I am thinking I might have sex with my boyfriend. But the thing is I'm scared : scared it will hurt and things like that. Plus, I don't even know how to give him a handjob and blowjob, things like that and since he's far more experienced that seems a little weird.
Is it normal for me to be scared ? Does sex really hurt the first time ?
col90 not 'hurt' as in "jaws of life car crash hurt" and for some, there isn't any. Most would, I believe, equate the level of pain as a 'pinch'.
But you certainly are not ready for sex.
When you stop being afraid - that's when you'll be ready.
your exactly like me,
though is till havent had sex. lol
go onto websites for bloowjobs and handjobs..
but most of the opinions will come from him.
dont jumo into yet as everyone is saying and wait until your ready so you wont be awkward during it.
as gay as this sounds i waited until we were drinking to do it because i knew nerves would get the best of me..
i wasnt trashed but yet bubbly so i could just do it, i was ready, it just let me relax more..
dont worry aobut what your firends say..
your your own body and its all about how you look at the situation, not the surroundings
But I tought it was somehow normal to be scared for the first time. That's what my partner told me. My friends also.
I don't think your ready 4 intercourse, Start exploring each others bodies first. Take it slow dnt jump into intercourse. I spent ages just with 4play b4 i had sex
until you don't feel scared you are not ready... sex is meant to be enjoyable and pleasurable... if you are scared you will not enjoy it and thus whats the point or doing something u dont like.
Just take it slow with foreplay like Talie said before you jump the gun
And what is I don't know how to do things to him ? You think he'll show me ? I don't want it to be unpleasurable for him you know.
Dont do it til u ready, just like eveyone else said. And yes he will teach u, well at least he should cuz without that it just wont work. And cuz its ur first time u are the one how is supose to say stop when it hurts, you should be in control.
wait till your ready.
then just tell him hell have to show you,
and im sure he wont decline that offer.
i think he would do it happily if he know youve never done anything before and hell be your first. first, start off easy, like with a handjob or something.
good luck.
also, try reading magazines like cosmopolitan for ideas and stuff.
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;158330]Or, just like swimming, you can jump right on in although yelling "Geronimo!" is not required. Let the foreplay flow on into its natural conclusion.
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It's not? Dammit. ;-P
Desire must overwhelm fear.
It is normal to feel a bit anxious about it, sure. You'll be going somewhere that you've never been before, and that can certainly be a bit anxiety producing.
Use the information here on this site and on mine (www.caitlainscorner.com) to educate yourself about how to do things like giving handjob, blowjobs, etc., and just resolve yourself to deal with it when the time arrives. If he's a good guy, he'll be very understanding that this is all new to you and will make you feel comfortable with it all (if he doesn't you may wish to reconsider what you're doing).
You'll have to walk through those processes first before you'll be ready to move onto penetrative sex.
Or, just like swimming, you can jump right on in although yelling "Geronimo!" is not required. Let the foreplay flow on into its natural conclusion.
Either way will work!
*chuckling* No its not required but if you want to yell "Geronimo!", go right ahead!