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> EXCUSE ME FOR EXCESSIVE FOUL LANGUAGE LOLZ...

You have not used any particularly foul words, although the dictionary has many substitutes longer than four letters. :confused: Please understand that the site does have high standards for content and form.

> i ask many of my friends some say they do get boners and some dont even get hard they tell me..i was like are you serious.. how do you not get hard when a girl grinding on you.. there something wrong their

They do; they just do not admit to it. Anytime any of our five senses become stimulated, we respond with erections--pure d-simple. What is wrong is that they more than likely are fibbing to save face or demonstrate that they supposedly have self control. Don't worry about it. Having erections when in the close proximity of a pretty girl is a natural reaction. Here is what you should know that is a very important concept regarding mind over matter:

Girls secretly enjoy knowing that they have the ability to cause a guy to have an erection. It is a power that they enjoy using. My recommendation is to not let this bother you and enjoy it for what it is. If she chances to feel your erection, fine. If she notices a bulge in your pants, fine. If she sees a wry knowing little smile on your face, very fine.

> my dick gets hard and sometimes i back down cause im like oh wow or the girl does not even care.

Depending upon your relationship with the girl in question, backing down/away slightly is the appropriate etiquette.

If she seems not to care, one of two scenarios are at play:

S#1-- she does really care, yet is doing a great job of concealing the power she is wielding
S#2-- she hasn't yet got a clue

> please tell me a good reason why u go clubbing?

I grew up in California's Mother Lode gold country and over the years have lived in cities of various sizes, and now Sacramento. The club scene is not as popular in areas outside of major metropolitan areas so I was never exposed to this form of social interaction. I also do not like drinking, yet do have wine with dinner or an occasional mixed drink. So bars were of no interest. I do occasionally go to a lounge where Ballroom dancing is done and enjoy that with other like minded men and women, yet buy non-alcoholic beverages to help support the musicians.

Your question does not hinge upon the yes or no condition of an erection; it has more to do with social interaction and meeting others and having a fun time passing time.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

If I think he's attractive, it's awesome.

I don't consider myself attractive as in really pretty or beautiful but my ex husband says he only needs to be around me or touch me in a certain place and he gets hard.If the girl really likes the guy she should reply with a sexy comment or glance.It would make him feel less embarassed and maybe lead to something else later in the evening.