Yes, you just up the game gradually as he becomes accustomed. There's no need to rush, hun. Do NOT go in full-bore to see how much he can take - that will only set him back and you'll have to begin all over again.

It is not simply a matter of number of times ejaculating without losing erection. Most of us have had multiples there (three times in one condom without withdrawing and none times is two hours) but you focus on intense stimulation right after ejaculation. There is a difference. If he proceeds at his pace, it will work. If you do not allow a bit of time to pass the hypersensitive phase, varies with each man, you will end it right there.

OMG! You people have NOT been listening.

I do precisely this all the time and most men LOVE it..after they've trained their brains to handle the extra stimulation which takes a while since most men think "shoot, nap" much to the disgruntlment of the ladies involved.

Just as women can become multi-orgasmic so too can most men. It just takes practice.

1. hydration to the max must be done beforehand
2. he has to breathe properly - deep, slow, calm - no panting
3. he has to RELAX everything which requires a certain level of trust
4. You, the lady in question, MUST begin with 'ghosting' and work slowly up from there over multiple sessions before you can move onto actually doing fellatio or subsequent intercourse with his 'used' but erect penis

The process is the same but men require a longer training period to achieve the same level since they're not built the same way.

Now if he is one of those men who simply cannot retrain their brain, you will have to use the The Program with intervals of Body Worship during his refractory period to get him re-erect.

BTW tying him down can be just one wrist, a dog leash and the leg of the bed - the effect is much the same even if he can 'get away'.

Whether or not it's painful or pleasurable will vary from person to person and from encounter to encounter. Be sure to communicate like suggested previously. I believe EEK also made a post within the last couple months regarding this situation - the word protoplasm comes to mind and you might have success finding it by googling

+protoplasm +evilevilkitten site:sexinfo101.com

A partner has tried something similar with me a few times and either her or my muscles end up cramping or just giving out so be sure to stay properly hydrated. Somewhere along the line after a lot of orgasms my penis will still be fine, but the muscles around my anus will get tired of flexing so much and will just lock up and while not terribly painful, it is right next to everything else so it's too distracting for other things to feel good. Perhaps include a perineal massage. Also while you may get faster orgasms out of tighter grips and increased pace, over a prolonged period of time that will just lead to numbness and quite a bit of soreness for the next few days afterwards so perhaps focus more attention on all other parts of the body along the way.

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I've had an idea and I was looking for some opinions. I'm thinking of playing out a fantasy where I tie him down and after he ejaculates I just keep sucking/riding/jerking him until he passes out or his penis does. Just wondering if there is any harm in this and if this idea is worth a shot.[/QUOTE]

Many men experience heightened sensitivity in the penis and scrotum after ejaculation and do not desired to be touched or stimulated immediately afterward. If your guy is still erect after ejaculation try kissing and cuddling, carressing some part of him other than his genitals. After a few minutes he will probably be able to withstand some genital stimulation. If you want to work him over until he or his penis surrenders go for it ---BUT if you are thinking about tying him or otherwise restricting his movement talk to him about this beforehand. In this sort of sex the "tied one" is not really a captive, but it is of paramount importance that he consent to being "bound." If that is the route you want to go and he is agreeable you should...

Read the Safe word sticky
http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/new-sex/26588-what-safe-word-choosing-us...

and watch the following instructional video. This is the absolutely safest tie that you can use ona person and is easy to undo. You don't have to use rope- scarves, old neckties, old hose or pantyhose work great. If you do feel the need to use rope soft cotton rope or the soft polypropylene found in stores like the evil Wmart are fine. Oops here's the link
[url=http://www.twistedmonk.com/video/02-SingleLimbCuff.html]02-SingleLimbCuff
Of course you don't have to bind him. You could just say stay, don't move or don't resist in a firm voice.

There is no harm in trying to suck, ride or jerk him or his penis into submission. The greatest harm would most likely be soreness; in extreme circumstances a urethral irritation. If jerking is course you take be sure to use lots of lube:)

As a man I would have to agree with Brandye and would have used the same example and asked if you think it feels good for him to continue clitoral stimulation after you have had a strong orgasm. You may already have your answer if he doesnt want to be touched for 15 minutes. The only way I see this fantasy working is make sure he is okay with trying and you must have the same hard and fast stimulation all the way through the orgasm. Still remember though the stronger his orgasm is the less his penis can take it. The pc muscles will just be too fatigued to continue. I have had this done to me with oral. My first orgasm was normal, not too strong but not quick and weak. She continued sucking after I came and after a minute or so the stimulation went back down to a normal amount for a bj.

