"sex is something you should share with someone special the first time"
WRONG!

Since it is the first time, it will automatically be special so there's no need for any 'hearts, flowers, fairies in the bottom of the garden' romance. And since you have no idea what you're doing - it isn't going to be all that great either as far as the actual sex goes. Scale back your expectations and get out your training wheels.

At this point, sex is a learning experience - no, you don't have to stop and take notes - but you do have to pay attention to your partner and her reactions to x, y, and z. And do not worry about orgasms yet. Conccern yourself with her well-being and enjoyment first then consider your own. That's good manners, not romance.

As far as a 'relationship' goes - it is waay too early for that. You two are just practicing here. So get out the condoms, the lube and read up so you're ready for when she cuddles up to you and you kiss. Then, ask her "Yes?" and go from there. Find, read, and then do The Program and Body Worship both found elsewhere in this forum; once you have gotten the answer "YES!" from her.

If you want to get laid, continue; if not, tell her you want to continue getting to know her.

With regard to the other question:

> this girl who seems to be intrested in me but recently finished in a relationship she says she is intrested in me but not 100% sure if she wants a relationship.

This is to be expected. It is important to give the new man or woman in a person's life to get past the previous person and that relationship. This is a process and can take a few weeks to a year or more depending upon the length and quality. Just like experiencing the death of a loved one, there is a grieving process with several stages of progression. Please understand this and give the girl some time to complete the transition.

What you can consider doing during this time if she is interested is to be casual friends with no demands or expectations other than to do some social activities together once in a while. If she is agreeable, then this keeps the door open for more later when she is ready. This will let her be in a position to observe you and decide if you are someone she does in fact want a relationship with when the time is right. If not, then move on.

> i am mainly wondering if she just is actually unsure yet or just wanting sex?

Communication is the key to every relationship. Talk to each other. It could be that she is "actually unsure" given the circumstances, or, "just wanting sex!" Then, again, maybe you're not her type.

> I mainly want to know how to approach this as she is coming round on the weekend.

Here, again, communication is key. Talk to each other about hopes, desires, wants, expectations, and timelines. Neither of you are mind readers and guys in particular need the proverbial dots colored a bright color and placed very close together. Although she may not be ready to begin a new relationship, sex for sex sake may help each of you find common ground all the while doing what orgasms do best by whatever means:

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As I see it, there are two problems:
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[*]Problem related to your virginity and the road leading to your "first time"
[*]Problem related to her willingness to commit to a relationship
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[QUOTE=thedon65;275959]being a virgin sex is something you should share with someone special the first time.[/QUOTE]
As long as you are comfortable with having sex with that person, then you can "lose it" with them.
As a guy, my first time was not special in any way other than it sucked in an epic scale.

Actually I can quite confidently say that if I had done it with someone I did not love, it would have more educational for me and we would both have enjoyed it much more.

[QUOTE=thedon65;275959]she says she is intrested in me but not 100% sure if she wants a relationship.[/QUOTE]
Don't ask her the question and don't ask yourself. Whatever is better (relationship or not) will probably come naturally.

That doesn't mean you should not make it clear if you are dating the person or not and what your mutual feelings are. Be careful not to get yourselves into a sticky situation.
What it does mean is that if you both want to date at some point, you may end up doing so unconsciously. If you are not dating because she really doesn't know (i.e. not an excuse), going along with the flow is probably best for everyone.

[QUOTE=thedon65;275959]Being both virgins i guess we are happy to lose it someone we wont regret losing it to, but i am mainly wondering if she just is actually unsure yet or just wanting sex?[/QUOTE]

Both are possible. Depending on her age, past (in)experiences and body (how she is wired), she might have a craving for sex that would surprise even the most horny men. Sexual frustration can be very hard to deal with.

Here is how I would take the decision if I where you:
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[*]You are comfortable with having sex with her even if she ends up having no romantic attachment to you
Do it.

[*]You like her and would be heartbroken if she didn't want to have a relationship.
Do NOT do it
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Additionally:
Romantic feelings are not a prerequisite for sex. If anything, they make things harder.
Love can (and will) make sex better and more fulfilling, but it is certainly not necessary, especially for your first time