ok well me and my boyfriend have been slightly up and down with non-sex related problems we soon over came them and now because of this sex is 10 times better then ever (and i wasn't aware it could have got much better) we only have sex about once a week because we dont get to see each other to often so i masterbate quite alot when i dont get to see him. the only thing is recently i've lost my drive and i'm not quite sure why, and heres the odd part my drive kicks in perfectly well when i am having sex but when i am having sex nothing, and because of this reaching an orgasm is more like a chore for me (on my own this is whilst having sex it's easy) i've descided the best way for me to try to sort this out would be pehaps to just stop having sex for a while and kind of set my body on a reset to see if after a few weeks i go back to normal. the thing is i'm not quite sure this would be very fair on my boyfriend as we only have sex once a week if i stopped him for a little while longer say 3 maybe 4 weeks would that be really harsh and unfair on him, i dont want to disopoint him if he's really looking forward to it one week or something. what do you guys think?
Fri, 07/27/2007 - 23:43
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sex drive messed up - fair on him?
He will adjust, just tell him the truth and that you need lots of attention before you get in the mood. Did you not just start the pill? If so, give it a few weeks...usually takes until the second/third week if you will see a change. Give yourself a chance.
ok thanks i suposse i should
Cut back on the masturbation. Relax - you're not a machine.
Take your vitamins, make sure to hydrate, get exercise, and think about sex but don't have any - unless it is with him.
Also do more foreplay when you are with him.