Hello. First i would like to welcome myself to the board. this board is very helpful ive been browsing it and decided to join. Im 18 and my girl friend is 17. I know we are in love. We have had a steady relationship for two years. We have also had a steady sex relationship since the end of the first year.
My real question is when is it right to have sex? Im kinda weirded out because her mom doesnt mind that we have sex as long as we are safe. on the other hand my parents dont talk much about sex and just say be careful.
I know i cant go back and take my sex back but is it right to be having sex? I love her and be sound stupid but i think we are going to get married.
Anyways ill end this rant. Its just weird that her mom doesnt mind and just promotes safe sex and my parents arent very concerned/supportive.
Thanks,
Sean
Personally, I think that a person is not capable of emotionally having sex until they are at LEAST 16 years old. Even then, most 16 yearolds are not mature enough for it then. It is not something to take lightly, there are all sorts of other considerations that you must realize before sex is an option. If you stick it in, be prepared to have a kid. Cause it happens, all the time.
For me personally, I waited until I was 19 and was very thankful that I did. My first experience was great, albeit in a car, but it was with someone I loved and who was committed to me. Having that kind of situation can help and set up a life full of sex with the right attitude. Just like a fast car, you have to respect it.
In Chick Chat there is a thread on being ready. While written from a female perspective, the maturity issues are equally applicable to males. You are at the average age, so that, in itself, is not an issue.
Bottom line is can you handle pregnancy?
Don't worry about age. My first time with my fiance I was a month away from turning 17 and she had just turned 14 a month and a half before.
Sex is supposd to be about love and love doesn't know age, race, religion, whatever; love is just love. If you're really in love, you two will know when it's time.
Parents never think there's a right age for their children to start having sex. I don't think my parents even know I'm having sex.
I personally didn't lose my virginity till I was 22, almost 23.... and I'm 24 now and will be 25 soon enough... and yea, I don't think they know. I personally don't care for them to know. I'm an adult and it's my decision to make, not theirs.
Anyways, I don't think there's a "right age". I think it's right frame of mind.
If you're sure this is what you want to do, and it's who you want to do it with, and you are ready for all the possibilites it may bring, like pregnancies, then I say go for it.
If some of the things I said make you think twice, then I'd say wait a bit longer.
Hi, Sean! Welcome to the board!
I don't think there's any age requirement, or length of relationship requirement. All that matters is your relationship with each other. If you love each other and plan on spending at least a great part of your life together, there is nothing wrong with it. Also, as long as both of you are okay with it, there should be no problems. It also helps that both of your parents' trust you two.
I hope that helps.
[QUOTE=Quote (ductapefaerie @ Oct. 09 2005,16:48)]Hi, Sean! Welcome to the board!
I don't think there's any age requirement, or length of relationship requirement. All that matters is your relationship with each other. If you love each other and plan on spending at least a great part of your life together, there is nothing wrong with it. Also, as long as both of you are okay with it, there should be no problems. It also helps that both of your parents' trust you two.
I hope that helps.[/QUOTE]
it very much did. I would like to bring it up to my parents but i doubt they would agree with me.
thanks everyone. that helped a lot!