I tried having sex with my boyfriend, it was my first time and he is big and it hurt so bad after I bled a little for a few days and now when he brings up trying to have sex again I just give all these reasons I dont wanna say you hurt me so bad I dont wanna try again, is there any advise I can get to make it not hurt so much.
Wed, 07/20/2005 - 03:21
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Scared to try it again
Tell him! there is nothing wrong with admitting it hurt, in fact every girl i know said it hurt the first few times, explain to him that as a virgin it is going to hurt especially because he is so big, so he knows to be gentle with you. take it slow Im sure he'll understand.
My guy isn't huge but it hurt me the first few times we did it. But he knew that it hurt me so he would stop. Perhaps you should tell your guy that hey, it hurts and to either go slower or to stop and then you guys just play around and get each other off.
As for advice, well, what helped me was getting a toy that was small to begin with and then working up to something that was about the size of him.
I started with something small and plastic. Worked my way up to a jelly dildo close to his size.
I also found that astroglide is like the miracle lube, at least for me. I used my toys with the ky jelly but once I got the astroglide, I found that it worked a lot easier and things went in much easier. I've since had no problems with sex either. It still hurts a little as he enters, but that's because we only get together once every so many months.
The more you do it, the more you'll get used to it.