seriously, i'm just 18 and i feel like i'm a mile behind everyone, my friends have been at it since they were about 15 and that doesn't bother me as much as the fact that they find so easy. I'm thinking if it'd be better to just get my first time over by some less intimate way than i imagined.
the internet makes most things almost too reaidly available and was thinking do i just rip the bandage and get my first time over with by means of a stranger over some websites.
anyone have any expereince or input to this?
btw, as i've mentioned friends have been at it awhile, and i'm somewhat behind, i've had plenty of time to read up between them starting and now.
I don't think that is a good idea at all. First thing you have to realize is, most of your friends pry have not been as far as you think. And if they have, they almost assuredly have not been at it for 3 years. Now granted, maybe some have. From my experience at that age, most of it is all talk. I knew one guy who for sure talked a great game, yet he told me in confidence (we were pretty decent friends at the time) that all they had really done was fondle each other. And for the most part from my experience that was all it was. I also did know a guy who was like you, and went out and found a girl to 'do it' with. He was Daddy about 10 months later.
Dude....lemme tell ya about quote-un-quote 'behind'. I lost it at 28. And ya know something? I was proud to have it that long. And then I was emotionally READY, instead of ANXIOUS, to lose it when I did.
Time is just a number and the only person whose pace you have to match is you. IF you really do want to just lose it for the sake of losing it (which I obviously would not recommend but that's your call), don't be stupid and pick a random person off the net. That's nothing more than a computer screen, which you can't trust any farther than it is wide until you actually meet a person face to face and truly get to know them. If you're going to do this without a relationship, make friends with someone who wants sex but no relationship, and do it safely, with BC and a condom.
> the internet makes most things almost too reaidly available and was thinking do i just rip the bandage and get my first time over with by means of a stranger over some websites.
[SIZE="6">OH! NO! HELL NO![/SIZE]
At eighteen you should know that giving your personal information out over the internet is inviting mucho trouble. Meeting someone in person that you have been corresponding with over the internet is inviting trouble. Why? Because no matter what people say, people are often not who or what they seem and a girl or woman can be taken advantage of in a meeting that can be very dangerous.
If you have not yet climaxed by masturbating then I suggest learning to do both, first and foremost. Once you have connected the proverbial dots and have learned to enjoy orgasms regularly and consistently then you can expand your enjoyment by involving the vagina. Many women do not involve their vagina when masturbating yet there are many advantages to doing so.
You can use a dildo or other toy as well as a finger. Fingering will help to relax the vaginal opening and hymen if it exists.
I would seriously wait until you are dating someone you know and have developed a friendship with, have a track record, some level of trust with. Just getting your "ticket punched" by some bystander who does not have a vested interest in you is reckless.
There are many threads on this topic. Please look around or do a site search.
If you want sex for sex sake, I suppose any boy will do; yet, if you want something more meaningful from the experience, WAIT.
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Am I lost or something here???? I can't tell whether Oxi is a guy or girl????? I assumed guy.
Doesn't matter which gender the OP is. The answer is NO to some stranger off the internet. Yes, virginity is a handicap but one has got to sensible about this 'losing it' thing.
Actually the best person to ask is a girlfriend who is more 'active' than you are. She probably knows of a decent fellow who'd be happy to help you out with this.
Should the OP be a male,then seek out a girl who has a bad reputation and a great grade point average, 3.0 or above. Such girls are always well worth your time, and most will also treat you with kindness.
Always use birth control AND condoms. Lubricant helps.
You're welcome.