Please read my essay on the art of making out, Chapter Three, here:

Just scroll down.

As you read you will discover that making out is a progressive process; so too is a relationship. A new relationship may or may not begin somewhat tentatively, and as the couple gains familiarity with each other and each acquires more confidence and trust, the boundaries widen a little bit more each month.

She will in her own time and if she desires, pleasure you with a hand job and/or oral stimulation. Do not ask or demand; however, feel free to have some discussions with her about where the two of you are headed with all this. Now, having said that, there is nothing that says you cannot steer the process along. As your explorations become bolder, and as you move around the proverbial "bases", you can place her hand over the bulge in your trousers. If she is comfortable with this level of intimacy she will let it rest there for awhile, perhaps doing nothing else for the present.

At some point in the future, and depending upon what she is willing to let you do for her, you might consider unfastening your trousers and/or fly and placing her hand on top of your underware over the bulge. Fast forwarding a bit more and a few sessions later, if things are going well, you can either slip her hand inside, or, free your penis and bring it out in the open, whichever approach seems appropriate. If she is comfortable with this level of intimacy, you can at some point pull your trousers down giving her full access to your penis and scrotum. She may or may not do anything with them. You can certainly encourage her and guide her by taking her hand in yours and guiding her movements. Do not force the matter if she is at all hesitant.

Now, in the real world she may require this slow approach, or, she may be much bolder and wish to proceed faster and in a shorter span of time. However it turns out, you and hopefully she will have already read this informational Sticky post:

How Do I Get Him/Her to Orgasm From a Hand/Blow Job?

> I am not very good at asking for things of this sort, but I would just like to know the best way to go about this.

There is also no predicting how all this will work out as the process of making love is a dynamic action between the two of you. Another aspect to all this is the process called "Implied Consent". You will learn about this as you read the last section of Chapter Three.

> she has already had sex once, but I have not.

If by "sex" you mean intercourse, let me just interject words of caution. In my never to be so humble opinion, at your respective ages you are too young to be engaging in intercourse, an adult activity with adult responsibilities. Mother Nature plays a trick on us by giving us the ability to enjoy orgasms and to procreate years before she provides the mental and emotional maturity to go along with this responsibility. I urge the two of you to limit your involvement to Foreplay only for the next few years. If you do decide to discount this advice then by all means wear a condom. Moreover, she should be an equal partner and protect herself as well by being on the pill or using some other form of highly reliable contraceptive. DO NOT rely on only one form at your ages. If you are not ready for the responsibility of becoming an unwed father, raising a child and forever having the future course of your life changed forever, you must wear a condom. Similarly, the same circumstances apply to her and she should take equal responsibility for her protection.

I hope this answers your questions. Please feel free to continue the discussion if you have additional questions or concerns.

if you really like her and u know or have a good idea she likes you come out and say it worst thing is that she says shes not ready best thing is that she feels the same way i was a lucky one

the best way to ask for pleasure is to give it first