My girlfriend was always nervous about oral sex both giving and getting. She had some kind of mental block, I'm thinking alot was self-consciousness and she's a big feminist and sees the idea as a rather historically dominated by and for men.
So anyway, yesterday I get her really worked up and then I go down on her for the first time, totally unplanned but somehow worked my way there, and I really enjoyed giving it, and she enjoyed it very much. However, I don't think she believes me that I like the smell and taste. I really do, and I don't know how to convince her. Its important for me that she believe me on this one so she can more fully enjoy it mentally, not worrying about me "suffering" through it, which I am totally not.
Any suggestions on how to asuage her self-consciousness about how I like it down there. Cause I really do.
"Oh, you taste sooo good!" said with enthusiasm and eagerness for more of the same should do it. And instead of thinking of oral sex on him as being anti-feminist - suggest she look on it as "feeding off the male".
Thanks, I have told her many times, and hint to it quite a bit that I really like it down there. I will definately continue on trying to get the point accross. Perhaps it may be more evident if I show eagerness to go down there. Which I have. lol In terms of her deciding to give oral, I think I have a chance because she is attracted to me down there and is open minded generally and has really gotten like a sexual awakening since starting to date me. So maybe.
I have to admit the first few times, I felt the same, I grew up w/guys and heard the regular "jokes". Just keep doing it and tell her how much you enjoy it, and tell her why you like it; taste, smell, etc.
A friend of mine compared sex with out oral to dinner with out a salad
[QUOTE=oxox;164078]A friend of mine compared sex with out oral to dinner with out a salad[/QUOTE]
Well that explains something I've been wondering about for a few years...while France I noticed the French eat their salad AFTER dinner...LMAO
From a feminist point of view, with oral, she has a lot of control over her male partner. She can give him a little oral and move on, or go all the way and finish him off. Either way he will be putty in her hands by just that one little thing. He is happy either way and she has total contol over how that goes. With her recieving oral, she gets all the attention focussed on her and gets some extreme individual pleasure. Sure the guy loves it too and may get more out of it than her, but it is totally directed at her to make her feel great and hopefully to O from the whole session. Don't give up and you both will be happy.
you could make it habit to taste her like dipping your fingers in her **** and then licking and sucking your finger. do it unexpectedly. just go fondle her and then whisper to her that you crave for her taste then try to dip your fingers in her and show her how much you like her taste. do it often enough that you really are honestly craving for her taste. i had one boyfriend who did this to me although i have no reservations about oral sex at all but it was such a turn on and sweet. we'd be shopping or in the car or inside the house doing housework etc and then he'd whisper that he misses me and then gets his fingers on my pussy, plays on my clit for a bit and i get wet (i get sooo wet i'm easily stimulated) and he'd dip his fingers in me and then lick them clean. of course, we'd be discreet about it in public there are ways to 'shadow' the action and it feels so sexy and a turn on to be doing it in 'public'.