hi guys, i just found this site while looking for ways to better please my girlfriend. before i get into specifics, let me introduce myself. i'm Frank, and i'm 18. i will be attending college at University of Houston this comming semester, and things couldn't be better...well, i fell in love with an amazing woman...she is 18 as well. i really love her, and she loves me, and we are going to get married after college (hopefully), but something has come up that is kinda scaring us both. my g/f and i have been sexually active for a while, of course using a condom, but thats it...i never came inside her in the condom, i always took it out before ejaculation, and i always checked for holes or tears by looking at it through a light source. well, she is kinda late on her period this month, she is never steady though, one month she had it on the 2nd, another on the 20th, ect. we both are kinda scared now, especially for one incident that i am freaking stupid for, last condom, no money, i had to go downstairs to help my dad with something while she was at my house, so i took it off, helped my dad, and we put it back on my penis and continued to have sex....i made sure we didn't tear it, just slid it back on, i know we shouldn't have done it, but what is the chance that she can be pregnant? i mean, doesn't semen die after like, 2-5 minutes outside of the body? i'm just scared, sorry for the long post, but if she gets pregnant...i'm not going to college and i'm getting kicked outta the house, plz help.
Sat, 08/13/2005 - 05:44
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scared teen....
You're welcome. Just remember to double check any advice you get. I don't think anyone here would deliberately mislead anyone... but it's always good to get a second opinion when there are variables in a situation.
I'm just glad to know that you are being safe.
thanks very much.....i'm glad i found a place where more experienced people can help me out...cuz i'm kidna new at everything
Yay! and whew! lol
Okay... spermicidal gel or foam: Birthcontrol.com
To my knowledge, you can use it as much as you like. It's important to use it as a separate item with a condom rather than just buy the condoms with it already applied.
Oh... the link is just an example. You can probably find the stuff anyplace that sells condoms. Like Wal-mart or a drug store. And cheaper, too.
thanks dude....update : she had her period....thank god.......but now just to be a little safer...what is spermicidal stuff? i'm totally new to sex even though im 18...and i read somewhere that you can only use spermicidal stuff once a day or something....sometimes we have sex 2-3 times a day...so what is it? can yall help me?
Hi Cougar,
Well, the info that I could find says that sperm can live upto 6 hours outside the body. So, I suppose that there is a chance that your girlfriend could be pregnant. If it has been less than 72 hours since this happened then she can get the "Morning After pill"- NOT an abortion pill- it's basically a super dose of birth control. Remember, too, that women's cycles can vary greatly. Depending on stress, exercise, etc. a woman might have a light period, be very later, or have no period at all.
For next time, add a spermicide (gel or foam) to your sex requirements. Like condoms, it's not 100%, but every little bit helps.