Not having a penis I cannot tell you what he feels. Consider that after a world moving orgasm your clitoris becomes hypersensitive and you tolerate no further stimulation for a few minutes. In fact for most most women, further stimulation becomes unpleasant and can undo all the good you have just achieved. You may be running the same risk with him.

Teasing stimulation is one thing; teasing torture is quite another.

[QUOTE=CupGirl;275428][COLOR="blue"> First a little info about our sex life. We have also have tried light bondage with the tying on the hands or a soft spanking device. My fiance and I have been using the program since the spring and he is multi-orgasmic when he rides the edge. He is 26 and uncircumcised if that matters.[/COLOR]

Having an uncircumcised penis simply means that he has a great many more nerves (because of the Foreskin) all of which (including those in the Glans) that are much more sensitive and responsive than those located in the Glans of a penis that has had the Foreskin removed. This is because the Foreskin covers and protects the Glans. For those of us who have been circumcised, these nerves have become dulled over time due to exposure to the elements and from rubbing against clothing.

[COLOR="blue">So would I just simply up the situation slowly over a couple of weeks until I stimulate him orally or by intercourse since we have been practicing The Program and Body Worship for a while? Would it be inadvisable to go at it the first time to see how much stimulation her can take?[/COLOR]

Why would it be "inadvisable" to see how much stimulation he can take? Isn't this the objective? Begin as soon as you want. This afternoon? Evening?? Tomorrow morning? No need to wait two weeks at this point since you two have already been stimulating each other orally and/or manually.

It is important to understand that guys become much more aroused when in the company of a partner than when home alone taking matters into their own hands. This is because of the pheromones and "sparks" flying between you. So expect that you will be able to turn him on to a much greater degree than what he can do alone. This is for starters. If you have been reading the articles listed in the Index then you probably know that it is important for the two of you to work with each other on how to work your hands when it comes to stimulating each other by mimicking your partner's movements and techniques all the while providing verbal or non-verbal feedback on how you are responding and for what you need now/next.

It is also important to understand that while you can stimulate him a lot more, it may not be the path required for him to achieve a climax. So when this occurs, you will have to back, off let him slide down his arousal curve somewhat, and then you will have to mimic his technique when it comes time for him to climax.

[COLOR="blue">Just as a fun question what is the most number of times you've gotten a man to ejaculate before he lost his erection?

Thanks again[/COLOR][/QUOTE]

Erections come and erections go, much of the time as if by whim. A person's age and how he is "wired" also enter into the equation. So, you may find that during one session he loses his erection soon after ejaculating, yet at another time his erection will maintain. You cannot predict what will happen.

The question to ask instead is "how many ejaculations can he have during one session {multiple orgasms)". I understand that it may be fun to keep your guy going time and time again in quick succession; however, while this may happen occasionally, more often than not, you will have to wait for two situations to pass. First, waiting for his hyper-sensitivity to go away; second, for his refractory {down time) period to pass. This can be anywhere from several minutes to half an hour for younger males. **

Again, depending upon age, "wiring", inherent sex drive, and how many orgasms he has had in the past 24 hours, he may be able to conjure up only one, perhaps two or three more. A young boy just out of puberty might be able to have half a dozen orgasms for a few months. Each additional multiple in the string will require more effort to trigger, and, with each, the volume of semen will be less than the one before. The intensity of each will also be less and less, although not necessarily less enjoyable. At some number his body will simply refuse to respond for several hours.

Please read the articles listed in the Index and work together in partnership in order to learn how best to please and pleasure each other.

** It is incorrect to believe that if a man's erection subsides that lovemaking is over. WRONG. Rebuild it! Women love to watch her man's endowment grow in her hands. Women also love to use the shaft of his penis as both a brake and throttle over which she controls his speed and progress toward an eventual orgasm. Such control--such fun.

Variety is spice, so too are spontaneity and unpredictability.
-doc

doesn't sound like a bad idea, but you might want to find out how he feels about being tied up before actually doing it (ask him a couple of days before going through with your plans). And be gentle on him. If you're unlucky, continued stimulation might just make him lose his erection.

good luck :)