I was just curious, as a man, can you feel a woman's orgasm if she comes around your penis? I do not think that my BF can really tell mine. I used to fake orgasms when we were first dating - which I have since stopped doing. He could always feel the "fake" ones, because all I was doing was clamping down my muscles that I have control over. An orgasm is an involuntary response and now that I have real orgasms, I noticed that he cannot feel them like he could feel the "fake" ones. Is that the same for all men? For what it's worth, as a woman I can not really feel his orgasm either, all I feel is a barely perceptible feeling of warmth when he is cumming.
Mon, 10/29/2007 - 18:48
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Question for men: Can you feel her orgasm?
Yup! pretty much, Katie. I've written about this frequently and it is covered in one of the Sticky posts.
We cannot tell. While a guy may "pop" the question, the one asked a lot before and after is "did you cum (yet)?" This begs the answer either with verbal or non-verbal feedback and is a necessary part of etiquette, me thinks. You can let him know with a whispered exclamation or a squeeze of the hand or some other form of body language neither of which will interrupt the mood.
Oh sorry for bringing up something that was already covered. I briefly browsed the sticky posts but didn't see the question answered, I guess I just missed it.
Personally I really hate it when a guy asks "did you cum?", luckily I haven't heard that in awhile. I think communication is key, but I never realized until just recently that my BF really can't feel anything when I cum. Seems disappointing. He really enjoyed my "faking" it (feeling my muscles moving, when I move them on my own) and said it made his orgasm stronger. I thought that perhaps a real orgasm for me, which is of course much more enjoyable than faking it, would feel just as good for him, but I don't think he can feel it at all. I thought since the penis is more sensitive than the inside of the vagina, that maybe his sensation would be better than mine.
I never have to tell him because my muscles tight up considerably, so much its even painful for him sometimes. The only time he ever asks is when I haven't LOL.
As for him I always know when he cums because of his reactions, and I can feel a little bit of warmth.
We women have such a variety of orgasmic response that we do confuse our partners. Sometimes I heave a heavy sigh and that is it; sometimes it is a seismic event; and, there is everything in between.
I try to make it clear that I have gone over the top. Telling him I want him in; whispering, Wow! or otherwise indicating that what is going to happen is what is going to happen. And, sometimes, that is simply enjoying what he has done with or without orgasm.
The powerful ones leave no question but the gentler ones I am certain he cannot feel.
I finally got tired of asking so I ask my fiance if she would just say "I'm cumming" when she gets off (or something similar) and she does it most of the time and it really helps, especially when she talks dirty about it too, that seems to put me over the edge.
Yes. I can tell in the breathing, the dilation of her pupils and the uncontrolled pulsation of the vagina. In the case of my wife she becomes immobile as she is overcum by the intensity of her orgasm. This often makes it difficult for me if we are in missionary position because her legs go stiff and she sticks them straight out, so I can barely move.
It is different with every woman. I had one girlfriend that I could tell was cumming when I gave her cunnilingus because of the way she would tremble.
[QUOTE=grizz2534;197684]I finally got tired of asking so I ask my fiance if she would just say "I'm cumming" when she gets off (or something similar) and she does it most of the time and it really helps, especially when she talks dirty about it too, that seems to put me over the edge.[/QUOTE]
^LOL, that's awesome! Awesome in a man way.
I can't "feel" it, but I can hear it! And no, she doesn't scream, talk dirty, or tell me. It's more of a somewhat odd range of sounds that she makes...I really want to laugh, but I restrain myself. It's more cute then anything else. She's a cutie:D