says.. whats really stuck is "if your gonna do it, use a condom"
having lost my virginity i can't imagine having sex without a condom, its the one thing i've really learned, i think that if i got a girl pregnant ide cut off my... uh.. cut off my marbles!
don't really know so much about individual STIs... everything a woman can get a man can get too... and they're all hell
personally i dont think that i need to be "scared" into using a condom anymore, not that i feel that way, but learning about individual infections and diseases may just do that... (that is something that they aim to do in sex ed @ school... scare people into using condoms, on the account that instincts tell them to respond to fear)
parents should give their children a support system, something to rely on, a life line.
personally, my dad has given me the feeling that i can really on him.
-he says that if i ever have a question about sex, that he can talk to me about it, and show me some of his pornos...
-he has told me that he would rather have me having sex in our home with his knowledge than in my car or on the beach
-he says that if i'm ever at a party and i need a sober driver that i can call him... no matter what time, what the situation, no questions he will pick me up, which i have taken him up on
-before he knew i was going to parties he said that he would like to show me how to drink *ie get me really drunk and throw up so i know my limits* however i never took him up to his offer, partly because i did not feel comfortable to.
And thats exactly the point, even if trustful parents offer the most secure, embarrassment-free, way of talking to them about "growing up," the teenager will probably not make the jump to talk have a three hour conversation about giving oral or what ever it is... but just knowing that there is a lifeline to really on, so they can be safe.
Even though i've never gotten drunk with my dad, or talked to him intimately about the acts of sex, i know that he's totally cool about me having sex.
unfortunately i think that most teenagers are trying to keep their parents from knowing that they are sexually active, or keep them from knowing that they are going to parties which provides an unsafe atmosphere. Teens should know that their parents would rather have them home safe, than drinking and driving, even if their parents had to wake up at two in the morning to drive them home. Teens should know that their parents would rather have them having sex at home than out on th beach.
I hope that all teenagers can make that connection with their parents, and always know that there is something to fall back onto.
we all know that parents want their children to be safe, but i hope that parents realize that TEENS ARE GONNA SNEAK OUT, PARTY AND HAVE SEX REGARDLESS OF WHAT PARENTS SAY... Parents should tell their children that its okay to have sex BUT you should wait till you're married, and its okay to have a drink responsibly BUT you should wait till you're 21, even if you tell them to wait, and to drink responsibly and that they shouldn't really do it, parents should provide a life line.
teens would trust their parents enough to tell them that s/he is having sex with his/her partner, teens would trust their parents enough to tell them that they are going to a party and not be worried about getting grounded.
This way parents know where their children are and teenagers know that there is always a safe place to have sex and that they should never have to make the decision to drink and drive.
Even with that all said
i dont really think that im gonna ask him how he likes to stimulate mom, or what his favorite position is, or how to find the g spot... i just don't feel comfortable asking that, and any teenager who does, i envy them.
and thats why i first came to SI 101, to learn to pleasure my girl :o
because, come on people lets be serious, where else are you gonna learn how to pleasure you sex partner. if its not in school, if its not from your parents, and all porn does is give you a hard on, you cant actually learn jack squat from porn... only jack off
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Hey, I was just wondering if there is a right way for a woman to do it on top? And if there is, please tell..
I'm new and I want to pleasure my boyfriend
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[quote=JCAT;197690]Hey, I was just wondering if there is a right way for a woman to do it on top? And if there is, please tell..
I'm new and I want to pleasure my boyfriend
:)[/quote]Search under topics such as new to sex.
Yeah. This Site Rocks! Tells you about anything! its just great in having a website like this! Keep On Rocking Guys! and a very great salutations for the moderators and the creators of this site!
I know I'm glad I havn't had sex yet cause I'm still having feelings about the guy I'm with but at the same time I hope it happends I trust him and he says he trusts me. I feel safe with him and good with him.
He said he didn't want kids but I'll give him a while until he's a little older and see what happends there same with me I want kids but I'm kind of young and not exactly ready and don't know anything.
I might tell my mom as much as it's emarassing to tell her that I might have to call my Gyn she said I should let her know when I'm ready for sex I should contact and visit her before I do anything.
Of course it's been a while since I've seen my Gyn no matter I'm going to go to her.
At your age it's not uncommon for people to have feeling of not wanting kids; mainly men. When they want to settle down they change their thinking. If you can talk to your mom fine. If not just make an appointment for your annual.
Additionally, do not think that sex+love=marriage + kids.
Oh man, I'm not exactly sure I want to dump him I mean he just called me and he was crying so hard. I hate to have guys cry on something I did.
I do want to show him how much I love him and always will.
I know we can work things out, taking time is what love's all about.
I know Sera that I should wait for marriage and kids and I will I'm just talking about having sex and being on Birth Control.
Sorry for confussing you all
[quote=KMB;204635]Oh man, I'm not exactly sure I want to dump him I mean he just called me and he was crying so hard. I hate to have guys cry on something I did.
