My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year now and we both had all of our first sexual experiences with each other. We were both comfortable and felt totally ready with the things we did and had good communication but we have yet been unsucessful with finishing me off. We love each other and have a strong, wonderful relationship but I'm beginning to feel like im broken or I just don't work like all my other girlfriends. This whole thing sounds very silly to me but it's actually begun to stress me out and I feel unsatisfactory for my boyfriend. I also don't want him to give up on me and i feel like he's getting discouraged and just doesn't care about my sexual pleasure like he used to. I also feel like I put more effort into getting him off then he does for me. I just don't know what to do or say anymore. Does this happen to other people or am I some kind of mutant. Also any advice on what to try together or say or anything would be greatly apreciated.
Thanks alot everyone who takes the time to read and respond,
Anna.
Tue, 10/10/2006 - 02:25
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Serious Problem with Female Orgasam
Many women (including me) can't have an orgasm just by vaginal intercourse. Seeing as you are both trying everything for the first time together you just may need to do some more experimenting.
Even though my husband has way more experience than I do he has often gotten frustrated when I cant have a vaginal orgasm. I can only orgasm through clitoral stimulation.
If your boyfriend wants to try he shouldnt give up on you.
Every womans body is different and responds to many different stimulations. My husband even with all of his experience had to learn hjw to please me differently than he had to other women.
So just keep trying different things and make sure that when he is doing something right to let him know. Communication is the key.
You also need to relax because if you are thinking in your head "I can't orgasm," you won't.