i've been seein this guy whose a bit older, i'm 18 and he's 24, and i'm like really sensitive and he was so gentle, a lot more gentle than my ex bf, especially at fingering and stuff....so i told him right off the bat, that i didn't wanna have sex that night, cuz it was only our second time seeing each other....i'm not a virgin, but loosing my virginity was the only time i had sex...every other time i tried to have sex with my ex, he couldn't penetrate cuz i'm so tight...when i saw this new guy's dick i was like damn he's like a horse! lol, he's a lot bigger than my ex and i was like oh great, if my ex couldn't get it in, how is this guy! i guess i'm just afraid that when he realizes that it might be a little more difficult, he's not gonna wanna follow through, i don't want him to be like, forget it..
Mon, 02/12/2007 - 14:39
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scared to have sex w/ older guy
The issue on being too tight is mostly a matter of relaxation. You may want to do some exercises that have at least as much confidence building as physical stretching involved. Get some candles of various sizes (or other objects that may work (I love my old cologne bottle).
Once you convince yourself that he will fit where a baby someday will fit, you will have the confidence to continue. The fact that you did "lose your virginity" is evidence that you can receive a penis. And remember more than 95% of all vaginas can handle more than 95% of all penis'. It is mostly a matter of confidence. It will work.