I need to be touched gently sometimes but I LOVE it when my man is aggressive and takes control. I love to be dominated, pushed up against the wall, have my hands pinned above my head, etc. What do you need help with exactly? You can still do it rough as long as you are hitting the right spots. Pounding is not necessarily key.

I am the same way, I like to be dominated. It gives me a rush like no other to know that my guy is in control and HE is doing ME. Throw me on the bed, rip off my clothes, and pin my hands above my head... thats a great start right there.

Major turn on: A guy that knows what he wants and knows how to go after it! Yes indeed! I like to be handled a bit rough often. Its a nice change from the ever so slow and gentle.
And it doesnt have to go into physical handling either. If Im just "TOLD" what to do... example: "Take of your clothes, NOW!" or I walk into the bedroom and find my naked boyfriend standing there "Suck me!" Yep, thats a turn on! Thats aggressive enough for me and he didnt need to get physically rough.
Spank my ass, pull my hair, pin my hands above my head, position me where wanted and often..... all those are nice ways of getting my attention aggresively and have been major turnons.

mine, btw if you spank her really hard she will like it, but i mean hard so she will have hand prints 3 hrs later

I totally love being dominated, as well. I love playing hard to get, and then my boyfriend will spank me hard and I just go absolutely crazy. :eek: I also love it when my guy just stares at me in a public place and then comes up, firmly presses up against me and plants a few on me, and then squeezes my ass hard. LOVE IT!

Here is an approach to this that should be considered. Rough sex can be a turn on or an -off, all depending upon the person and the situation. I prefer to use the movie approach in which illusion plays an important part of what is perceived.

It isn't necessary to pound, or hit, or to otherwise be rough. What is important is that the illusion is presented. So, rather than spanking hard, go through the motions and pull the punches so to speak. If the man wants to shove his woman up against a wall, then do so, gently, albeit with the illusion of being rough and forceful.

dancing doc is right. Depending on the girl you are with, some i've found like it really rough, others are more gentle and prefer the illusion as doc put it. The illusion is the safe way to go, where you arouse the erotic sense of danger in a woman without actually causing her the pain that may or may not arouse her further.

To note however, most women are very turned on by a firm, hard touch.

I love when my boyfriend takes control being dominated for me is a total turn on. The whole pushing up to a wall..yes sir. Spanking usually works and in bed when he holds my hands tight over my head.

I'd like to throw in a disclaimer there. He's referring to dominance/submission. for you new readers or overly-zealous individuals, it doesn't mean hold her down and go against whatever she says. This applies to basic vaginal sex, and little outside that spectrum.

spank me, punish this bad girl for what she has done wrong! dominate me pin me against a wall or pin me down in bed how ever you do it take control and make me feel helpless!

thats how i liked to have rough turn ons they make me horny just righting about them

[QUOTE=flapjack;111731]I've looked all over this site and all the topics on how to turn on a girl are gentle and such. My girlfriend is rather hard to turn on, she really likes is when I'm rough and take control, she likes:
1. getting her butt grabbed (really hard)
2. when i push her up against a wall and make out with her.
is there any girls like their men to take control who could help me out?[/QUOTE]

I most definitely enjoy it when my man takes control. The best time that comes to mind is when I'd just shown up at his house, and without a word he picked me up, walked in the bedroom and kicked the door shut. After was nice rough sex.

I like a little bit of choking (not in any dangerous context, just pressure on the neck), being pushed into the bed during doggy (a hand in the middle of my back holding me down) and feeling teeth on my skin.

Another favourite is being dragged accross the bed towards him (if he'd just pulled out of doggy, he'll flip me over, which naturally puts us a bit apart. Occasionally he'll slip his hands around my thighs and pull my body towards him, which feels completley amazing)

[QUOTE=flapjack;111731]I've looked all over this site and all the topics on how to turn on a girl are gentle and such. My girlfriend is rather hard to turn on, she really likes is when I'm rough and take control, she likes:
1. getting her butt grabbed (really hard)
2. when i push her up against a wall and make out with her.
is there any girls like their men to take control who could help me out?[/QUOTE]

i like it to be rough and have him take total control! when he rips me towards him and just makes it so i cant move anywhere but closer to him ohhh god i love it when he does that. and one day he caught me by suprise by standing behind the door of his bedroom when he made me think he was in the bathroom and i was only wearing a thong since no one was home except for us two and he torn my thong up by pulling on it to get me closer to him which i really didnt care about i can make him buy me another on just as sexy it was his favorite but when he pulled me close enough he ripped my thong down to my knees and thrusted me right there in the corner of the wall and the door it was great and a huge turn on!!!!!!

My wife loves me without a dout but she really does'nt show it in a freaky way what can i do ???

Like many who have posted to this subject I love to be dominated! I feel the need to be in control all day long. I need to be in charge and be able to predict everyone's moves that when I come home I just want someone else to be in control! I want to feel like my guy wants me in any way possible and is not taking no fro an answer. I love being thrown against the wall or pinned to the bed and taken. We started out small and now we have a full hand cuff system and a gag ball! It is so arousing and not much gets me wetter then him taking charge.

Guys if you want to try to get your girl into domination start by pinning her against the wall (gently!) when you kiss her or pinning her to the bed while you are making out. You can then gradually add a bit of force after a week or two of doing the pinning move. You may also try moving her arms above her head while your in missionary or if in doggie style you can try a slight ass smack. If all this goes well you can try hand cuffs and some form of restraint system (I recommend under the bed restraint system) and then the sky can be the limit! Many women love to be dominated so give it a try!

Haha man my gf likes it that way too,, i recomend what everyone else has recomended,, but don't get to the pooint where your leaving bruises,, not kewl :P

i like it when my bf pulls me to him roughly or holds me in a fierce grip when we're out, i feel like he is in control of himself when he can be rough but not hurt me. check with your girl first and make sure she feels comfortable, she might have some tips for you.

great thread! you know, evolutionarily speaking, our women ancestors that had the behavior to be attracted to the dominant males in the population were probably the women who passed on their genes the most (ie had higher fitness). if you're not following, all that means is there are probably a lot of women out there that get aroused by a dominant male and being dominated. a lot of this stuff kinda make perfect sense if you understand the biology of it all.

anyway, yes, i have found that women LOVE to be dominated, and normally they will let you know, one way or another, how far you can take it. this next statement may be kinda borderline male chauvinist for some, but my philosophy has become this:

if I want to do something to her, chances are it is exactly what she wants me to do to her.

it has been working for me, i think the key is you just have to be confident with it. i personally have found that if you ask, as opposed to just doing, you may get different responses. ie she may say she doesn't want it (and now you're screwed), but if you just do it, she'll love it-- it's like a confidence thing. you do have to have tact and do this stuff in a way that minimizes awkwardness if she's for sure not into it, but my opinion is you should be pretty close to someone you are going to try some of these rough scenarios on. if you feel close, and understand each other, everything should be ok if the communication is good.

but i think its a real turn on to women to not talk and just do. i realize this is risky advice to be giving, but i think it's true and im all about honesty and knowledge is power.

I think the turn on for rough sex is the lack of choice for the submissive one. Giving directions like "Bend over" or "Suck my cock" make the other person feel like they have no control over the situation. I love having my hair pulled and when he grabs my hips and pulls me where he wants me to be. I just love when my husband is really forceful about what he wants. In a situation where that take charge behavior isn't normal for that person, it's like the dam of restraint has just been opened. My husband is very quiet and reserved, so when he behaves like this, I know he's really into it.