How common is it for a girl to lie to a guy about how many other guys she has been with? Do you usually say less than the truth, or more? How common is it for a girl to go out and get smashed and sleep with some random guy even if she is in a serious relationship? Just wondering what the girls think, I've heard, although I don't do this, that most guys exaggerate how many girls they've been with, and that most girls don't admit to all of them. Also heard of many guys that cheat on the girlfriends but don't tell them because they were drunk and figure it didn't mean anything.
PS - Guess you could say I'm a little paranoid because my girl has been out of country for almost four months....
I'm sorry, I wasn't ever trying to say that all women lie, that men don't lie, or anything like that. Basically I asked this question out of curiosity. I know that a number of men will exaggerate the number of women he has been with, and I was just wondering if this was a common thing for woman to do, except the opposite of what a man would do. I didn't mean to offend anyone and I wasn't saying that women are evil liars. I love women, I don't think I love anything more than women, they're great.
i think that saying all women lie was a very closed minded comment. I try and be as honest as possible when it comes to being with a guy, because if you don't have trust and honesty, then your relationship goes to crap. Once you start lying, you have to keep lying to keep up with yourself. It just gets you in a load of trouble... So maybe a lot of women do lie to keep the guy from thinking shes a whore or something, but guys lie as well. You can't just suppose that every women out there lies because thats not true at all. It depends on what kind of person you are and the rules you set for yourself.
Oh, lord, how many men have I run into while looking to "hook up" (
, from another thread) that were "working late" or "on a business trip".
This is a much too subjective question. Some women and some men will lie about everything. Some won't. It just has to depend on whether or not you trust the person in question.
Personally, I like (and have used...lol) the Blanche Devereaux line, "I never tell men about my past... it takes too long."
Yeah, I guess "lying" is maybe a bad term to use, it sounds so bad. I guess there is no better description than that word though. Basically it was the whole American Pie 2 thing that sparked me to wonder about this a while back. It's more out of curiosity than anything, I mean I can't go back and change the fact that a girl I'm with has been with other guys, so I don't let it bother me. My current one is happy with me anyway, so I'm not too concerned about it. I basically posted the topic out of curiosity, I mean I'm not gonna go around asking random women face-to-face about stuff like this, and I just kinda wanted to see what the general concensus was with the women on here. I mean I'm kinda insecure about trusting women, especially girls my age, so I just kinda wanted to know if my thoughts were rational or if they are just out of insecurities.
i think knowing the number of partners your partner has had in the past is almost insignificant, particularly early on in a relationship. i think i remember a similar topic in another thread, and it was mentioned that it is rather rude or tacky to ask your partner how many people he or she has been with. Maybe out of curiosity further on down the road, or if it's on topic in the current conversation, the question can be posed, but by that point, the relationship should be important enough that lies won't be told.
I'd have to say that girls lying about how many guys they've been with doesnt bug me nearly as much as the guys i know who cheat on their girlfriends, and then brag about it. anytime that topic comes up when i'm with my buddies i just keep my mouth shut and kind of distance myself from it. even when i came close to cheating (as in when i fooled around with my date to a ball while my gf and i were on a break, an event that consequently ended the relationship) i was not proud of it, and felt bad when my ex called it cheating. it just bugs me that these people walk around with no conscience.
Yeah I think it was in one of the American Pie movies where they said to figure out how many people the person had slept w/ over the summer, for girls...take the number they say and mulitiply by 3, for guys... take the number they say and divide by 3..lol.
I agree it has to do w/ the stigma that goes along w/ a girl who has had a few partners. she's considered a slut or easy.
I guess it all depends on the girl. I don't go around lying about random OR important stuff. Some girls do. Some girls put themselves in situations where something bad happens and they feel they have to lie to not hurt anyone.
I know Tessie, we are just sooo evil lol. Guys are just as bad. I don't think its a gender thing, its a human thing.
I dislike people who lie, if people lie around me, then out the door you go.
You could really ask the same thing about men.
Men often lie about how many people they've been with. Usually, it's a lot more than they've actually been with.
Women say lower probably because they'd be called a slut otherwise. Men say higher so they can be that "studly" man and win her over...when in fact, he's just making himself look like an ass because we can see right through the lie.
I've only been with one person, but I lie and say I'm a virgin because I know exactly how the people around me would treat me if I told them I wasn't.
I'm not a lady but I've been wondering this same thing. Women "lie" all the time and it pisses me the hell off.
I never lie either. Women are very good a lying and very good at getting away with things. Women are evil beings.
Good grief Greendale you got a real problem with women don't you? They "lie" all the time huh? Do you ask yourself why that is? As for you never lying, what do you have to lie about? Your a virgin! If you think we women are so evil then perhaps you should stick to men. Heavens knows they don't lie, do they?
notacreativename, I am not sure how often girls lie. They might in order so the guy don't think bad of them or because they are embarressed to admit how many sexual partners they have had. I do know when you mix drinking into things stuff happens that the girl wouldn't normally do.
It is not ok to lie and if you are worried about your girl friend then you should just talk to her. Not every woman is evil just so you know.