I do want to show him how much I love him and always will.
I know we can work things out, taking time is what love's all about.
I know Sera that I should wait for marriage and kids and I will I'm just talking about having sex and being on Birth Control.
Sorry for confussing you all[/quote]Again, wait two weeks before making any get back together stuff! Your his yo-yo...he has had you up & down & you have allowed yourself to fall to his behavior...This is sort of like when you work as a VT...do you reward the dog which bit you? Or back up?
yeah I'm sorry.
I'll do what you suggest
[quote=KMB;204637]yeah I'm sorry.
I'll do what you suggest[/quote]You have been up and down for days. On and off with going to engage in sex, etc. Yet he has ignored you for sometime. As you said he does not talk to you out of school, etc. Now, he is calling you & crying?
Just back off & cool it for two weeks...seriously KMB, you are going to get hurt. Don't jump just wait. No need to apologize.
I know I really agree on how he is treating me.
So I might wait a while and think on what I really want to do and then I will let you know.
[quote=KMB;204641]I know I really agree on how he is treating me.
So I might wait a while and think on what I really want to do and then I will let you know.[/quote]If he loves you, he will give you the time....trust me.;)
Good news
Things are getting much better.
I have a feeling he will be my first time and hopefully for a while.
Tim said he wants to be with me forever but I told him I know it's nice to think that and say it but in real life it's got to take time and go slow, and to wait and see what happends in the next 10 years.
ok i am a virgin girls can you tell me what you like to do and explain it to me to cuz i want to get my gf in bed shes 18 and im 17 so plzz help
Hello sir. Your article is such very nice. but I just don't understand! parents want the best for their children but don't educated them about sex and tell the the disease they can catch but all they tell their children is that sex is bad and not to have it. at last time your thought is too good and I agree with you. thanks for sharing this.
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i lost my virginity when i was 15 to a bloke i didnt even know! i had barely any idea from sex ed and my views were, i wanted to get it out of the way so i know for a good boyfriend what im doing and what its about. now i wish id kept it for my fiance, it wouldve brought us way closer.
That time i had sex for the first time i was intoxicated on alcohol and this bloke was walking me to a bus to go home and i just said once, lets **** and so we did, i was barely conscious. Never used anything, i couldve been in a devastating situation if i hadnt been lucky.
I am 15 years old, and my girlfriend's birthday is in about 2 weeks and she says that she wants 1 b-day prezzy from me... Birthday sex, but I am a virgin and she has had sex twice in her life and she is 16. I am quite self-concious about size, as all/most guys my age are, and so i dont know how enjoyable i can make it with only 4 1/2 inches to work with. Help please! I really need the advice, thanks guys. E-mail me at [email]......com[/email] to make it private and such. Make sure to include that you are responding to the comment i posted on SexInfo101.com please and thanks.
Welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums, I hope you enjoy participating. Please begin by familiarizing yourself with the FAQs, the Posting Guidelines section, and especially the Index, all found at the top of the main screen. The Index, contains links to helpful informative insightful, as well as how-to articles that discuss the most common questions and concerns people ask about. If you click on the site's Home page, you will find even more information.
I notice that a moderator removed your address. It is never a good idea to give out contact information on a public forum. You are inviting all sorts of trouble doing so. Nobody knows who you are so privacy is a non-issue. Other people will be reading this information so the information you receive will also be of benefit to others reading this after you. A forum format also lets those who wish to respond see what has been said.
I recommend that you broaden your overall knowledge by reading all of the articles in the Index a couple of times. Knowledge is empowering. Please begin by reading the very first one on "size". Second, please read this article: Shyness / Confidence / First time issues
Third, read the articles under the heading "SEX e.g. INTERCOURSE".
I recommend that the two of you spend several weeks if not a few months just fooling around and making out {Necking, Petting, Heavy Petting) all before getting to the Foreplay stage. I wouldn't even think about intercourse until you are much older and mature. Take these weeks and work on learning how to arouse each other as well as developing a strong emotional connection between you. Learn all you can about each other physically as well as emotionally, first and foremost; then practice, practice, practice just these things.
Learn all you can about contraceptives and why three forms of birth control are recommended and why. All this is covered in detail. Above all else, never ever try to fool Mother Nature by not wearing a condom or not insisting that she be using some form of contraceptive before engaging in intercourse. You and a partner both need to take responsibility for protecting "Number One"--each of you, and not relying exclusively on the other person. Teens are more apt to become pregnant than at any other time and this is one reason why the triple redundancy is strongly advised.
> I am a virgin and she has had sex twice in her life and she is 16.
Here is another article that should calm your fears about experience:
HELP! S/He is more EXPERIENCED! To which I say:
We are here to help, so after you complete your reading assignment, please do not hesitate to ask questions should you have any. (You might also invite her to read the articles, also, and then discuss what you have learned.)
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