...see one of my female friends naked. I don't want to do anything with her, I'd just really like to see her naked. We've been pretty close friends for about 10 years, and I think she'd be OK showing her body to me.
Is it OK to just ask her if I can see her naked?
No its not!
You would be putting a very good friend in a very awkward position.
If she says yes your treating her like an object.
if she says no, then you will just have very strange vibes.
Or what if she does do it and it stirs up feelings between one of the two.
she may take the opportunity to come on to you, you may take the opportunity to come on to her.
some lines are not worth crossing mate.
friends may get drunk and/or lonely and up screwing, its not the healthiest of actions but its a mutual natural occurrence. this is different this is just a very selfish very degrading proposal.
and once you see her naked you will lose your fantasy and the attraction and apeal will be very much so lost.
"The unreal is more powerful than the real. / Because nothing is as perfect as you can imagine it. / Because it's only intangible ideas, concepts, beliefs, fantasies that last. Stone crumbles. Wood rots. People, well, they die."
quote by Chuck Palahniuk from the fiction novel "choke"
This is the a classic case of mixing a male fantasy with wishful thinking and in the real world the two rarely if ever materialize together.
haha, funny story.
I had the same feeling for my friend of about 5 years. Really wanted to see what was under that shirt. So I decided to start off small, with some cleavage. (Bit of a background, she has told me stories of her playing strip poker and losing) So I thought it was not a big deal.
After a few nights of her having to cancel our plans for the night. Sent her a text basicly saying, that the next time you don't show or considerably late without calling, you have to show me some amazing cleavage and it goes up progressivly. I thought she would take it as a joke.
She freaked. I guess since she was in a relationship, she couldnt do that. I dont really understand what happened. Didnt think she would care about it. She is very... promiscuous.
That happened a week ago, and now I think she's avoiding my calls. In retrospect, it was my penis doing the thinking and not my brain.
I guess, my advice is, be careful of the consquences.
I've seen a lot of my close friends naked, perhaps if you are very close with this person, it will just happen in some context. Alcohol helps... should I have said that?
[QUOTE=johnct91;168499]...see one of my female friends naked. I don't want to do anything with her, I'd just really like to see her naked. We've been pretty close friends for about 10 years, and I think she'd be OK showing her body to me.
Is it OK to just ask her if I can see her naked?[/QUOTE]
If you suddenly come out and ask her that question, it might destroy the friendship. It might cause her to lose her trust in you.
There is a close female friend of mine who I have seen topless a few times. She was breastfeeding at the time, and would just casually take her top off to feed her child while I was visiting. It was just a perfectly natural thing to do, and there was nothing sexual about it. I think her husband felt a bit embaressed by her doing that, but she thought nothing of it, as I was a trusted friend.
I normally wouldn't even think of asking to see a friend naked (or anyone else for that matter), but I'm about 99% sure she'd do it.
Here's why: Her and I were talking about how, as students, niether of us ever have any money. I jokingly suggested she go to an amateur night at a strip club, and she admitted already giving the idea some serious thought. She also told me it would be a bit of a turn-on if someone she knew (i.e., yours truly) happened to come in while she was doing her thing.
She's very casual about closing her bedroom door before changing when I'm over. I've seen her in various stages of undress a bunch of times before, just never all the way naked.
I figured why not give it a shot...
Is the imagination sometimes better then reality? I would not risk your friendship over this, if she wanted to show you all she would have by now. She feels comfortable with you now, why risk the potential for discomfort? Next, your going to wonder what it's like to sleep with her...leave well enough alone! I know if you were my male friend and I confided in you, felt comfortable w/you to that degree. If you asked that question; I would always be questioning your motives from that point on. It would definately change the relationship.
[QUOTE=sera300;168889]Is the imagination sometimes better then reality? ... Next, your going to wonder what it's like to sleep with her...[/QUOTE]
You're probably right about the imagination being better than the real thing. Heaven knows my imagination has run wild since she told me about her strip club idea.
The thought of sleeping with her hasn't even crosed my mind for a second. OK, maybe that's a bit of a stretch-I'm sure it came up a time or two back when I first met her. But, at this point her friendship is far more valuable to me than the experience of sleeping with her could ever be.
get yourself a girlfriend and if you get on so well with her isn't there a chance you be together or arn't you attracted to her. but the idea of yours does not sound good
[QUOTE=johnct91;168499]...see one of my female friends naked. I don't want to do anything with her, I'd just really like to see her naked. We've been pretty close friends for about 10 years, and I think she'd be OK showing her body to me.
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Hey, when I was about 14 I wanted to see most of my female friends naked. I masturbated thinking of them every night.
I didnt ask them to get naked though, no way.
But i eventually grew out of it when i got laid.
well thats a natural part of growing up sirene I did too but frankly I can't see what the poster wishes to accomplish, if he is not interested in her romantically/sexually then why does he want to see her naked ? I think he's not to sure whats going on in his mind
Of course he's interested in her sexually, that doesnt have to mean he wants to do her.
He's gonna see her nekkid then he's going to spend 3yrs masturbating while thinking about her.
At about 14 that would have been my wildest dream lol
yea well from what i understand we are talking about a so called adult now.
[QUOTE=Newtolove;169619]yea well from what i understand we are talking about a so called adult now.[/QUOTE]
Yup, I'm an adult. A healthy heterosexual adult who, like most other males on the planet earth, enjoy the sight of an attractive girl naked. And so what if the attractive girl in question happens to be my friend? What's a little nudity among friends, anyway? ;)
She and I are just playful enough to, say, bet it all on a hand of strip poker, but not so much as to ever consider making contact sexually.
