For the sake of comparison, here's the article on standard (male) condoms:

[quote=plannedparenthood.org]The Basics
Condoms are sheaths of thin latex or plastic worn on the penis during intercourse. And they are available dry or lubricated. Sometimes they are called rubbers, safes, or jimmies. They reduce the risk of sexually transmitted infection. They are also effective over-the-counter, barrier methods of reversible birth control.

How Condoms Work

Condoms collect semen before, during, and after a man ejaculates ("comes"). This can keep sperm from entering the vagina.

Effectiveness

Of 100 women whose partners use condoms, about 15 will become pregnant during the first year of typical use.* Only two women will become pregnant with perfect use.** More protection against pregnancy is possible if condoms are used with a spermicide foam, cream, jelly, suppository, or film.

*Typical use refers to failure rates when use is not consistent or always correct.
**Perfect use refers to failure rates for those whose use is consistent and always correct.

Using the spermicide nonoxynol-9 many times a day, by people at risk for HIV, or for anal sex, may irritate tissue and increase the risk of HIV and other sexually transmitted infections.

They also protect both partners during vaginal and anal sex from sexually transmitted infection. Latex condoms offer very good protection against HIV.

Condoms Work!
In a 1987–91 study of couples in which one partner had HIV, all 123 couples who used condoms every time for four years prevented transmission of HIV. In 122 couples who did not use condoms every time, 12 partners became infected.1

A similar 1993 study showed that using condoms every time prevented HIV transmission for all but two of 171 women who had male partners with HIV. However eight out of 10 women whose partners didn't use condoms every time became infected.2

1Alberto Saracco, et al, "Man-To-Woman Transmission of HIV: Longitudinal Study of 343 Steady Partners of Infected Men," Journal of Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndromes, Raven Press. Ltd., New York: 1993, 6, pp. 497-502.

2Isabelle De Vincenzi, "Heterosexual Transmission of HIV in European Cohort of Couples," European Centre for the Epidemiological Monitoring of AIDS, Paris, France: 1993. Reported in the Morbidity and Mortality Weekly Report, The U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 42(30), August 6, 1993.

And condoms reduce the risk of other sexually transmitted infections, including gonorrhea, syphilis, chlamydia, chancroid, trichomoniasis, HPV, herpes, and pelvic inflammatory disease (PID). Condoms can also protect against vaginitis caused by trichomoniasis or changes in the pH balance of the vagina that can be triggered by semen.

The risk of passing a sexually transmitted infection during oral sex is lower than it is during vaginal or anal intercourse. People who want to further reduce the risk can use condoms during oral sex.

Hormonal, intrauterine, and surgical methods of birth control offer greater protection against pregnancy than condoms, but no protection against sexually transmitted infections. Many people use latex condoms along with another method for the best protection against both pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections.

How to Use Condoms

Handle condoms gently. Store them in a cool, dry place. Long exposure to air, heat, and light makes them more breakable. Do not stash them continually in a back pocket, wallet, or glove compartment.

Lubricate the inside and outside of the condom. (Many condoms are pre-lubricated.) Lubrication helps prevent rips and tears, and it increases sensitivity. Use water-based lubricants, such as K-Y jelly or AstroGlide, or silicone-based lubricants, such as Eros, with latex condoms. Oil-based lubricants like petroleum jelly, cold cream, butter, or mineral and vegetable oils damage latex. . . .

Putting On a Condom

Detailed instructions for correct use are included in the packaging for the condom. Be sure to read and understand them before you use it.

For pleasure, ease, and effectiveness, both partners should know how to put on and use a condom. To learn without feeling pressured or embarrassed, practice on your penis or a penis-shaped object like a ketchup bottle, banana, cucumber, or squash.

Remember — Practice Makes Perfect.
Put the condom on before the penis touches the vulva. Men leak fluids from their penises before and after ejaculation. Pre-ejaculate ("pre-cum") can carry enough sperm to cause pregnancy. It can also carry enough germs to pass sexually transmitted infections.

Use a condom only once. Use a fresh one for each erection ("hard-on"). Have a good supply on hand.

Condoms usually come rolled into a ring shape. They are individually sealed in aluminum foil or plastic. Be careful — don't tear the condom while unwrapping it. If it is torn, brittle, stiff, or sticky, throw it away and use another.

