[QUOTE=harry;204188]Hi im new here and im sorry if ask very stupid questions.

[COLOR="Navy">Your question is actually a really great one, Harry. The answer may surprise you. I know every boy and person who has not had sex and who has not also made love is curious about these adventures, and to wonder about similarities to masturbation; these are reasonable questions and concerns.[/COLOR]

I never had sex before and im wondering if masturbating is same pleasure as having sex.

[COLOR="Navy">While the end result is the same, how a person arrives at the destination {ejaculation) is different. (Say what?) When we masturbate, and as great as that feels and makes us squirm, tense up, shiver and shake, we only become aroused so much. The intensity is generally much greater when a guy makes love and this can make the orgasms stronger and more intense. So, why the difference and how do you accomplish it?

When a couple makes love, these additional factors are added:
* pheromones
* "chemistry" between the two
* emotions and the connection between the two

Include these into sex and it is like lighting the after burner on a jet engine![/COLOR]

I want to know this because i can masturbate for over a hour or so before i
have an orgasm and ill be really glad if I can do same thing while having sex.

[COLOR="Navy">I gather from your statement that you last this long because you want to and enjoy the experience, and not because it takes this long to build and then trigger an orgasm. [/COLOR]

So my question is, do you guys think i can last over an hour while having sex?

[COLOR="Navy">You may be able to; however, probably not. There is a condition that most teens and young adults up to their mid twenties suffer from known as "Premature Ejaculation" and if you find that you suffer from it, then you will climax within the first minute or so after beginning intercourse. All is not bleak as there is an excellent article listed in the Index, so please read it. It provides details for two fixes.

Something else for your continuing (sex) education in addition to a concern about penis size and lasting a long time is that making love has more to do with the emotional component and melding of the psyches than the physical aspects of plugging P into V and working up an orgasm. It's not all about size, adequacy, staying power, volume of or intensity of an ejaculation; rather the expression of the love each has for the other. We do this with practice and knowledge. So, while an orgasm may be upper most in your mind, particularly knowing how much more intense they can be when making love, what is on a girl's mind is the bonding, the connection, the emotional components of the relationship, and not so much on the orgasm, which may or may not happen for her. Understand this and you are on your way to becoming a great and caring lover.

The Anatomy of the Female "O", Answered by Brandye & Dancingdoc2 & Inspired by Godiva

Female Sexual Response
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I hope this is of help. If you have other questions, please ask.

Great reply doc.

1. If you last more than twenty minutes with me, you will find yourself on the floor.
2. Your question was whether or not masturbating and partner sex were the same. The physiological response is identical. Satisfaction is another issue.

Having sex does feel different to masturbation, for one simple reason. When you have sex, you are in close physical contact with another person. When you masturbate, you are in close physical contact with --- your hand?

Masturbation is normal, enjoyable and everybody does it, but the one thing it can't provide is the close intimate feeling of body contact with another person.

[QUOTE=Brandye;204208]1. If you last more than twenty minutes with me, you will find yourself on the floor.
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Why? You prefer quick penetration?

I am most "receptive"immediately after an orgasm. I rarely reach orgasm through penetration and thrusting. Twenty minutes is my outer limit before I begin to lose interest and run out of lubrication. It simply becomes uncomfortable.

[QUOTE=Brandye;204726]I am most "receptive"immediately after an orgasm. I rarely reach orgasm through penetration and thrusting. Twenty minutes is my outer limit before I begin to lose interest and run out of lubrication. It simply becomes uncomfortable.[/QUOTE]

Ah yes I understand what you mean and agree somewhat about the receptive part, except I usually do finish with penetration, and don't mind coming a few times while he's still inside. :)

I would love to come "a few times while he is inside." I do have a favorite position that allows me to experience both his and my orgasm with him in me - sometimes. But we get what we can!

