hey guys, so my girlfriend wants me to cuff her up and blindfold her at the same time and let me do to her what i wish.....thing is that my bed doesnt have bed posts but i recently bought a set of cuffs and blindfold. now im wondering what i should do to cuff her yet keep her arms seem like they are tied to bedposts without buying a full restraint system for my bed since i wont be tieing down her feet. any ideas?
Sat, 03/29/2008 - 03:47
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restraints
Cuffs with no bedposts or anything...
Tricky but do-able. With some work.
Do you have a frame on your bed? (Like with the little legs so that the bed sits above the floor? If so, (bare with me its tricky) Take a length of rope (about twice the width of the bed. And tie one end on each of the legs near the top of your bed (the leg parts that are on the frame) This will act as a "bar" in which you can put the handcuffs. This will keep her restrained on the bed. I hope this makes sense to you. lol I know its complicated...if you want I will come over and make it for you.
My wife and I had the same problem with our bed. There is a kit that has straps that go around the mattress and have clips to connect restraints to. They work pretty well for us. A lot of site sell them. Here is a link to them although I think you can get them much cheaper.
http://www.adulttoychest.com/p-59170-under-the-bed-restraint-system.aspx
To the OP:
I suggest you read through many threads here on cuffs and restraints prior to engaging into this. There are several measures YOU BOTH need to understand; such as types, duration of time they can be used, and having a "safe" word.
It sounds as is neither of you really are certain of what you are doing and be aware this dangerous since trust is imperative, readiness, and willingness to stop.
For beginnings; I would not use regular cuffs of any sort. Something more gentle such as lightly tied silk robe ties, pantyhose, etc. Blindfolding? Be very careful since I wold not really recommend this unless you both are ready and experienced. Why? They do slip down & how do you know if she is gagged or chocked if you are not looking at her every second?
Furthermore, real handcuffs which cops use hurt...and the key is easily lost--FYI.
Try playing first she is "tied up" so she can squirm out if she feels better... and you both know EXACTLY what you are doing.
well we do have some experience in tying each other up, well, she tied me to her bed with a scarf. but my bed doesnt sit on a bed frame, my box spring and mattress just sits on the floor so i have no legs to tie any type of restraint to. since i wasnt blindfolded when she tied me up, she wants me to tie her up and blindfold her at the same time
blindfold her a pin her hands above her head...you can use one hand to hold her down and yea...
As Ducy said you can run a rope under the bed, not complicated in my opinion. You can also attach the cuffs, or whatever restraint system you use, to a leg of the bed..
I have a bit of experience with bondage so just a few ideas here.
Cuffs- for first timers if you MUST use cuffs invest in pair of leather cuffs which can be easily fastened and unfastened with buckles. They are very comfy and easy to use. You might find some that are lined with fur or fake fur.
Hand Positions- since you don't have bedposts she probably won't have her hands above her head. Most people cannot stay in this position and feel sexy for long. You might cuff her with her hands straight out in front. That way if you tied or chain the cuffs to a leg of the bed or under the bed...or to another piece of furniture near the bed...you can actually turn her over and have easy access to both front and back!
Alternatives to cuffs- Someone mentioned the sash of a robe...excellent way to begin. I began using sashes and old silk ties. Or you could just go out and buy some rope. You will want soft rope. Get cotton rope if it is available. Many people find the soft 3/8 inch. nylon sold in Walmart to be acceptable.
Here is a youtube tutorial for basic rope cuffs by one of the USA's premeir bondage teachers and personalities
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dWEaH05t5t0
These rope cuffs can be tied to the underside of bed, bedlegs, furniture, etc.
Be careful to not get the cuffs or the tie too tight.
have FUN!
I agree w/dlb as far as tied arms. Up hurts and is tough to maintain. best done if enough latitude for some movement at the wrists; just tie them so she can move them about the width of her abdomen apart and slightly loose. It allows her to remain comfortable, rest her arms, or you can rub a body part on her hand...allowing her to touch but you can move away at your will. Silk feels nice to women : ). Remember we like tactile as well. I always found silks off a robe or tie to be sexy and comfy.
The first time I ever tried it, my husband used the COP cuffs...he lost his key and had to call a buddy "on duty" to run a spare key over...:o Now I see why they use them on criminals...that time waiting for "another key" was so uncomfortable and painful...my hands were behind me...:o:eek:
Oh, the lost key excuse. Come on Sera you can do better than that.
