Okay, so my boyfriend wants us to have sex. He always tries to go further with me and I really like him, I don't want to loose him. So we both agreed tomorrow we'll spend the night together and do it. But the thing is this scares me somehow. I am a virgin and I've never done that so I'm scared it will hurt or that I'll do something wrong. Please help !
Sun, 12/10/2006 - 18:05
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scared of first time
DON'T DO IT if you do not feel comfortable you are not ready and HE WILL HAVE TO WAIT... and if he loves you he will if not he is not worthy of you. if you want to get more comfortable with him don't focus so much on the sex just being together if only to sleep or do a bit of making out in bed.
How old are you guys ?
i was in the same position as you....like three times i almost had sex w/ the guy i was seeing, but i was scared and nervous so we never did...finally though one night he came to visit me at college, and idk i just felt completely and so utterly happy w/ him i was like well he did drive all the way to see me, lol, but it just felt right and yes i was nervous but it was kinda an excited anxious feeling more than a scared omygosh feeling....you'll know when its time, if he cares about you he'll understand like my guy did...luv him for that :)
[QUOTE=col90;159415]Okay, so my boyfriend wants us to have sex.[/QUOTE]
that one sentence explains it all HE wants to but what is more important is YOU must want to not be willing WANT he must understand and respect that
I'm with Newtolove, you should NOT have sex with someone just because they want to. Sex needs to be a mutual decision between partners, and they need to be understanding of each others wants, needs, and problems. It does not sound like you really WANT to have sex, and so you shouldn't!
Didn't you ask in a previous thread if he was just interested in you for sex or not? If you have to ask that, and you have to worry that he will break up with you if you don't have sex with him, you need to GET OUT of this relationshp!
A person who cares about you will not leave you based on whether or not you have sex with him. A person who cares about you will make you feel totally comfortable and make sure that you never feel pressured into doing anything.
Find someone who does care. If you really want to stay with this guy, you need to have a talk with him and tell him that you just aren't ready yet and he needs to stop putting pressure on you.
i know just how you feel, about a year ago i was in the same position as you. i, like you agreed to do the same thing with my boyfriend and see him one night. i can remember feeling just like you and i didnt want to loose my boyfriend. but when it came to the time where i was in the position of deffently going ahead with it, i got so scared and realised that i wasnt emotionally ready to do it. i ended up telling my boyfriend that i wasnt ready and he fully understood. i thought that he would turn around and break up with me but he didnt, we talked for the whole night about it and i was with him for about 6 months.
please dont go ahead with it if you dont feel ready. if your boyfriend is mature about everything he should understand how you feel. dont let him push you into something you dont feel ready to do. you will realise if your boyfriend is really the right guy if he understands your feelings. if he leaves you then he obviously wasnt the right guy at all.
i dont want you regreting it all after you've done it. just think about it all before and make sure you make the right choice.
[QUOTE=browneyedgirl;159426]I'm with Newtolove, you should NOT have sex with someone just because they want to. Sex needs to be a mutual decision between partners, and they need to be understanding of each others wants, needs, and problems. It does not sound like you really WANT to have sex, and so you shouldn't! [/QUOTE]
Listen to these two. They're right.
[QUOTE=Newtolove;159417]DON'T DO IT if you do not feel comfortable you are not ready and HE WILL HAVE TO WAIT...
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I have been trying to tell her the same thing. I TOTALLY AGREE!