I had a very hard childhood and I was sexually abused by several men for a long time. I was always scared of relationships. I have decided to have sex basically just to see if I'll be okay with it. Its going to be with a friend of a friend, but I think thats okay because I just want the experience and want to know I'll be okay. I am, although, worried about a few things. 1)Will it hurt and bleed; is there anyway to help that from not happening if it does? 2) How do I know what to do? does he do everything? will I just know what to do? 3) What is exceptable for a guy to do to you and what is expected for you to do to a guy?
I really do want this, but I just need to know somethings first! If you have anyother tips as well, I'd appriciate them. Thanks!
on the most part it will all come naturally. chances are you will suck at it since its your first time. the only advice i can give you is do some reading on this site. thats what i did and when i had my first i gave her multiple orgasms :) so a little research wont hurt you
Maybe you should start out w/ some heavy petting before you jump into real sex. I would think the first step would be just having someone touch you down there. See how that goes for awhile then maybe take the next step. Dont have sex just to prove to yourself that you can do it!
i agree with buttercup, one step at a time, if it works then i guess all the better if you get into the petting and decide to go all the way, but perhaps you would want to save that for someone ese with whom you will have opened yourself up to in a relationship... that really depends on you and your situation... good luck,