As witty as you are......:D:D:D
[quote=constantlylearning;212963]Oh, the lost key excuse. Come on Sera you can do better than that.
As witty as you are......:D:D:D[/quote]
It's the truth & I did do better, I later divorced him.:eek:
If you can't do the time then don't do the..............................LOL
[quote=constantlylearning;212992]If you can't do the time then don't do the..............................LOL[/quote]No crime, just thought it might be interesting...needless to say it was less then delightful! The rest, divorce, you as does everyone the reasons...:eek:
Touche'..........
[quote=constantlylearning;213021]Touche'..........[/quote] No competition...just truth. You try fun things when your married and well...they are not always fun! But you tried. Then there are "tolerable & respectful" behaviors; if they are not changing and becoming worse--no choice but to depart! :) However, time to move forward and have some really great times with a VERY special man! At least I am open, now he needs to knock on my door!!!! Or at best ask me out for dinner...
And Cool don't forget the COOL
[quote=constantlylearning;213030]And Cool don't forget the COOL[/quote] Play it cool? Or just be me?????
Exactly...........:D:p
[quote=constantlylearning;213036]Exactly...........:D:p[/quote] Cool it is; you as well!:D
Are you behaving
[quote=constantlylearning;213041]Are you behaving[/quote] Behaving? Healthy, working out, getting out, and enjoying life...flew to the Caribbean for a few days just to get away! Needed tranquility.:D Are you behaving????
Now that wouldn't be any fun would it?
[QUOTE=sera300;212949] Silk feels nice to women : ). Remember we like tactile as well. I always found silks off a robe or tie to be sexy and comfy.QUOTE]
Women like tactile as well? Oh! I thought it was just us guys:p
I am thinking about buying some silk rope myself soon, it is quite expensive tho' and my first consideration is to get at leats 100 feet of hemp rope. Ah, but that is another story.
I still like using silk ties. And if you are into tactile and silk, Sera, you should try just making out on the bed when you are both completely clad in silk!
Nope. That has nothing to do with bondage.
[quote=dlb;213084][quote=sera300;212949] Silk feels nice to women : ). Remember we like tactile as well. I always found silks off a robe or tie to be sexy and comfy.QUOTE]
Women like tactile as well? Oh! I thought it was just us guys:p
I am thinking about buying some silk rope myself soon, it is quite expensive tho' and my first consideration is to get at leats 100 feet of hemp rope. Ah, but that is another story.
I still like using silk ties. And if you are into tactile and silk, Sera, you should try just making out on the bed when you are both completely clad in silk!
Nope. That has nothing to do with bondage.[/quote]
Done the silk thing...good silks are awesome for feeling and sensation!!! Nothing like nice male boxers of silk and silks for me!!! Love the way they slip against each other's body!!! There is such a fluid sensation!!! Helps get you down to buisness....:)
[quote=constantlylearning;213065]Now that wouldn't be any fun would it?[/quote]No, definitely not! LOL! And yes still the same as yesterday!!!:D:eek:
COOL...........very COOL.:p;)
[QUOTE=sera300;213086][quote=dlb;213084]
Done the silk thing...good silks are awesome for feeling and sensation!!! Nothing like nice male boxers of silk and silks for me!!! Love the way they slip against each other's body!!! There is such a fluid sensation!!! Helps get you down to buisness....:)[/QUOTE]
mmmmmm Silk.. ;)
Silk is great, yummmm--yes, CL, still cool but burning hot:eek:
Hey hey Nutty is back........it must be Lunch Time.
Sera do you have a fever? Or is that new man of yours..........well you
know. LOL
[quote=constantlylearning;213131]Hey hey Nutty is back........it must be Lunch Time.
Sera do you have a fever? Or is that new man of yours..........well you
know. LOL[/quote] No fever (medical), new man? Not really. Complicated... but made a nice friend...however, he did cause me to wake up/thinking/encouraging me to enjoying the life before me.....;)
Nutty is waiting for her snack!
Good for you. You deserve all the fun you can stand.:D
[quote=constantlylearning;213147]Good for you. You deserve all the fun you can stand.:D[/quote]Yes, I do! Now I have to find the participant for all the "fun I can stand"!!!!:D Much better then "all the pain money can buy"....;)
Covet the fun..........it is, by all means, MORE FUN. LOL