I dont really feel to much yet either, i've had sex three times. I think its just because Im not really used to the feeling yet. Just give it some more time.

Well, sexual pleasure is a state of mind. If you're mind is elsewhere, even if he turns you on you probably aren't going to enjoy it. Like, for example, if you are worried about whether the door is really locked or whether your best friend is mad at you or whether your boyfriend is turned on by your body, you are not going to really enjoy sex let alone reach orgasm. Yes, sex for many girls is painful at first and so it may take a while to adjust and get past that to a point where you can enjoy it... but I do have some other thoughts for you.

First off, do you orgasm through masturbation/foreplay? This is the biggest key to whether you will enjoy sex. You can't expect someone else to be able to give you pleasure until you can pleasure yourself. So, if you don't masturbate regularly, start!

How much foreplay do you do before you start to have sex? Sex won't feel that great if you aren't warmed up enough for it. Guys are ready for sex a lot sooner than girls are, so even if he is raring to go that doesn't mean you have to be. Don't worry, you aren't depriving him if you take a couple minutes longer - you're just building the anticipation for him, and getting to a place where it will be good for you. The biggest turn on for most men is having their partner really enjoy what is going on, so he shouldn't mind.

Go slowly and wait until you are dying for sex before you start having sex. I'm not saying a quickie can't be great, but since you are just beginning you'll need to be patient and really get yourself warmed up in order to prevent it from hurting you until you are more stretched out.

If you are nervous around your boyfriend, that is also going to be a big factor. Are you totally comfortable with him? If you aren't, you'll be tense. Since you've already experienced some pain during sex, it's also likely that you will tense up more in anticipation of that pain rather than expecting it to feel good, and that's a vicious cycle. Try to relax and ease into sex.

The other thing I want to say is that there are tons of different positions out there, and each provides different sensations. Since you have had sex so few times, I'm guessing you probably haven't gotten a chance to try very many different positions. Missionary doesn't do that much for me, girl on top does nothing for me, but doggy style I go crazy for because it provides perfect stimulation to my G spot. Other girls love girl on top because you can be in control and find what feels good to you. Since sex is painful for you, you may want to try being on top because you can control how fast and hard the motion is and adjust it so that you are not experiencing pain.

Once you are a little bit more comfortable with sex, you can do more experimentation and figure out what feels good to you. The great majority of girls need clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm during sex, so just becuase you aren't enjoying penetration alone that much doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you. Another reason that doggy style is my favorite position is because it is so easy to reach down and rub my clit - or have my boyfriend do this. He can also play with my breasts, which I really like... so don't be shy about introducing other stimulation. You can even bring sex toys into sex.

Lastly, communicte with each other and find out what each of you enjoys. Bringing fantasy/roleplaying to sex can be a great way to really get into it. Each person has a different idea of what good sex is... so don't be afriad to talk about it and find out what is working and what isn't. Once you can talk openly about sex, I think you'll find that the whole experience improves tremendously.

Good luck, and I hope this was helpful!

"First off, do you orgasm through masturbation/foreplay? This is the biggest key to whether you will enjoy sex. You can't expect someone else to be able to give you pleasure until you can pleasure yourself. So, if you don't masturbate regularly, start!"

I couldn't agree more!
Also, give yourself permission to enjoy it! Pleasure IS good for you!

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First off, do you orgasm through masturbation/foreplay? This is the biggest key to whether you will enjoy sex. You can't expect someone else to be able to give you pleasure until you can pleasure yourself. So, if you don't masturbate regularly, start!

Good luck, and I hope this was helpful![/QUOTE]

and i thought masterbating was bad.

i guess i dont have to be embaressed that i do.

and u no

if u feel weird about doing it

i bet ur partner wuld love it

i no i thought mines wuldnt
but he does!