Hello,

While not myself new to sex, This seemed to be the most appropriate forum for the question.

Me and my girlfriend have been together nearly a year, and having had bad experiences with sex in the past, I am moving much slower sexually in our relationship...my girlfriend is a virgin so it works out well.

To point however, I began fingering her occasionally about 4 months ago. Her hymen was intact, and stretched significantly the first time. She was understandably in pain for a few days.

I have fingered her countless times since then, and she has yet to have a pain free experience. Though not nearly as intense as the first time, it is quite discouraging.

I can barely feel her hymen now, and only when I use two fingers. She has no trouble becoming aroused, and there is plenty of natural lubrication...we even intentionally (and very carefully) made an effort to stretch it as far as possible when she was fed up with the pain and wanted to get it over with for good.

It made a bit of difference, but has not "solved" the problem,

She has described it as a "pressure", ruling out a few other unrelated causes.

Are we doing something wrong? Is there anything we can do to alleviate her pain once and for all...she is pretty much willing to try anything within reason.

Thank you all very much..I look forward to hearing from you.