Seems to be a lull in the conversation here today, so I figured I'd toss out an open ended question or two.
So for the people that rock, the people that have done it all, the people that been there, done that, and have the t-shirts to prove it. By this I'm meaning the people that have expressed, met, and devoured every fantasy they harbored since puberty. Regardless of how meager or ornate or convoluted. You've effectively exhausted your mind.
What do you do now?
By that I mean, I have a list of things I'd love to try, but most likely won't materialize for one reason or another. They're almost like my security blanket of ideas, fantasies I'll always have to "work" for or think about.
This isn't coming out right. What I'm meaning is what do you want to do after you've done everything you want to do? Do you go through the whole list again, but dressed in a clown costume? Or do you cycle through the highlights? Maybe give the list additional passes as things that were crappy before may be kick ass later on?
[QUOTE=RedRoses;275357]Not that I am of the supposed category in any way :rolleyes: But I've considered every time I had sex as a unique moment in time that will never exist again after. And I can't imagine that ever changing.[/QUOTE]
As the Japanese say: Ichi go ichi e. Each moment, only once.
Not that I am of the supposed category in any way :rolleyes: But I've considered every time I had sex as a unique moment in time that will never exist again after. And I can't imagine that ever changing.
Fair question but in order to completely understand...
do you know absolutely everything about your partner? Probably not and, when you come to think about it, since your partner continues to evolve as your relationship moves along - your partner is a "moving target" so it is almost impossible to absolutely know him/her.
While your parnter evolves, so do you. So we've just doubled the difficulty because just as you cannot know your partner so too will you not know everything about yourself. So, we have two moving targets. And as most married people know - they're often moving in wild directions and at varying speeds.
But that's not all! Wait! There's more! The circumstances also vary. Good day. Bad day. It's raining. Have the flu. Pulled a muscle in your ear. Whatever.
And now...we're playing three-dimensional chess inside a hurricane.
Yeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeehaw!!
As I have said before, sex is NOT about techniquess, positions. and etc. - it is about PEOPLE.
I haven't had sex in space yet. That's probably not going to happen, but I have a lots of √s on my list.
I like to compare sex to music and food. Most people enjoy music and food and they are two subjects I know a lot about. If you listen to a 1981 recording of Yo Yo Ma playing the Hayden 'cello concertos or his Bach Suites from 1983 and listen to him now you will hear the same pitches, rhythms and tempi, but he will play it differently than he did 30 years ago. Why? Because he goes back to something very basic to the violoncello repertoire with a different perspective, different feelings, a different attitude from what he had in his 20s. He takes music that a lot of 18 - 22 year olds perform with precision, but in his 50s Ma's maturity is capable of discovering and sharing new joy in the old. Perhaps you don't know "classical music." Maybe you have heard Eric Clapton. The way he performs a blues standard now is much more heartfelt, much more artistic than when he performed the same tune with John Mayall or Cream as a randy young guitar god in the 1960s. The same can be said for his own compositions: Layla is much more heart rending now than it was in the 70s. Or listen to Robert Plant sing the Led Zeppelin classic Rock and Roll. "It's been a long time since I rock and rolled" has a lot more meaning for a divorced 63 year old than for a 23 year old superstar with more groupies than he can shake his dick at.
So what's my point? In the first place sexual creativity is cool. It's also cool to be in touch with your partners' fantasies and desires, because those are just as important as yours. However, don't rack your brain trying to come up with a new kink all the time. After you have done "everything" or just quite few things go back to basic doggie style and rediscover it. You might be surprised at how much fun it is or at something you know now which makes it even better without having wear a clown costume.
In fact, just making out, holding hands, looking into each other's eyes can be taken to a new level with maturity and experience.
And you don't have to wait until you are in your 50s, 40s or even 30s to mature that much as a sex partner.
So much for musical performance and sex. I'll work food into post later on.
I cannot imagine running out of ideas, dreams, desires or things to do. My god, there is a big world out there; try it.