I suspect you got the idea from one of my posts; I am one of the few (admittedly) actively bisexual regular posters. Women with women are dealing with parts and responses that we can identify with. We "read" one another's responses more accurately and seem to have an innate sense of what feels best, when.

There is the additional factor that men seem to be more focused on the end result: orgasm. Women seem to be more focused on the path to get there. And, also understand that, for women, the orgasm may not be the most important thing. Women can have perfectly satisfactory sex with no orgasm. In fact, I sometimes prefer experiencing my partners, whether man or woman, to my own.

If you get a group of women talking about what they would wish their male partners would do differently, they will usually come up with something such as "be less focused on what is between our legs, and getting there too quickly, and more focused on how we respond to other touches."

To your specific question of oral sex, there is much to be addressed down there with one tongue. Women sense, from their partner's response, when it is time to linger or move on or speed up.

Some women, not all women. Thank you. But I wonder why you feel the need to compete, jjkool?

EvilEvilKitten you know it is the nature of men to compete, and of women too.

Actually, competition is unnecessary since each of us is unique and therefore has no equal.

If HE doesn't perform cunnilingus the way you like it - TELL HIM.
You don't have to SAY anything - your response when he does it right will tell him all he needs to know.

Since I am not into women at all, I cannot say if one gender does cunnilingus better than the other. The men I know perform cunnilingus, which to me is an appetizer, well within my specifications.

[QUOTE=Brandye;251998]I suspect you got the idea from one of my posts; I am one of the few (admittedly) actively bisexual regular posters. Women with women are dealing with parts and responses that we can identify with. We "read" one another's responses more accurately and seem to have an innate sense of what feels best, when.

There is the additional factor that men seem to be more focused on the end result: orgasm. Women seem to be more focused on the path to get there. And, also understand that, for women, the orgasm may not be the most important thing. Women can have perfectly satisfactory sex with no orgasm. In fact, I sometimes prefer experiencing my partners, whether man or woman, to my own.

If you get a group of women talking about what they would wish their male partners would do differently, they will usually come up with something such as "be less focused on what is between our legs, and getting there too quickly, and more focused on how we respond to other touches."

To your specific question of oral sex, there is much to be addressed down there with one tongue. Women sense, from their partner's response, when it is time to linger or move on or speed up.[/QUOTE]

Thank you for the post.
Hi guys, Im a newbie. Nice to join this forum.

[QUOTE=jjkool24;251997][COLOR="blue">how come women perform better sex (oral sex) to each other than men do[/COLOR]

How do we know which couples have more satisfactory sex, man w/man? Woman w/woman? Did Masters and Johnson ever do a survey? Has anyone since those days?

True or not, what is accurate to state is that women are more in tune with each other than are men. Because most satisfactory sex begins with the warm up and the build up of Necking and Petting, first and foremost, and this is what women require more than men, therein lies your answer.

[COLOR="blue">i just wanted to put out there that if the partners with different sexes communicate to each other. I believe that they would have a better sex life and/or oral. that said what do you guys think about it?[/COLOR] [/QUOTE]

You are correct. There is an article discussing the matter listed in the Index. I also mention this to one or more posters weekly it seems. Communication and Feedback go hand-in-hand. No one is a mind reader so the more information we exchange with our partner (same gender or opposite) about how we are responding to his/her caresses and for what we need now/next, the better the chances for greater satisfaction.

When a person masturbates, s/he benefits from an internal feedback that permits them to make tiny midcourse corrections when necessary in order to maximize or minimize what they are feeling. This is missing when we turn the reins over to a partner; therefore, some sort of verbal or non-verbal communication is beneficial. So, too, is providing feedback. You can do a site search on the two terms and probably find dozens of references.

As for us fellas, we tend to be more focused on the finish line than the journey to it. As pleasant as it is to get our proverbial rocks off regardless of our partner's gender, we too benefit from slowing down the "race" and benefitting from a lot more fooling around and making out on the way.

Male or female, each gender is more innately aware of how best to stimulate a partner of the same gender. So, while each person tends to stimulate themselves in the same general way for their gender, each one of us develops slight differences that are unique and specific to each of us. This is why communication and feedback are so very important.

Two typical examples of this are when a woman strokes a man's penis for the first few times, she often tends to be rough and jerky with her movements. The same can be said about a man stimulating a woman. Even when a person has acquired a lot of experience, there are just enough variations to the theme to make communication and feedback an integral part of how best to make love with a partner--any partner.