That's pretty damned short, actually. I assume you're fairly young?

Don't be greedy. :D

Agree 100% with DVD! Consider yourself VERY fortunate. There are no ways to change the "down-time" a humans body requires!

Here's my rough observations, which are just based on me:

- It varies, with 10-15 minutes being pretty normal. It's sometimes shorter. Not normally longer, unless I'm tired or otherwise disinterested. That's between number 1 and number 2. From 2-3, 3-4 and so on they become significantly longer, apparently obeying some sort of power function.

- So far as I can tell, it's shorter after a less "intense" orgasm. Orgasms tend to be more intense the more build-up there is, so a relatively quick, relatively unexciting one tends to be followed by shorter refractory period. So ... there's no free lunch in nature or in society (unless you're an attractive woman who works with engineers, but that's another topic).

- You'd think a longer "abstention" period leading into the first one would result in a shorter refractory period, but it seems to be the other way around. Probably because the previous rule dominates over whatever other effect there might be.

- There's an element of randomness in any event, or at least an element of dependency on one or more unidentified variables.

kegels....or try the squeeze method....just look around there are tons of posts around this website....and you dont necessarily need the sex to last longer, you can just spend the 10-15 minutes kissing, touching, licking, fondling...well you get the idea. just cuz your finished doesnt mean sex is over...look at tantric sex...the whole idea behind it is that sex has no beginning or end...even if you come you can still continue to "make love"

[quote] is anything i could do to shorten my refactory period, its about 10 to 15 minutes(is that normal?). [/quote]

As noted, your down time is pretty much the norm. In answer to others who have asked, my reply is that the range is between 10 and 30 minutes.

[quote]the thing is my girlfriend is still realli aroused by the time im done the first time, which if i go slow will take about 10 minutes for me to ejaculate = ( , she understands that we have to wait for me to get back up, any suggestions on what to do in that time period my body needs?, since i cant realli change it. [/quote]

You are new to the Board and Forums. I recommend reading the Board Notices and then going through the Index and reading the articles on the how-tos of sex. The articles address and answer the most common concerns people write in about.

What you can do in the meantime depends upon what the two of you have planned. If your love making session is essentially over, then instead of rolling over and falling to sleep, spend some time in the afterglow, snuggling, cuddling, and caressing lightly in ways to comfort and not turn on.

An alternative is to help her have multiple orgasms. Women who want multiple orgasms can enjoy several within moments to minutes of the previous, and so it goes. This will keep you busy in the interim and you continue to kiss, caress and maintain (re)build her arousal to have one or more orgasms.

If your plan is to eventually have one or two more orgasms, then you can continue with the above as she caresses you just enough to keep your arousal from going completely away. As you approach the time you will be good to go, again, then begin making out in full. You can time any of her orgasms to coincide with any one of yours. If you have a long love making session plan, then the two of you can keep this scenario going until one or the other of you call a halt, tire out, or your body refuses to respond and have yet another climax for a few hours.

[quote] ..and anything i can do to lengthen the amount of time we have sex before i ejaculate the first time around? [/quote]

Please read the articles on making out and making love as well as Body Worship, and go back to the basics of learning how to make love. It's not all about Foreplay. If you have trouble controlling your climaxes, then read about the Squeeze technique and an exercise designed to give you back control.

There is no reason why the two of you cannot make love for two-three hours or more if it suits you. Just co-mingle lots of making out with Foreplay--or, if you want to have intercourse, then, that. This recipe works with any time frame within reason.

10 to 15 minutes sounds pretty good to me. (Ah, memories, sigh!!!)

[QUOTE=sera300;190940]There are no ways to change the "down-time" a humans body requires![/QUOTE]

[url=http://www.sex-project.com/multiplemale.shtml]*cough*Multipleorgasms*cough*

I'm only just beginning to experiment with this myself (Thanks go to EEK for the suggestion, as I had no idea it was possible). In fact, for myself, I've managed, on several occasions, to prevent ejaculation, and thus my refractory period. However, currently I've yet to master multiple male orgasms as after the first, I'm too sensitive to continue.

Still, look into this. There's a good chance it may help you. Of course, it requires work. But, it may be worth it in the long run :)

[quote=Xanthion;191041]*cough*Multipleorgasms*cough*

I'm only just beginning to experiment with this myself (Thanks go to EEK for the suggestion, as I had no idea it was possible). In fact, for myself, I've managed, on several occasions, to prevent ejaculation, and thus my refractory period. However, currently I've yet to master multiple male orgasms as after the first, I'm too sensitive to continue.

Still, look into this. There's a good chance it may help you. Of course, it requires work. But, it may be worth it in the long run :)[/quote]
Thanks Honey, I'll keep it in case I come across another man in my bed!;) I know how multiples work but so many men are unwilling to try! I can do it without issue (I am female)! But honestly, thanks for the link, I wish more men would read it!:)
At my age I am lucky if they can keep it up; hence, my dating "sabbatical"!