ok me and my girlfriend are interested in getting one for her and i got a questoin... i want to get something small so we can take it places if we deside to park somewhere and mess around in my car, :) we think that would be fun with me goin down hehe. ok well i guess my question is, if my girl has an orgasm using a vibrator is it lots harder to have an orgasm with just me? she has never orgasmed but i believe im close :) and if that gets her there will i have any chance to get her there myself? thats my question. thanks alot
Tue, 12/12/2006 - 03:12
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question about vibrators
if u use the vibrator often then she will get used to the vibrator thus maybe not enjoying your other foreplay as much unless a vibrator is involved.
My tip is not to bother with the vibrator but in the end it is up to you and is your decision..
(also if she loves the vibrator she will want the vibrator used a lot more and when she gets sick of that.. then where do you go?)
I have to disagree with the above sentiment. Vibrators, and toys in general, can be a wonderful addition to partner and/or solo sex. There's certainly no hurry to throw one into the mix, and if your relationship is still fairly new it can't hurt to hold off. Personally, I love that I have the option to go use my rabbit if I'm feeling randy and hubby is exhausted; vice-versa, if I had a long day and don't want to play, he can use his fleshlight (or I can use it on him). Our desire for each other hasn't diminished in the least; if anything, we've become more excited about sex. Most of the times we used our toys, we've used them together - before, during, after, or without sex. If you find that a toy is getting more attention than you, the problem is likely much deeper than the toy.
Is your lady able to bring herself to climax? While this isn't a rule, it will likely be more difficult for you to bring to her an orgasm if she isn't already familiar with her own person-specific sensations and the techniques that work for her. I've read multiple stories from girls who could only climax by themselves while lying on their stomachs with the legs clenched together; you never know what will work for you two.
I found WONDERFUL information at www.the-clitoris.com. Any possible vulva/vagina-related question I can come up with I've found on the site. And if I couldn't find the answer on my own, I emailed and got a detailed response promptly. There are countless personal accounts and experiences detailing the vast variety in women's sexuality. You might be surprised how much there is to know about her 'nethers - I'm 25 and I'm just discovering some of this stuff!
Everyone is unique. Find what works best for you. Most women who use vibrators end up with a collection; you never know what you'll be in the mood for :) so you may not strike gold with the first try.
Oh yes, vibes are quite nice but they do NOT come even close to sex with a man esp one who is skilled in the art. A small vibe is readily available over the Internet at very little cost. If you get a suitable one, you can use it too, guy. Place its head just behind your scrotum and press gently but firmly.
hey maybe you can get a vibrating cock ring
its true. i bought a vibrating cock ring off sextoys.co.uk for 1.79 today!! bargain - its definately worth a go for that price :)