ok i'm a virgin, i dont have a girlfriend but that doesnt particularly bother me right now. And i'm actually scared about having sex at all, i mean fantasies are all well and good, and boy are they but i just cant imagine see myself whatever word you wish to use, i just cant see myself going through with intercourse at all, in fact the only things i can imagine are where the lass is getting all the pleasure.
Also in case the question comes up, it aint because i might be gay because i cant picture that either. i mean i dont think i would mind a relationship with either sex so long as it was love and what have ya because love is love lol, but just is this normal?
i'm 17 so i know that being a teen and an adolescent will play a major part in my self confidence and all, but to me it seems to go beyond that i dont know why.
any response would be great.
taa
kev
Sun, 07/10/2005 - 00:49
#1
Scared
You are simply not psychologically ready. Some day, someone will ring your bell and you will have no difficulty.
cheers konman
i dont think its that i've given up hope lol, infact i'm kinda glad i havnt had a gf for a while, its allowed me to concentrate on my studies more lol, however marginally lol
hmm maybe i'm just not a one night man lol,
i suppose i'll see what happens when it happens lol. think i've already met the right person anyway which is good, but she lives a heck of a long way away lol but she's still a very very close in fact the closest friend i have ever had and i love her dearly lol
thankyou again.
I was 19 when I lost my virginity, and I think I had kind of the same feeling. Not quite as powerful, I would fantasize and was still able to imagine myself having sex, but I never really saw it ACTUALLY happening. What I think causes it is just the fact that you have waited so long that you just lose hope of it ever happening.
I would just suggest you not worry about it at all, just go about your life and let things happen. You'll meet someone and become comfortable around them, then you will discuss having sex and then you'll be able to see it happening for you. The basic advice that I can give is just to relax, everything will be fine once you actually start moving towards your first time.
Hope I have helped, and just say if you need anything more specific or if I didn't understand something.
ur still young and you will know when u meet the right girl...n don't worry about the orgasm thing cuz it's more likely u will get the most pleasure from sex rather than the girl!! just keep calm n take life as it comes!
uncreativename