ok, me and my boyfriend are trying to have sex well havent but we talked about it and want to. it will be both of our first time. what i would like to know from you people is about the pain. ive been hearing it hurts the first time. i wanted to know what does the hurt feel like? is it a quick thing like a few seconds or stay for a while? when will the hurt stop? after 1st time? 2nd?
would it be diffucult to put his penis in as its my first time and im small petite? once the lips have open will it be difficult for him to insert it or it will just go in? neither of us like fingering so we would do foreplay.
i feel like ive asked stupid things, maybe i have, its just that im really nervous. if any1 could help me with my questions or add stuff on that would be great.
thanks in advance
We women are each diferent. For some it is very painful; for some it is a nothing; for most there is a bit of a twinge and that is it with a little blood.
Given your lack of knowledge, read the post and thread on Am I Ready in Sexual Health: women. It sounds like you should learn lots more before you embark on this journey. We do recommend that all women have complete gyn exams before becoming sexually active. That eliminates much worry later. Read everything here on contraception. I would recommend condoms plus spermicidal vaginal jelly whic is both lubricant and helps prevent pregnancy. Nothing short of remaining virgin assures that pregnancy will not occur.
i no what it is, its just im nervous about it so i was talkn like that jus like erm getting reassurance bout it.
For me, it wasn't the actual act that hurt but just the initial penetration. I've been sexually active for about 3 months now and the first penetration is still painful. I was sore for a few days afterwards but it's not too bad or painful. I actually find the feeling pleasurable and it goes away rather quickly. If the two of you do decide to go through with it, then you should definitely make it clear to him that you're vagina is very sensitive and that to start off with he'll need to take it slow. Also be sure to make it clear that if you ask him to stop that he'll stop. Trust will make the experience a lot more satisfying. Don't hesitate to think through the pros and cons before making your final decision.