I have a new sex buddy, friend turned into a sex with added benefits;) i now find that i get very bored with having sex with her tho sex is sex with her its boring my attempts at spicing thing up haven't worked...I do not how to go about tell her straight up i want out also if i do tell her don't know what to do when i need me sum in future as i become used to her?(maybe i am to blame)...But any suggestions as to how to handle the situation ? :confused:
Mon, 11/01/2010 - 16:13
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I do not know--probably eHarmony or Match.com.
aren't those more like actual dating sites instead of sites where you look for people just to have a good time with? But I guess you could use eharm or match.com as a place to find just people to sleep with as well?
You are correct.
You had asked if anybody would use an internet site to find a person--I took it upon myself to expanded your question to include someone simply interested in dating.
Interesting. What site did she go on? I was thinking about making an account on Fuckbook.com but not try to go for anyone. Just look at what's happening for the time being.
Idk why I discredit the internet as a valuable resource for dating or just finding a fuckbuddy. I somehow feel that using the internet is for desperate ppl and that there are a lot of hoes on these types of sites. This mostly likely isn't the case since I'm no hoe nor desperate yet intrigued by these sites.
My question is, would anyone here go on a website to find a fuck buddy? I see those ads all the time on this site its hard to not think about giving it a try. Just wanted to see if anyone has done it and what their experience has been or what ppl's thoughts are on the idea.
I have a great friend who recently searched one of these sites and was thoroughly disappointed. It wasn't that she didn't get any replies. It wasn't that there wasn't some initial interest. In all cases the men who replied were 30-50 miles away and none wanted to travel these distances in order to meet her!
My position on the matter is to keep the distance within a 60 mile range. This is manageable and certainly worthwhile. I certainly do not recommend trying to establish a relationship with anybody further away and certainly not someone living across country!, yet people do this, and it comes across as being desperate.
Being "sex buddies" implies that the relationship is based mainly, perhaps entirely, upon sex. Sex is great and many of us have little lists for booty calls. But, sex is not something upon which to base a relationship. What you are experiencing is something like "you are getting laid but what else is there?" The issue will be cleared up by either the two of you developing more common interests or by you finding someone with whom you have greater compatibility with sex to follow.
Even those who are deeply committed find slow moments in their sexual relationships. Without wider interests to keep them going, the relationship slowly (or rapidly) dies. Chances are that she is feeling something similar; hopefully neither of you has become dependent.