> Is there anything you can do to help you recover quicker after cumming so you can go again? When I masterbate, I can go 2 or 3 times in a row easy enough, but after sex if I pull out it stays limp for ages and gets sensitive.

I believe the answer for all of us is that it takes as long as it takes. Each person will have a different refractory (down time) based primarily upon age and inherent sex drive. When you say you can go 2 or 3 times in a row, how soon after one climax can you enjoy another?

Except for the hyper-sensitivity issue, there should be no difference between what happens when you masturbate and when you have intercourse or a hand job. I suggest that you and your partner continue to maintain your arousal by cuddling and fondling during this period of down time. In other words, do not let your arousal dwindle back down to the beginning; rather, keep on making out in order to rebuild your erection, later. Even if you do not loose your erection, don't give your penis too much attention right away, concentrate on the rest of your body.

The hyper-sensitivity is a result of hormones being released by the brain and is temporary. Women often experience this in the moments preceeding an orgasm while guys experience this immediately after. The discomfort manifests itself as pain, although it really isn't. This condition seems to come about as a result of becoming much more turned on when with our partner than we become when just masturbating. So, if you are wondering why this only happens when you are with her, this is the answer. She turns you on to a much greater degree than what happens when home alone.

> I seem not to be able to again, about 30-40 mins after I'm just too tired to continue so stop.

Women can also enjoy multiple orgasms. Most can have them pretty much back to back within moments of the previous one--and, more than the two or three we are limited to. I suggest that if the two of you want to enjoy multiple orgasms, that you manage them in a way that lets your partner have one or more in between two of yours. Alternately, the two of you can space one or more of hers out to match the next one of yours. Key to all this is to keep making out.

As for the sleepiness, that is just part of having an orgasm. They are an aid to sleep when appropriate; yet when you want to keep going the chemical release can be a hinderence. One thing that works is to get up and walk around and stir the body a bit before having another go.

EAT HER OUT! eat her out while your waiting, she will like it and if you like the smell and feel of her pussy then she can get pleasure while you recover. or finger her, if you need to wake up then see if she will move to another position like standing or sitting so she has to walk a bit and so do you, that should wake u up and the licking will get you aroused

Make sure you are properly hydrated, well rested, and have been taking your vitamins.