As Doc says, there's lots to consider, practice and TALK about with her first.

From what I've understood in your post, there's quite a jump from liking anal (in what form) to double penetration with a strap on.

My last relationship, was hampered by poor communication, on both parts. On the occasions, when new sexual activities got tried in sex, it wouldn't go great We'd then talk about it afterwards which was often enjoyable, and always productive. But too late, the bad/mediocre experience had happened.

In my current (and fabulous relationship) we're both very open and communicative, including about sex. So we've talked about a number of things first. Which is enjoyable, arrousing, builds trust and intimacy. Then most importantly, when we do get experimental, we get it right for both of us! Communicating along the way. My point for you is, discuss the techniques and boundaries. For example, my girlfriend also likes anal stimulation, but not to the extent of full on porn style anal penetration. Due to size hurting her. She does really enjoy stimulation progressively with fingers or toys and plenty of lube during oral and/or sex. This may lead to double penetration with a smaller (than me) toy. Such a remote bullet or butt plug. This gives me a different sensation too, which is very enjoyable.

So talk it through and in doing so, you may find out new ideas and fantasies to try!

Enjoy!

"dp"? Double penetration?? Double dipping? Other?

> she likes Anal , and vaginal

If you mean that you would like to penetrate her vaginally and anally at the same time, I'd say slow way down and learn more about anal penetration, first and certainly before considering doing anything without knowing how and what the pitfalls are.

Have the two of you had anal intercourse or is this still in the wishful thinking stage?

"Playing Ball" and How To Tips for Prostate Massage
This is also an excellent tutorial for people interested in and concerned about the how-to of Anal stimulation as well as play.

> i have been offering to have a mmf threesome but she continually declines saying that she couldnt get over the idea of having sex with someone other than me

This is probably a good call on her part. Why? Well, consider these facts: first, that engaging in sex is often different for each of the genders with there being a much greater chance for a breech to a woman's psyche when trying to separate sex for sex sake and sex as an outward expression for the love she has for her partner; second, that 3-somes more often than not end up placing a strain on the 2-some, sometimes ending it.

Men can enjoy sex for sex sake much easier and can also make love with no difficulty emotionally.

If the two of you have not yet engaged in anal intercourse, then learn how, first by reading the above information, before poking at her with your new toy.

> i was wondering for those of you who dp ,is it the mental aspect that made it incredible for you (as in oh my gosh i have seceral men willing to serve me etc ) or can it still be as pleasurable with one guy that has a toy attached to him ?

Asked and answered. Just know what you alone with her are doing before doing it and then proceeding with caution.

> i would like to know because i dont want to put in a bunch of time and effort for something that is only marginally worthwhile

Relationships are partnerships and this is especially true of the romantic and sexual aspects as well. Making love is not what we do to each other; rather, what we do with and for each other. The two of you need to talk to each other about this and you need to learn what is acceptable and enjoyable for her before doing anything.

> i know that caressing , sweet nothings, dirty talk and things of that sort heighten the experience for the woman

Women can and often do enjoy having sex without necessarily ending with and orgasm. Men, not so much.

Caresses, whispering sweet nothings, and things of that sort not only heighten the experience--they are all prerequisites to fully arousing her! If the two of you are not spending at least half an hour to fooling around and making out before moving on to the inevitable conclusion then you are moving much to rapidly and not fully doing your job to the best of your ability. While you can be UP and ready in a matter of minutes--not so members of the fairer gender. Know and understand this basic truth.

> i cant help but feel that since i was not born with two penises i probably cant satisfy her the way i know i could

male fantasy? Do you want to have sex for sex sake and as a means to an end--meaning getting your rocks off, or, do you want to do all this as a way to express the love you have for each other? Case in point: It is all well and good to fantasize about 3-somes and double penetration, however, in the real world of mature sex play, few people regularly have threesomes and fewer double dip and if and when either are done, it is only occasionally and for variety and spice--certainly not as a standard operating procedure.

Had I to offer an educated guess, I'd say that a dildo with a phallus for each orifice to be used for the express purpose of pleasuring your partner to the brink of an orgasm and beyond is going to be problematical at best. Why? Because for the most part, vaginal orgasms often require clitoral stimulation in addition and there is no guarantee that the vaginal phallus is going to rock her world by rubbing the right area(s); secondly, as pleasurable as anal penetration can be, it is generally more effective only after a person {male or female) has become fully aroused, thirdly, and perhaps most importantly--orgasms for a woman are much more notional and difficult to come by than they are for men. Understanding this and that distractions can often deter or sidetrack an orgasm in progress, I'd recommend staying strictly with your finger as an adjunct to your penis. Why? Because your finger is much more dexterous and responsive. Another reason is that full penetration is unnecessary because the anus itself is richly endowed with sensitive nerve endings both outside and just inside along the sphincters.

I'm not suggesting that the two of you cannot enjoy yourselves with this device, only that you need to know a lot more about female sexual response and the mechanics involved. If all you know is based upon your male perspective then you have much to acquire and add.

-doc

once in awhile my wife likes me to finger her ass as I take her from behind and once in awhile likes a dilldo in her front while I am in her ass, so I would say you idea is worth while.
Good luck
Bear

Know how to go from anal to pussy, from doggy style, but yeah she only wants sex with you because itz only you she wants...maybe the toy you bought her might please her try to talk it out abit to see if she'll enjoy it...good luck

I like DP.
I use a toy in my pussy and my husband in my ass.

I would like to try it with 2 guys one day