She'd probably find it hilarious if I asked to see her naked, and I can't help but think she'd oblige (I know, wishful thinking). That's not to say she's some kind of tramp. What I mean is she'd probably be just as comfortable being naked in front of me as she would in front of a girlfriend. So again, why not give it a shot?
Rent that movie "Frankie and Johnny" (Al Pacino and Michele Pfifer, early 1990s), and you'll see where I'm coming from...
Then just ask her! :)
yea if you r so sure go ahead and please do tell us her reactions
[QUOTE=Newtolove;169915]yea if you r so sure go ahead and please do tell us her reactions[/QUOTE]
Yeah & tell us how they look if she says yes! LOL;)
Tell us? Hell, show us...
I'm still not entirely sure I have the balls to ask to see her naked, let alone asking her to pose for photos.:rolleyes:
ah a fellow photographer eh ? Capital. well why should it be so difficult I mean what is it that you want:
a) just to see her naked
b) photograph her naked purely out of photographic interest
c) photograph her naked so that you can see her naked photo when you want
I mean it takes some of the personal sexuality (you/her) out of it if it is lets say art how is she with posing for photography would she do it, I suppose she would have to trust you though even more with a photograph and if she does don't betray her.
Actually, I'm not a photographer (amateur or otherwise). I was just responding to Thresher_V's request for photographic proof of my friend's "hotness".
As far as what I want, the easiest answer is simply to see a pretty girl naked. I hadn't thought about turning it into a photo session, though. Nice thought, I must admit...
Now that you mention it, any suggestions for asking her to pose for such a photo shoot?;)
Why so you can show it to everyone? First it was you wanted to see, then you wanted to take a picture out of curiosity, now you want to show the world?
If you did not loose her friendship by asking, guaranteed if she ever found out or saw her picture on a site, guaranteed to be a lost friendship!
Hmmmm...will I want to touch if I get to see? Well, I have to be completely honest in admitting that it's not beyond the realm of possibility. Sure, I'd like to think I have at least a little self-control. But I can't honestly say I'd have the willpower to decline an invitation to put my hands on her sexually, friendship not withstanding.
I've always been pretty good at interpretting signals from the opposite sex, but this time I'm stumped. How should I interpret her being so liberal about changing in front of me? For example, last week I went to pick her up for a night out with a large group of mutual friends. When I got to her place, she tells me she still needed to shower and starts undressing right in front of me. She strips all the way down to bra and panties before stepping into the bathroom to finish undressing. I know, it's just underwear-no big deal, right? But I could easily see the outline of her dark pubes through her panties. Was this an accident? Either way, what the hell am I supposed to do in a situation like that?
Wow, sera300, you kind of ran with that. I was under the impression the winking icon was more of a "wink-wink-nudge-nudge" kind of thing, kind of implying "I was just kidding about that last thing I said..."
Anyway, I'm not sure why I feel so compelled to explain this to you, but I was in fact just kidding about turning my crazy idea into a photo shoot. If, for whatever reason, photos were to be taken (key word = if), I certainly would never post them anywhere for public viewing (especially not behind her back).
I would do nothing to betray the friendship I've enjoyed for the last ten-plus years. Call it what you wish, but I happen to find one of my female friends attractive. What guy hasn't thought the same at one point or another?
I got an idea... if you are both bored sometime ask her if she wants to play cards... you said she has played strip poker... and lost... dont even bring up playing poker or strip poker. just ask to play cards for something to do... and see what happens from there. you may not have to ask.
Why explain? Because you wanted me to know you value her as your friend, you respect her, & you value the friendship, you did not want me to misinterpret it as you being a perv.?
I took the icon as "How do I ask, what guise do I use"? I read too much into everything.
If this is driving you insane, just ask. Be blunt, don't play a game; meaning, don't create a false facade to look. But if you look & see, will you want to touch next? How do you satisfy that curiosity?
Well, underwear...I always look at it this way, seeing me in my underwear is like seeing me in a bathing suit...and I have been known to strip down to my underwear and go for a swim if I did not have my suit. I never thought much of it but other's have, geez not like I went skinny dipping! My point, seeing me in a bra and panties is no big deal. But that's me...If I was going to finish undressing in the bathroom, I would have undressed all of me there. I think she has said a few things/done a few things to feel you out. First, asking you to be there if she stripped at amateur night & undressing partially in front of you. Or she reads this forum too, has read your posts, and is waiting for you to ask...lol!
Are you sure you too are not having a little "something" happening here? Maybe both of you are wondering or pondering sex or more? Are there more feelings for each other beyond sex and friendship?
Why do I ask? I believe your attraction to her is stronger then you let on, but perhaps out of fear of destroying the friendship it's left alone? And I wonder if hers is as well....
I know in the past, one friend in particular, we were just friends got along great and there was this attraction to each other, never spoke of, it was just there. Well, we decided to check it out...worked nicely, friendship remained strong. He is about 6 years younger then I; I know he prefers to date women more his age. We have always remained friends and he is my closest male friend, I trust & love him with all my heart. There is nothing either of us will not (or have not) done for the other. The standing joke between other friends and our family's is: why don't you two get married?
Currently we are platonic & since I am single again he still offers to "help me out" both sexually & if I need help getting something done around the house. I offer to "proof" his papers and cook him dinner...Point is; not all of these things wind up bad if the friendship is strong enough.
If any of my other male friends were here...I would not strip to my underwear unless I was trying to peak their interest...
hm interesting debate perhaps hint at it next time she strips in front of you I mean she must trust you