Talk to her...generally it being aggressive w/ getting clothes off, spanking, pulling hair, etc. But I suggest you talk to her first, and get feedback from her while you are doing it...

Well.. also a common idea is to have a 'safe word' which means, you can be rough, and act our your scenario - BUT have a 'word' that both of you know means to ABSOLUTELY STOP if one of you gets uncomfortable.

Rough sex should be an illusion, meaning there is no real pain or torture involved, just the appearance.

So, if you are spanking a person, like actors in a movie, make it look like you are hitting hard when in reality you are pulling your punches.

If you want to roll her around on the bed and make it look rough, so be it, just do not be rough.

It could be that she wants you to generally 'take charge' in bed.

Let that testosterone flow and do her like you mean it! :D

Or maybe there are touches you do that she would like to be firmer. "Rough" might not mean activities that require a 'safeword.' But you can't know until you ask. I learned from a certain partner that sometimes I can handle certain things at a higher level. Like, gentle lick and suck of nipples is nice, but some tugging and firm squeezing can be nice when I'm ready for them. Compared to what I knew before, that was really rough. But for other people, that's just getting started! So ask what she means by rough.

Yes, you have to ask her for her opinion of rough, i have had a girl that thought firmness was rough, caressing and groping her firmly, then i have had a girl that wanted actual rough, like she wanted to be thrown around, spanked till her skin turned red, bitten and scratched hard enough to leave easily visible marks for 4-5 days.

Also you yourself have to be comfortable doing what she asks in order to do it, dont try if she says she wants to be thrown around and actually made hurt if you arent comfortable with it, tell her if you arent and move slowly. Get into the role but work your way up, and have fun, good luck.

Rough sex and pain are really different things to most people. Like a prevoius poster mentioned, its more about taking charge. Your gf probably wants you to be dominant, and is subtly telling you she would like to be submissive. She wants to be taken.

Rough begins with the initiating of sex. You don't ask "would you like to go upstairs and do it", you tell "Get your ass upstairs and in the bed".

Rough proceeds with verbally giving instructions such as "Play with yourself
while I watch", or "Get on your knees".

During oral, you stand, she kneels, and you firmly hold her hair and guide her. (Do not pull). Also, rather than letting her bob her head, instead you pump in and out.

During intercourse, the action should be fast, not slow and loving. Kissing should be minimal. Positions should change quickly, with you giving orders as to what to do next. "Stand up. Bend forward."

Hope those suggestions help.

I suggest you let some of your most intimate male and female friends run a train on her. Video recording and posting online might be a good idea also... :p
I would love a copy of the file... :D
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Actually, I was venting some anger... That whole rape fantasy, have your way with her is frustrating to most guys. It usually means she wants to go into shut down mode and just lay there like a dead fish and take it. It's boring and just plain selfish. Women who want sex roughly would never have to ask for rough sex if they responded just as aggressively.

a train? isnt that taking it to a different area, all she asked was for him to have his way with her, take the lead...

[QUOTE=i-cuddle;169035]I really need some help. My girlfriend wants me to have my way with her and have "rough sex" with her and not to sound like a total failure but I havent a slightest idea on what exactly rough sex includes....what to do....help!!![/QUOTE]

I had a similar experience with a friend who wanted me to really dominate her and be rough. I didnt think I would be able to do it but I started slow and just talked dirty and told her what to do, going fast and hard, putting her into positions roughly, etc. It's not hard at all once you get into it. Hope that helps.

[QUOTE=Hubby55;169342]It's boring and just plain selfish. Women who want sex roughly would never have to ask for rough sex if they responded just as aggressively.[/QUOTE]

When I say I want it rough, I by god am not just going to lay there ;) I want to fight and squirm as my hair is pulled, I'm scratched, slapped, bit. Of course while I want there to be slight marks, I don't want it to be extreme.

[QUOTE=Hubby55;169342]I suggest you let some of your most intimate male and female friends run a train on her. Video recording and posting online might be a good idea also... :p
I would love a copy of the file... :D[/QUOTE]

Lol...what!?

:p I LUV ROUGH SEX! theres no actually pain involved. just alot of spanking, hard, deep thrusting. nice n fast. whatever takes your fancy. rough sex is basically aggresive sex. but i think u gota know your partner rele well to do this. talk to em b4 hand, tell each other wat u rele luv. even when we screw i whisper dirty things in his ear and let him know what i want. "fuk me harder" :p stuff like that HEHE.

Definitely have a "safe word" and make sure the woman is super lubricated prior because I tried rough sex for awhile with my boyfriend and the last time we tried it, I was not lubricated and the inside of my vagina was swollen and I burned the tip of his penis.