> When we are having Sex im Thrusting her Non stop pulling out and all n etc shes Riding me this is lasting bout 20mins but I want to last longer

Twenty minutes is l o n g by any woman's tolerence and measuring stick.

There are two techniques that a couple can use to put off a climax. Brandye recommends the "Squeeze" technique that works well in the moment. I recommend a training exercise in which the two of you participate in order for you to learn to recognize the various sensations associated with a pending orgasm as well as the triggering itself. To learn more, do a search of the site using my name and the terms "Premature Ejaculation" or PE.

> She finds it hard to orgasm and im patient ive told her this many times dont worry if it takes time n all because during sex and if she wants to cum with me she will have to play.

We state this over and over each week. Each one of us (male and female) is responsible for our own orgasms. We do not give them away to our lover. All any of us can do is to help him/her achieve their own. In order to best accomplish this, we must teach each other how we stroke a penis or finger a clitoris when alone and then to take our lover's hand and guide their movements in order for them to learn to mimic our unique and specific motions, rhythms, and pressures. Communication is critically important. We must provide either verbal or non-verbal feedback on how we are responding and for what we may need, now. When we masturbate we benefit from internal feedback that permits us to modulate our movements and make any "midcourse" corrections along the way to nirvana. When we turn the task over to our partner, there is no feedback except for the words or utterences we whisper an/or by what a squeeze of the hand, etc., conveys.

> i cant make her cum by thrusting and other positions because i get close to cumming after 20mins plus.

Most positions do not make it easy for a woman to achieve an orgasm, therefore most skilled, knowledgeable lovers take matters into their own hand by reaching around and fingering his lover's clitoris and labia. Taking this a bit further, he will see to her pleasure either before intercourse or after, if it is her wish.

Ask a woman and she will tell you that if intercourse lasts ten minutes or longer it is too long and she will become tired, sore, and bored. Twenty minutes is way way too extreme. Intercourse is designed to peak each other's ardor and then to release the build up of tension and excitement. Intercourse should not be a way in which you stroke endlessly (more than ten minutes) in order to build all this up. This is the purpose of foreplay and all that has gone on up to that point.

[QUOTE=Jadc]and is it true because of me age premature ejaculation?[/QUOTE]

You dont have premature Ejaculation.
PE is when you either ejaculate with only maybe a minute...give or take...of thrusting, or you may even ejaculate before your penis even barely touches her vagina.
20 minutes of continuous thrusting is more than sufficient and like Doc said... not ALL women...most women...dont get off by penetration alone. Some women dont orgasm at all from just penetration. I myself... and I think the majority of women...need some clitoral stimulation along w/ the penetration to reach orgasm. Whether its him rubbing or usually its me using my fingers or a vibe on my clit.

Not just the thumb's up...lol.
20 minutes is a looong time...and i would highly suggest playing with her yourself, if at al possible during sex...maybe you'll feel more like you did it? (I know! We're responsible for our own....but it's a frame of mind that can help sometimes)

> Well thank you for the time and effort you put into this helps quite abit...

You're welcome. I am happy you found some value in what I outlined and appreciate the information.

> surpose im young and its my first sexual intercoursed girlfriend been goin out for year now but theres still some learning right?

There is an ol' adage that states something to the effect that if you stop learning you might as well be dead. In other words, regardless of a person's age, to stop learning is to stagnate and give up.

