guess you all can tell by my name here what it is..I am scared to just let go and have an actual oragsm..any pointers on how I can just let go and FINALLY have an orgasm..I know my significant other has to be doing tiright..he gets his ideas from here..but why am I so scared? We tried the empty bladder thing before hand but for some reason I just get him to stop right before it seems to be happening..HELP PLEASE
Thu, 01/17/2008 - 04:21
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scared to let go and just be pleased fully
Accept you are a sexual person. Perhaps it is the fear of the unknown or it has to do with the way sexual issues were addressed [or not] in your household?
how can I accept it fully? not sure if i should have private messaged you or posted it but ok...when he talks me through it by telling me things like "just relax" reassures me it is all okay I feel better..and i expressed this to him...the fear of "peeing" has left me now but I am not completly relaxed..what else can ease me?
[quote=ScaredToLetGo;205903]how can I accept it fully? not sure if i should have private messaged you or posted it but ok...when he talks me through it by telling me things like "just relax" reassures me it is all okay I feel better..and i expressed this to him...the fear of "peeing" has left me now but I am not completly relaxed..what else can ease me?[/quote]I sent you back a small note...should explain!
Sometimes "accepting" is the hardest thing to do as it requires TRUST in your partner and in yourself.
My adice is simply: to stop. Let what comes, comes. If he's a good guy, he'll stay. If he isn't, he'll go. Either way you'll know. Won't you? So stop worrying!
Stop thinking "what if" and start thinking "this man will please you." Then RELAX and let the orgasm roll! All it take sis once and you'll never want to be without ever again!