Hello my name is Leigh and the question I want to ask is that my helmet becomes really sensitive when I come and afterwards. If my girlfriend is giving me a blowjob or something when I come it becomes so sensitive I want my girlfriend to slow down but she really enjoys carrying on and staring at my face while she sucks or rubs it more. I've been watching porn and it seems a lot of women like carrying on even if the guys making weird noises and twitching. Are all women like this :) :confused:
Fri, 12/05/2008 - 00:22
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Sensitive helmet during and after cumming
One, stop watching porn it's not a depiction of real life sexual encounters.
Two, No not all women carry on this way since often many do since they feel they are supposed to [lack of knowledge or they got too much from porn].
Three, all men are different as far as sensitivity & the types of pressure they enjoy during stimulation, during orgasm, or post-orgasm.
Four, teach through showing her what you DO like since communication between the two of you make for better lovers.
Fifth, be certain to discuss this in a positive manner; such as "I love it when you do X, it feels so good". "You know what would really get me going more is if you did Y; I'd love that". "Let try this next time and see what happens honey". Be encouraging since recall women do wish to please their men! She most likely believes she is & often sexual tastes [preferences] changes when we evolve through time. So, don't hurt her feelings. How would you feel if she said "I cannot stand it when you do X" and was defensive or annoyed while she stated it? Keep it in mind & good luck.
***Additionally, I do hope you are both monogamous & have been tested for STD's since you are not using a condom & she is subjecting herself to whatever you have been exposed to.
Both the glans penis (in men) and the clitoris ( in women) get very sensitive just before orgasm and this lasts a few minutes after climax.
Men, generally, at the point seem to push deep and hold still while they ejaculate. In doing a blow job, women can replicate this by holding still, gently stretching skin down the shaft and simply hold a vacuum on the head. Even moving the tongue can put some men in pain.
Very, very few women carry on as you see in porn. Porn is made primarily for men's egos to suggest that we women adore what you do for us. Maybe so but not for the reasons implied in those gross depictions.
She looks at you while doing fellatio? Why? Thinks she might have gotten hold of the wrong guy? "Ooopps sorry, I thought you were him." Forgot what you looked like? Or is the idea of looking at what she's "eating" too much for her?
You see what you let yourself in for when you do/talk/watch pornography?
[QUOTE=Leigh;230047]... helmet becomes really sensitive when I come and afterwards. If my girlfriend is giving me a blowjob or something when I come it becomes so sensitive I want my girlfriend to slow down but she really enjoys carrying on and staring at my face while she sucks or rubs it more. I've been watching porn and it seems a lot of women like carrying on even if the guys making weird noises and twitching. Are all women like this :) :confused:[/QUOTE]
It is normal for the helmet, also known as the glans penis or simply glans to become more sensitive after orgasm. The same is true of the scrotum or other parts of the body. Some men may experience this more than others and some not at all.
Women look at men's faces during fellatio because they enjoy our facial expressions while we are in the throes of ecstasy. It makes them feel powerful and successful, in a sexual way. Many men enjoy having their women look them in the eye during any sort of sex which allows eye contact.
As far as the "weird noises and twitching" in the porn films, ummmmm I am going to guess that if it is not real it is someone's representation of the throes of ecstasy.:)
If continued stimulation of the glans after a BJ orgasm is too intense you should just tell her. It might be a good idea to talk about it while you are not having sex.
If she likes to continue working on you orally even after you have reached orgasm she is a real gem and you should appreciate her and take advantage of her seemingly good intentions. You could experiment together on what is good. Ask her to stimulate other parts: your penile shaft, your scrotum, your abdomen or whatever you think might feel good.
If you feel that you just can't take any more stimulation, pull her gently to your face, kiss her, hug her, nuzzle her neck, tell her how good she is and how happy she makes you, etc. I can't imagine her resisting that.
Sorry but I like paying attention to what I'm doing. The position "feeding off the male" is powerful enough - one snap of my jaws *EG* - ow, baby!, I don't need to see his face (that comes later on during the proceedings).
<--the ever wicked.
I suppose I am going to have to tell her. The thing is she definately enjoys it and I don't want to make her angry because she is a really cool girlfriend. By the way I don't watch that much porn, I was watching it to get some tips but doing it for real is much better :D
I have never seen anything in the (very limited) porn movies that I have seen that was anywhere near as exciting or cool as 99.99% of the real life sex encounters I have had.