Of course you should continue to learn and explore and try new things throughout your life together. This not only goes for sex but for other aspects, also. Variety is spice and there are always people sharing what they have done that may spark an interest for you; moreover, if you read the book "Joy of Sex" as Brandye recommends, you will have more than enough variety to spice things up for years to come. One major area to learn more about is the romance aspect of sex. Romancing your partner should begin hours or a day ahead of the time the two of you become physical (Quickies and spontaneity aside). There are so many things you can do to show her how you love her, value her, appreciate your life together, etc. Think about how you can plant the seeds of interest and expectation and excitement hours or a day before you actually get down to it. (What can you say or do that will make her think about you and doing it all the day long so that when you do finally get together she is so ready?) This can be a word or comment or a love not left for her to discover or if she works in an office to go there and when she isn't around, writing "forgetmenots" on several pages througout her yellow sticky notepad. At home you can greet her when she comes home by being in the bathtub waiting for her. Or, you can purchase rose petals and lay them out between the bed and the bedroom door, or down the hallway, or the bathroom in the case of taking a hot soak and then a shower together. Think about the ambiance of the room. How can you make it better? Candles? A nightlight that is unobtrusive? Warming the room so she is not cold when undressed? Soft music played very low? Changing the way the two of you make out (and where) so it is not always the same and predictable. Even if there are times when it is inconvenient or impossible to make love in a different place, you can certainly do it crossways on the bed or with your heads at the foot of the bed and often this is enough to keep bordom at bay.

> and is it true because of me age premature ejaculation?

As mentioned by Demonbuttercup, above, P E manifests itself during the first minute or so of intercourse. It can happen upon touching the penis to the vaginal entrance; upon inserting; upon the initial forward stroke or the return; during any of the first few strokes. P E is not the problem if it happens several minutes later. What that is is simply an unplanned unfortunate happenstance.

Even if P E is not the problem and you simply climax before you desire to, the fixes are the same. So, like so many of us, you might be prone to or even actively suffer from P E, yet if it doesn't affect the first couple of minutes of intercourse, it is not an issue.

Lackadaisical, you are right on target.

> Well thank you for the time and effort you put into this helps quite abit...

You're welcome. I am happy you found some value in what I outlined and appreciate the information.

> surpose im young and its my first sexual intercoursed girlfriend been goin out for year now but theres still some learning right?

There is an ol' adage that states something to the effect that if you stop learning you might as well be dead. In other words, regardless of a person's age, to stop learning is to stagnate and give up.

Of course you should continue to learn and explore and try new things throughout your life together. This not only goes for sex but for other aspects, also. Variety is spice and there are always people sharing what they have done that may spark an interest for you; moreover, if you read the book "Joy of Sex" as Brandye recommends, you will have more than enough variety to spice things up for years to come. One major area to learn more about is the romance aspect of sex. Romancing your partner should begin hours or a day ahead of the time the two of you become physical (Quickies and spontaneity aside). There are so many things you can do to show her how you love her, value her, appreciate your life together, etc. Think about how you can plant the seeds of interest and expectation and excitement hours or a day before you actually get down to it. (What can you say or do that will make her think about you and doing it all the day long so that when you do finally get together she is so ready?) This can be a word or comment or a love not left for her to discover or if she works in an office to go there and when she isn't around, writing "forgetmenots" on several pages througout her yellow sticky notepad. At home you can greet her when she comes home by being in the bathtub waiting for her. Or, you can purchase rose petals and lay them out between the bed and the bedroom door, or down the hallway, or the bathroom in the case of taking a hot soak and then a shower together. Think about the ambiance of the room. How can you make it better? Candles? A nightlight that is unobtrusive? Warming the room so she is not cold when undressed? Soft music played very low? Changing the way the two of you make out (and where) so it is not always the same and predictable. Even if there are times when it is inconvenient or impossible to make love in a different place, you can certainly do it crossways on the bed or with your heads at the foot of the bed and often this is enough to keep bordom at bay.

> and is it true because of me age premature ejaculation?

As mentioned by Demonbuttercup, above, P E manifests itself during the first minute or so of intercourse. It can happen upon touching the penis to the vaginal entrance; upon inserting; upon the initial forward stroke or the return; during any of the first few strokes. P E is not the problem if it happens several minutes later. What that is is simply an unplanned unfortunate happenstance.

Even if P E is not the problem and you simply climax before you desire to, the fixes are the same. So, like so many of us, you might be prone to or even actively suffer from P E, yet if it doesn't affect the first couple of minutes of intercourse, it is not an issue.

Lackadaisical, you are right on target.

Woo!
Is this helping any, Jadc?