Is respect for a man and a woman the same? What is self respect for a man or a woman?
I hear lots of women say they want a man who respects them. What the hell does that mean? I haven't a clue.
What is it for a woman to respect me? What is me having self respect as opposed to a woman having self respect (yes, I am a man).
I don't understand these issues, yet people speak of them all the time as if it's the most commonly understood thing in the world. I have no idea what people are talking about.
I would appreciate your help in educating me.
BTW, I did search "self respect" but there are 500 pages of results and none of the first few seemed to be immediately on topic.
Thanks in advance for your kind and thoughtful assistance with this.
The Wet One
[QUOTE=wet_suit_one;236673]Is respect for a man and a woman the same?
[COLOR="blue">I would say so because male or female, we are all humans. Heck, in my neighborhood, people wave when driving by and say hello to passers by walking dogs, babies or themselves. Part of your answer is tied to manners and common courtesy. Here is a quote from EEK:
"A girl wants to feel that SHE matters. That SHE is important to you. Because her safety lies in your character." [/COLOR]
What is self respect for a man or a woman?
[COLOR="blue">Setting standards of behavior, adhering to them, and knowing that you are following your standards upon self examination. [/COLOR]
I hear lots of women say they want a man who respects them. What the hell does that mean? I haven't a clue.
[COLOR="blue">Valuing a person, his/her opinions, accomplishments, deeds, worth.[/COLOR]
What is it for a woman to respect me? What is me having self respect as opposed to a woman having self respect (yes, I am a man).
[COLOR="blue">Asked and answered.
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I don't understand these issues, yet people speak of them all the time as if it's the most commonly understood thing in the world. I have no idea what people are talking about.
I would appreciate your help in educating me.
BTW, I did search "self respect" but there are 500 pages of results and none of the first few seemed to be immediately on topic.
Thanks in advance for your kind and thoughtful assistance with this.
The Wet One[/QUOTE]
Stand by for more definitions.
Doc, you took that one from another thread. Just for the record, that thread failed to explain to me what respect is.
For example, what does this have to say about a man's self respect? Men never seem to say the same things that women say about self respect, so it doesn't seem to me that the same standard applies.
Also, this says nothing about what "respect" is for a man.
Plus, how does a woman's safety lie in a man's character? Her physical safety? The safety of her reputation? What does it mean to say that "her safety lies in your character"? Does she need a warrior to defend her from marauders (I think not in my neck of the woods, but perhaps elsewhere in the world)? Why doesn't a man's safety lie in a woman's character?
Also you say this with regards to respect: "Valuing a person, his/her opinions, accomplishments, deeds, worth."
Well, how does asking for fulfillment of a fantasy disregard this? Some people say that having a certain manner of dress disrespects another person (I suppose it flies in the face of their opinion on how one should dress, but really, how much weight should be given to someone else's opinion on dress?).
Doc, see this thread here: http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/married-long-term-relationships/26724-or...
Is the wife being disrespectful or not? I don't get it? It seems like it's disrespectful to me, but am I correct or mistaken? Is he being disrespectful to her? What's the deal?
Self-respect = having a sense of self-worth based upon the reality of who you are, the choices you have made, and the accomplishments you have achieved.
Yes, her physical safety lies in his character - she is in his hands and he's bigger, stronger, and can break her in two much more easily than most people want to imagine. She could go out for a date, and end up lying dead in a ditch somewhere. Don't tell me that it does not happen. Even a woman as big and bad as I am, considers her personal physical safety before ANYTHING else.
In that thread, she is showing him her disreapect for him. She is not valuing his desires as being equal to her own. She is being selfish and expecting him to endure such mistreatment. She is not talking about it either - which is a tremendous red flag since most women want to discuss everything in minute detail.
Treat others as you yourself wish them to treat you. That is the essence of respect. That is how you demonstrate both respect to others and how you demonstrate that you have self-respect.
It really is just that simple.
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;236984]Self-respect = having a sense of self-worth based upon the reality of who you are, the choices you have made, and the accomplishments you have achieved.
Treat others as you yourself wish them to treat you. That is the essence of respect. That is how you demonstrate both respect to others and how you demonstrate that you have self-respect.
It really is just that simple.[/QUOTE]
This says it all. Respect, self respect, respect for anything all come down to the same thing.