[QUOTE=Brandye;204733]I would love to come "a few times while he is inside." I do have a favorite position that allows me to experience both his and my orgasm with him in me - sometimes. But we get what we can![/QUOTE]

I feel lucky that I can come as fast/easy as a man but multiples, as often and as a woman. :D

[QUOTE=curious_woman;204736]I feel lucky that I can come as fast/easy as a man but multiples, as often and as a woman. :D[/QUOTE]

Fast and easy as a man....You should meet me and my friend brandon lol....

Sex and masturbation really does have a couple of difference but nothing too major....Basically feel is different...arousal levels are usually different (unless masturbating as a way to get her in the mood :p) One thing I do notice is that it is generally harder for me to come through sex cuz I am used to masturbating and used to the tight grip of my hand so...yeah...

Oh and nothing beats having the warmth of another body and hands running down your back...

Really, don't worry about how long you last. I am the same as Brandye. I enjoy sex but I rarely orgasm for it. I usually cum from oral or manual stimulation first, and then we'll have sex. When it's really long, it gets boring and I worry that he's not enjoying himself. Just be tuned in to pleasuring your girl.... some like sex but most are more receptive to fingering and oral. It is all about the clit! Don't be under the misconception that the longer you can thrust into her, the more pleasure you are giving her. It simply doesn't work like that.

Nature has done what is possible, since we swam from the primal ooze, to make sex enjoyable. That is how species stay in existence. If doing it ourselves were as satisfying as having a partner, we would have disappeared a dozen millenia ago.

Although, frankly, I want an orgasm with no hassle and prefer to do it my way - middle and ring fingers of my right hand.

For some reason this reminds me about when I first heard what masturbation was. For years I thought that people only did it because they had some wierd fixation with touching themselves. I had no idea that it simulated the pleasure of sex.

for me sex with partner is more pleasure than doin it with yourself.

[QUOTE=Brandye;204208]1. If you last more than twenty minutes with me, you will find yourself on the floor.
2. Your question was whether or not masturbating and partner sex were the same. The physiological response is identical. Satisfaction is another issue.[/QUOTE]

:confused: Just wondering why he would end up finding himself on the floor Brandye. Is this through being just shattered or what? I have to confess I have never lasted that long once penetration has been made....no matter how careful...but the whole love-making process used to last so so so long...happy days:)

i'd say an orgasm is largely the same either way. But the context is so very different and will probably be more intense with one depending on your preference.

Lasting an hour... unlikey... and unless your sure its amazing sex, i wouldn't try to keep it going that long, lol

[QUOTE=Brandye;204726]I am most "receptive"immediately after an orgasm. I rarely reach orgasm through penetration and thrusting. Twenty minutes is my outer limit before I begin to lose interest and run out of lubrication. It simply becomes uncomfortable.[/QUOTE]

I'm rarely able to keep myself lubricated longer than 15 minutes especially as I'll usually orgasm well before that. It's not that I lose interest in sex, its just that I'd need a little break before I could get myself wet again naturally, It's rare that I'll orgasam again in the same session.

My hubby actually takes this as a boost to his ego. When we first started having sex he was quite bad in bed and rather than take it badly, that I was a lot more sexually experienced than him and that I wasn't enjoying sex with him.He just made a massive effort and within a month I went from having the worst to the best sex of my life.

As for the dryness, once I explained to him that it was down to me physically and there wasn't nothing naturally I could do, we just started using lubricant. It just marks a point during every session a little while after I orgasam he'll just apply a little lubricant and we'll carry on.

On occassion depending on how I'm feeling I'll let him carry on for a little while even though I'm dry (never more than a minute) because he'll come quite quickly and I know he finds it quite intense.(any other people have any experience with this?)

i guess i would consider myself a highly sexual being. i was one of this kids masturbating before i knew what sex was or where babies come from!

i love being a woman and the fact that i can nearly come completely just by thinking about it and through imaginary sexual fantasies.

i love being able to have multiple orgasms from the simple act of a man "playing me" with his fingers. it's brilliant!