why do you think its disgusting? is is just the thought of the whole act or a specific part?

A few thoughts:

- You think it's disgusting to put your fingers in there, but you're okay with sticking your penis in? That seems kind of strange. I can think of lots of places I'd be a lot more comfortable putting my fingers (behind the referigerator, for example).

- If you won't even touch her down there ... um, yeah: that's probably going to be a problem. I'm not sure how, exactly, you'd get beyond "second base" if you don't.

- I don't think it's all that unusual to be hesitatant about performing oral on a woman. However, I think that generally, when guys do first try it, they find that it's actually quite nice.

You sound quite young!

Come back in another 10 years and I bet you will have a different attitude! :D

I guess I shouldn't be dismissive, as everyone has hangups of some kind, and most of them don't make any "logical" sense.

I suppose I'd take it one step at a time. Don't even think about the oral part now. Just worry about overcoming the "fingering" problem. Go slow. Maybe just look at it first (if this girlfriend will cooperate), and see that it's not dirty or weird.

[QUOTE=sparco;155628]You sound quite young![/quote]
That occurred to me too! But, I clicked the "See all posts by ..." link, and he says in another post that he's 19. Which is young in some contexts, but shouldn't be in this one.

[quote]Come back in another 10 years and I bet you will have a different attitude![/QUOTE]
That might be a really long ten years!

[QUOTE=477duh;155627]im not really sure i just dont think i will be able to do that the thought of both giving oral and fingering just makes me feel sick and i dont want to do it, is anyone else like that or am i crazy? its not her its just the idea[/QUOTE]

Do you like the idea of having intercourse?

[QUOTE=477duh;155636]yeah i do but i just dont like the idea of putting my face or fingers in there never have it makes me feel sick when i see that[/QUOTE]

But do you get "excited" at the thought of putting your penis in there?

I guess we're all just puzzled as to why you have no problems sticking your penis into an orifice that would sicken you if you stuck your finger in there.

Forget about the oral for now. But bottom line is if you can't touch a vagina, you (and her) are going to have problems. You need to figure out where this disgust came from.

Have you had a bad past experience? Something in your childhood? Are you not heterosexual? Something doesn't add up....

Yeah this seems odd.. Maybe you dont think it's weird or something because you won't be getting any stimulation from fingering/performing oral? Maybe this is why intercourse doesnt seem bad? cause it would feel good?

To me doing oral on my wife is awesome. It turn's her on something fierce and I love to do it.I get just as turned on as her when I do it to her.

[QUOTE=James77;155663]To me doing oral on my wife is awesome. It turn's her on something fierce and I love to do it.I get just as turned on as her when I do it to her.[/QUOTE]

I enjoy doing it as well. But some guys don't like to do it.

I'm more baffled about his disgust over just touching her there.

Im with the others... oral is one thing... and definitly a personal preference... but a girl probably wont feel too good about herself if a guy thinks her vagina is disgusting. We already have enough pressure and are paranoid about smell and taste... but touching it shouldn't be a problem...like ua322 said... if its good enough for your penis.. it should be for your fingers :P

I thought guys liked the feeling and idea of reaching down a girls panties and feeling that she's hot and wet... meaning that she's really turned on!!!!

Could also be just a maturity level... same as when you are young.. and you think the opposite sex is gross... but once you reach that certain peak... its all you can think about!

Weird.. What is that makes it disgusting to you, Look, feel, etc? I'm with demon, I love sliding my hand down their pants and feeling a warm, wet vagina.

hmm im lil bit younger then him and i love doing this. i also love the taste

477DUH, what do you think about French kissing?

You may just have to take it slow. If it isn't appealing, I don't know anything that will immediately change that. If you are young, you may not be ready for it. Identify why you don't like it so you can change if you want. Getting good information about the whole thing may also help change your mind.

I love the feel and excitment of sliding my hand down a girls pants and over her bush. With a little more stimulation from me and then the feel of her natural juices coming out are marvelous. By the way, the fluid is nothing to be afraid of. Nothing in them that could harm you. Then just feeling the warmth and softness as I slip a finger is is just so nice. Then to see her response is an added bonus. Even as a teenager, one girlfriend would allow me to finger her. I also learn to appreciate the odor she left on my fingers. Even after leaving and going home, I would continue to savor the smell. That is probably one reason I didn't mind giving oral the first time. And would hate to give that up. Much more pleasant to go down on my woman with my mouth and to taste and smell her there is great. I really love the taste of my woman. She loves the feel of oral and really gets off with it. That is what has also made her relaxed so she returns the favor to me. She loves getting in a 69 position so we both get added pleasure from each other and the sense of giving at the same time.

If it doesn't happen for you, just know you will be missing a great part of sex.

well do you think she will find giving you oral disgusting ? start with fingers theres nothing there that wil hurt or harm you

I HATE getting oral from a guy. And I've had it from a few cause I thought that just maybe they weren't good at it, but yeah. I just plain don't like it.

However,...being fingered is one of my favorite things. seriously,..more than sex. So, you might wanna get over that one buddy. It's not gross I've never met a guy who after doing it thought it was gross,.. so my advice, just go ahead and freaking do it and then decide if you like it or not.

So you don't like french kissing, fingering, oral... I just have to say that is beyond weird. Do you like women, vagina?

[QUOTE=curly;155803]So you don't like french kissing, fingering, oral... I just have to say that is beyond weird. Do you like women, vagina?[/QUOTE]

I think he would be better off just avoiding sex and women altogether. Just get some hobbies and avoid the whole issue.

hm yea photography can get time consuming so that might be a good pass time for him

What an unfortunate aversion to aquire...

Maybe you need to see someone for this. An aversion to fingering or oral is pretty serious as far as a healthy sexual relationship goes. I don't see too many woman being happy with you in the future :(

However, I have known a girl with the same issue, she considered any sex other than straight up intercourse to be 'dirty', but I believe that was more in a moral sense... To each their own I guess.

by the way your not religeously influenced are you ? unfortunately religeon rather uses sex to control people in as much as we are made to feel guilty of receiving pleasure from sex and so that coud fire up some aversions a long ingrained beleif or moralistic teaching that actually has no real value at all except what you wish to give it