my girlfriend and i haven't done anything for about a month now(oral sex) and everytime i try she doesn't want to how can i change this and how can i set the mood to make her want to do it. She used to love it and i especially loved it, but if it means just me doing it to her thats fine i just need advice on how to get her to want it still.
Thu, 03/30/2006 - 00:57
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Setting the mood
Talk to her, and ask if there is a problem...is she near her period...or just got done? Has there been any great stress on her lately? Anything out of the ordinary. There are hundreds of possible reasons for her to not be interested in sexual things...just trying to make her comfortable and happy (however you can) is my advice. Sorry.
i'm with Lacka on this one, its not so much about how to get her in the mood, but to discover the underlying issues and hopefully feel closer afterwards, and then things should settle in ... :)
im experiencing a simiilar problem with my bf , we havent talked a whole lot about it but i know a major problem is that his father is dying so that has been hard on us in more than just the physical way, and well im a teacher and the end of the semester is coming so ive been up all night a few times correcting papers and what not, sothat doesnt help... all that to say that there could be something going on that needs to be talked about openly without judgement... at worse case scenario, i rememeber with my previous bf of almost 5 years i started to withdraw from sex because i felt the relationship wasnt going well, but hopefully its nothing like that in your case, but the only way to start to get a clearer pic is to talk openly, ... which is not always easy, depends on if you're used to doing that or not, but best of luck to you... fluff....