Put a drop or two of lubricant inside the condom.

Pull back the foreskin, unless circumcised, before rolling on the condom.

Place the rolled condom over the tip of the hard penis.

Leave a half-inch space at the tip to collect semen.

Pinch the air out of the tip with one hand while placing it on the penis.

Unroll the condom over the penis with the other hand.

Roll it all the way down to the base of the penis.

Smooth out any air bubbles. (Friction against air bubbles can cause condom breaks.)

Lubricate the outside of the condom.
Taking Off a Condom

Pull out before the penis softens.

Don't spill the semen — hold the condom against the base of the penis while you pull out.

Throw the condom away.

Wash the penis with soap and water before embracing again.

If a Condom Breaks ...
... during intercourse, pull out quickly and replace it. Men should be able to tell if a condom breaks during intercourse. To learn what it feels like, men can break condoms on purpose while masturbating.

...and semen leaks out, wash the semen away with soap and water.

...and semen leaks into the vagina during a woman's fertile period, ask a reproductive health clinician for information about starting emergency contraception within 120 hours.

Advantages

Condoms

let men help prevent pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections

are inexpensive and easy to get

are lightweight and disposable

do not require a prescription

can help relieve premature ejaculation

may help a man stay erect longer

can be put on as part of sex play

can be used with other methods

Sex Play, Pleasure, and the Condom.
Many women and men say they have better sex when they use condoms. They are able to focus on their sexual pleasure without distractions about unintended pregnancy and sexually transmitted infection. Some couples put the condom on as part of their foreplay. Many men stay hard longer when they use condoms.

Special Advantages for Teens —
One out of four sexually active teens has a sexually transmitted infection. Teens are also likely to have more than one partner during their adolescence, which increases the likelihood of getting an infection. Using latex condoms is the best way to protect against infection for women and men of all ages who have sexual intercourse. They are also inexpensive and widely available.

Disadvantages

Some men and women feel that the condom dulls sensation. Others become frustrated and lose some of their sexual excitement when they stop to put on a condom. Some men are self-conscious about using condoms. They feel pressured about having to maintain an erection to keep the condom on. Others feel pressured to ejaculate. Many overcome these pressures and learn to enjoy using condoms by using them during sex play before intercourse.

Special Caution for Teens —
The cervix in pregnant women, young girls, and teen women is especially vulnerable to infection. Even as mature adults, women’s sexual anatomy makes them 10 to 20 times more likely than men to become infected with sexually transmitted infections.

No matter how old you are, it is very important to use condoms with your other method of birth control — whenever you are at risk for getting a sexually transmitted infection.

Side Effects

Condoms have no side effects except for people who are allergic to latex. One to two percent of women and men have such allergies. They may use plastic male or female condoms instead.

How to Get Condoms and What They Cost

Condoms are available in drugstores, family planning clinics, some supermarkets, and from vending machines. They each cost about $0.50, or less. Female condoms cost about $2.50. Some family planning centers give them away or charge very little. The cost in clinics or when authorized by a private doctor is covered by Medicaid in some states.

All condoms are tested for defects. But, like rubber bands, condoms deteriorate with age. If properly stored, they should stay good until the expiration date printed on the wrapper of each condom.

Condoms may be transparent or opaque, tinted, nipple-ended, rippled, studded, contoured, dry, powdered, or lubricated — with spermicide or without. Read labels on "novelty" condoms to be sure they protect against pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections.

Usually, size is not marked on the package. But condoms come in different lengths, widths, and thickness. Try different brands and styles to find out which fits best.[/quote]
That answer your question?

Sounds like a typical guy answer lol
No its not crazy to want to use both.. no one method is 100%!
Plus pills do not help w/ STDs.
Just stick to your guns... trying different positions... and lubes .. can help.

The woman's body gets pregnant. She has the call. Every woman around has been through the pressure to go bare. If he insists, that is a lack of respect for you and you should not have time for him.

He can manage. Most guys worry about not lasting long enough, anyway.

I actually prefer condoms cuz I sometimes have a hard time getting+staying wet. My man can deal, yours can if he's worth it.

well he should not have a problem getting off with a condom, just sounds like exscuses and he thinks he is doing you a big favour well he is not

I suggest to not use condoms. and you take the unpregnant pills...I think that would be very pleased for you both.

it is important to use condoms for sure but I don't know what is the history of your boyfriend or yours . if you guys were both virgins when you first started having sex then just the birth control pills are good(if you take them every day at the same time). I'm in a monogamous relationship and i don't have to worry about std's as i know i'm clean and so is my girlfriend.

