Ive put this in the "pleasing him section" although its about pleasing her.
just hear me out...
If your man isnt pleasing you and you need to fake an orgasm just so you don hurt his feelings or damage his ego, you are sorely mitaken. Please,please ladys confront your man and tell him that you never came when he looks at you and sais "did you?" Be honest, cause if hes asking you, hes concernd for your satisfaction aswell, and most guys will do anything it takes to satisfy a woman the way she needs to be satisfied.
In the end, by pleasing her (really & honestly pleasing her) lies a satisfaction greater than his own. Both the guy and the girl are capable of climaxing through sexual intercourse(unless there is a anatomical disposition or abnormality) and i am open to correction. However, with extensive foreplay and finding what woks for you both this can be acomplished.
One of the members "forgive me for not remembering" quotes are "if at first you dont succeed, try and try again"
Ladys please inspire more metrosexual men to be.
I'd agree with the spirit of this post, but have to say that many times the question "did you come" is NOT an indication that the guy is concerned with her satisfaction. HE wants her to cum, even if it's not important to her - which it isn't always. He wants to believe he "made her cum." There are hundreds of threads and posts on this forum that will demonstrate this.
I'd say consider this: if the orgasm was THAT important to HER, why would she lie about it? Seems like she'd be more inclined to work harder at talking about it (admittedly can be difficult, particularly in a newer relationship) and "working" at achieiving it.
It would not please me if my partner lied to me... but what would distress me the most is that she thought she had to... and I'd wonder why she did.
I agree with WallyLama...which is very hypocritical because I fake it.
My guy is loving and sweet and never demands anything of me but when I (or most women so I've heard) am in that situation where their guy has just put his full blown effort into doing it and they look at you and go "did you?" and you didn't....I don't like lying. But I also follow the philosphy that sometimes the truth hurts more then a lie. Once again, I'm being hypocritical. lol
I know I feel bad..well perhaps not bad...but, um, inadequate when I can't make him orgasm (there was one time no matter what we did, he never came). So I feel like that's how he would feel if I always said no...that and I don't know if I've ever experienced one. lol. I"ve had the sensation but I don't know. The world didn't shake. lol
hmmm.... I guess I'm feeling kinda mushy or something, because I rarely post much detail about myself... but I feel compelled to say this:
For the first time in way too many years (don't ask LOL) I am in a loving relationship that is based on total honesty. It is incredible and I highly recommend it. LOL When you lie and fake you are assuming total responsibility for what is right and correct (it's correct to lie? hmmm). Far better to share - everything.
One of the interesting things you may discover is that you actually agree... he might, for example, be relieved to discover he doesn't have to make a full blown effort... you can just enjoy each other and stop worrying.
Sacred cows make great steaks, so let's slaughter some... and destroying stereotypes is kinda fun.
There is no law that says an orgasm is required for him to feel adequate and you to feel complete.
Hectic!! thanx Wallylama & Lass, Its come down to a matter of opinion then has it? Well then my opinion is this... Yes guys get the same satisfaction out of just merely being with his gf and being intimate with eachother, but why cant she experience the same satisfaction as i do??? I just think that its unfair, although she may not.As i only want the best for her and i want her to be happy. For example.. We,my gf and i, spoke about it and you wouldnt believe how much our sex life has improved, i can actually see her glowing now and she cant get enough of it,meaning she wants it as much as i do now. Yes it took me roughly 2hours of foreplay in the begining to achieve simultaneouse orgasm with her during intercourse, but now it can take as quick as 10minuets,for those times when we wanna have a quicky and both be satisfied. However we still opt for the 2hours or more cause we wanna appreciate eachother.
My point is it can be done, have an open and honest relationship and never stop trying, eventually you will get it right.