My wife has never used a vibrator before .. I asked her last night if she might be interested in trying that (maybe using it together?) .. she said she might but that she's concerned that it would "dull" her ability to have an orgasm without one.
When we have sex she almost exclusively has orgasms by either getting oral from me or masturbating while I fuck her. She has an orgasm currently about 95% of the time when we have sex.
She does masturbate (via hand) about 2 times a week.
Is this a realistic concern on her part ... I have absolutely no idea .. neither of us want to introduce a vibrator if it's going to interfere with her ability to orgasm absent the vibrator.
Thanks in advance for any feedback.
If you overdo it, yes, it is a concern. As added stimulus when wanted, no problem. My guess is that the "need" for a vinrator is psychological. When we know we can get it done so quickly with little muss or fuss, we reach for it.
Thanks Brandye .. appreciate the feedback.
To determine if my wife was a candidate for using a vibrator, I did a little test brfore going out and buying one. What I did was while going down on her, I began to hum. Starting with a low note,( like a vibrator on low), then gradually go to a higher note. At the highest note, she had a very intense orgasm. I once made her cum three times inside five minutes doing this. Since then we have quite a large toy collection. We don't use a to every time, just once in a while, and she she still cums during both toy-time and intercourse.
Agreed, Brandye - esp with the 'without muss and fuss'.
A small clitoral stimulator, the tiniest dab of lube, and zap pow!
The odd thing is that while the physical sensations are similar, when using a vibe alone most women have to supply some mental fantasy or other to make the interlude 'worthwhile'.
As a woman who can orgasm from all four hotspots at the drop of his pants and keep doing so until he's exhausted, I can tell you that no vibe is even half as good as having a partner. For me, these pesky things (toys, lingerie whatever) get in my way. Just lie down right here, thank you.
My girlfriend has several. Its part of a natural sex life.
I have one which is used when there are no males immediately available.