Ok, well my last relationship didn't work out and I found someone new. I've talked to her and she said she likes it all but anal since her ex-husband raped her that way when they were married before their divorce. I know she won't do that, and I respect that and won't go near it. My question to you is: I don't know exactly what she likes as she won't tell me, so what does "liking it all" mean? I keep asking her since communication is important, and I don't want to do the wrong thing. What can I do?
Wed, 11/17/2010 - 02:55
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question for you gals
It seems pretty clear that she doesn't have limitations other than that. Sooo... do whatever you would normally do, explore with her, ask her what she likes, see what she responds to. In general, women usually respond well to oral and like being touched. Most women enjoy longer foreplay. It should become pretty clear what she enjoys and doesn't enjoy. Let her guide you.
Use "Implied Consent". Find the article listed in the Index that discusses this approach.
Encourage her to give you feedback on how she is responding to your various caresses and for what she would like now/next.
If she will not do this, kindly softly let her know that relationships including the romantic aspect are partnerships. Making love is not what we do to each other; rather, what we do with and for each other in partnership. She needs to contribute information, if not now, at least sometime in the near future when she trusts you more.
Do you homework!
With her consent - meaning ask, buddy - tell her to be passive - no moving!- then begin caressing this and that in various ways - take note of what 'works' for her and what does not and remember them.
If she moves - jumps your bones - good, it is what you want.
Do this and then sit her down and tell her that she needn't hide from you ever again. This "she won't tell me" has got to stop as it is the mark of being a child not an adult.
She has declared anal off limits but indicated that she is willing to try virtually anything else. You will find much that she likes and maybe a bit she does not. You have the green light. You will each learn some things from Evil's suggestion.