I am not a virgin, I had sex with one man once, he was on the small side...and countless times with my fiancee, and have masturbated way too much :D. I used to be a gymnast, and I do kegels regularly. So my question is, have you ever been with a woman who was too tight? My partner comments sometimes, especially after I've cum that I am so tight it hurts him. It never hurts me in the slightest, and of course he's not complaining. He is on the larger side of average, 8-8.5 inches long and about 6 around I guess. I was just wondering if anyone else experienced this or not, my gyne even said I am exceptionally tight for not being a virgin, he was afraid I wouldn't be able to have a pap smear because the speculum would hurt me too much. It didn't, apparently my skin is VERY elastic down there, more so than an average woman...possibly from gymnastics I guess, since you have to squeeze and use those muscles a lot. I also found, what I use to masturbate is a brush handle with a girth about 2.5-3 inches around, and since being with my fiancee I want something larger...but when I use things close to his size (I've tried 4 and 5 inch girth), its too big :confused: I can't even get it inside, and if I do it hurts. Its really strange...Any thoughts?
Thu, 11/01/2007 - 22:17
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Question for men: Can a vagina be TOO tight?
A vagina can be too tight, but I have never experienced one (once it was wet and ready for sex).
"If" your measurements are correct, your husband is more than "on the large side of average" - he is large! I can understand it perhaps being awkward for him to get inside you, but it should not be painful for him - especially if it isn't for you. Even if your opening is relatively small, you obviously have more "give", or it would presumably hurt you too.
The solution might well be ... lots of foreplay (to fully loosen you up), lots of lubricant (to ease friction) and for him to take it slowly to allow your body to adjust to him.
Failing all that, if this remains a problem you should both talk to your Doctor for professional advice.
(p.s. I don't know why you wouldn't also ask the ladies here for their thoughts - I would have expected them to be much more knowledgeable about this than the men! )
[QUOTE=Brandye;198012]1. Over eight inches is very, very large (no matter what some men will tell you at the bar).
2. We all have some limitations based on our bodies and relative parts of one another's bodies.
3. After orgasm, women tend to become relaxed and their vaginas loosen up - at least for a short while. You may be changing position (dropping legs or rolling a bit) that makes it seem that you are tightening after orgasm.
4. Like most women, I have never encountered one that I could not accept but I do have some preferences. Your doctor is probably right - it is not a "problem." In my case, I do not enjoy a "bar rigid" penis'. I like just a little flex so that I can adjust a bit to get the best pressure. It feels more like I am being impaled than screwed and cannot move as I like.
We all adjust to what we are using. That includes accepting some limitations in position or movement because none of us can do everything with anything.[/QUOTE]
Ah well I enjoy his size, it doesn't hurt me and I love feeling full. I tend to tense up my whole body at the moment I orgasm, then I turn to jelly about 5 minutes after, maybe that is why. He is quite flexible, and I also enjoy it like that, I find that if I masturbate afterwards it hurts until I get used to it because the brush handle is so rigid. :(
1. Over eight inches is very, very large (no matter what some men will tell you at the bar).
2. We all have some limitations based on our bodies and relative parts of one another's bodies.
3. After orgasm, women tend to become relaxed and their vaginas loosen up - at least for a short while. You may be changing position (dropping legs or rolling a bit) that makes it seem that you are tightening after orgasm.
4. Like most women, I have never encountered one that I could not accept but I do have some preferences. Your doctor is probably right - it is not a "problem." In my case, I do not enjoy a "bar rigid" penis'. I like just a little flex so that I can adjust a bit to get the best pressure. It feels more like I am being impaled than screwed and cannot move as I like.
We all adjust to what we are using. That includes accepting some limitations in position or movement because none of us can do everything with anything.
Thanks :) Well the issue isn't him getting in so much, its positions that we cannot do because I am too tight, or after I've came it gets too tight. I don't think its lack of foreplay because I am always soaking :p that's what makes it so odd! My doctor didn't seem to think it was an issue, it it doesn't hurt so much he has to stop, I was just curious if anyone else experienced it really. Its not like I am a small woman, I am 5'7" and around 150 pounds, he can go fully inside me when I am ready for him.
As for his measurements, I know the length is correct (I've checked :D) but not sure about the girth, I just measured how it fits in my hand LOL. And of course women are more than welcome to answer, just when I first wrote this I intended to be asking about tightness in general, not my own.
I think you should experiment with more than a brush handle. Buy some toys and get used to masturbating with something more like your man. Maybe try something like these
https://www.sensualplayland.com/index.asp?PageAction=VIEWCATS&Category=31
OR These
https://www.sensualplayland.com/index.asp?PageAction=VIEWCATS&Category=27
You can always put a butt plug in yourself and get used to the size before he ventures in. https://www.sensualplayland.com/index.asp?PageAction=VIEWCATS&Category=40
You have to get used to accomodating a large penis. If you are tight and he is extra big, it could be uncomfortable and he could injure himself if in the wrong position. He should work you with his fingers more too. Have him stretch you out a little bit before you actually start having sex.
Good Luck!
[QUOTE=curious_woman;198009]just when I first wrote this I intended to be asking about tightness in general, not my own.[/QUOTE]
I guess to answer this question from that perspective, it is possible to be too tight. The problem would probably be more for the female though, pain during intercourse. And possibly difficulty getting it in to start with. It shouldn't be a big problem though, just a matter of lots of foreplay and maybe lube then fingering first followed by entering slowly.
It shouldn't be so tight that it hurts the male.. Unless the angle is changing and it really is tight.
Thanks arutha, its nice getting another opinion. I guess it doesn't hurt him THAT much, he's never stopped, maybe he likes it :confused:
One of my lovers was, very tight. I don't recall feeling "pain" but I do remember having much more problems controlling ejaculation. Certainly not an unpleasant feeling. :p
I think it is unlikely that a male would experience pain from penetrating a tight vagina. The most I have encountered is insufficient friction due to my penis being gripped rather tightly, resulting in a lack of stimulation while thrusting. The fact that I was wearing a condom might also have contributed. A change of position is usually called for in that situation.