[sigh]
No one form of birth control is 100% efficient. Make sure you have double or triple redundancy. Condoms help stop the transmission of STDs. The pill has no effect on STDs. Use a condom with spermicide at the very least.

In my opinion, it's not at all unreasonable to expect him to use a condom. Aside from the preganancy issue, it's provides some STD protection.

Unless he's pretty unusual, he's not going to have any problem "completing." As someone else noted, it might actually improve things if he takes longer.

Sort of a sideways thought: one possiblity might be to use "female condoms." They're marketed in the US under the brand name "FC." I haven't personally used one, but they look interesting.

http://www.femalehealth.com/theproduct.html

Last I heard, female condoms are much less efficient than the standard male variety.

How do you mean "efficient"?

More likely to break?

On the anti-pregnancy side - so long as they don't, of course, break - either would seem to work. On the STD side, they female ones look like they actually could be better, as there's seems to be no direct contact at all, while ordinary condoms can allow some contact past the end.

As I mentioned, I've never used them and don't know a ton about them, but they look interesting and I'm kind of curious about them. If they break a lot ... well, then, that's not a good thing.

[QUOTE=plannedparenthood.org]The female condom is a reversible barrier method of birth control. It is a polyurethane (plastic) pouch with flexible rings at each end. It is inserted deep into the vagina like a diaphragm. The ring at the closed end holds the pouch in the vagina. The ring at the open end stays outside the vaginal opening.

How the Female Condom Works
The female condom collects semen before, during, and after ejaculation and keeps sperm from entering the vagina.

How Well the Female Condom Works
Of 100 women who use female condoms, 21 will become pregnant during the first year of typical use. Five will become pregnant with perfect use.

The female condom reduces the risk of many sexually transmitted infections, including HIV.

How the Female Condom Is Used
Detailed instructions for correct use are included in the packaging for the female condom. Be sure to read and understand them before you use it.

To insert the female condom, lubricate the closed end. Squeeze together the sides of the inner ring at the closed end of the condom and insert it into the vagina like a tampon. Push the inner ring into the vagina as far as it can go — until it reaches the cervix. Withdraw your finger and let the outer ring hang about an inch outside the vagina.

During intercourse, movement of the condom from side to side is normal. Stop intercourse if the penis slips between the condom and the walls of the vagina or if the outer ring is pushed into the vagina. If ejaculation has not occurred, gently remove the condom from the vagina, add extra lubricant, and insert it once again.

To remove the female condom, squeeze and twist the outer ring to keep semen inside the pouch. Gently pull it out of the vagina. Throw it away. Do not flush. Do not reuse.

Advantages of Female Condoms

Once learned, insertion is easy, and female condoms

allow women to share responsibility for preventing infection
are very easy to get — can be purchased in drugstores and some supermarkets
can be inserted by a partner as part of sex play
can be used by people who are allergic to latex
can be used with oil-based as well as water-based lubricants
do not have an effect on a woman’s natural hormones
may enhance sex play — the external ring may stimulate the clitoris
do not require a prescription
stay in place whether or not a man maintains his erection
Special Advantages for Teens — Many teen women have vaginal intercourse only now and then. Many of them prefer to use over-the-counter methods on those occasions. That way they avoid the possible, ongoing side effects of prescription methods.

Who Can Use the Female Condom
Female condoms can be used by just about any woman who can use a tampon. This method may not be appropriate for women who are not comfortable touching their genitals or who may have other problems with insertion.

Possible Disadvantages of Female Condoms
Some women may notice vaginal irritation using the female condom. It may slip into the vagina during intercourse. The outer ring may irritate the vulva. The inner ring may irritate the penis. Some people say that feeling is reduced. Others say that it is noisy.

How to Get Female Condoms and What They Cost
The female condom is available at family planning centers, drugstores, and in some supermarkets. Nationwide, a female condom costs about $2.50. Costs vary from community to community, based on regional and local expenses.[/quote]
Female condoms. The post was split into two so as not to be over the maximum word limit.