P E has more to do with intercourse than masturbation. When home alone, we do not become as turned-on and aroused as when in the company of a lover. The reason we become more highly aroused when with our lover is becase of all the pheromones flying around as well as the emotional component that are missing when masturbating. Couple this with anticipation and the lack of being aware of when we are about to trigger an orgasm and we have every liklihood of experiencing Premature Ejaculation. This is usually defined as having an orgasm upon initial entry, upon the initial return stroke or during one of the strokes within the first minute or so. If we climax after this when not intending to it is simply an unfortunate event.
You are talking about reaching a climax within the first minute or so. In and of itself this is not good or bad, it just is. Regardless, the fix for this and the situation, above, is to learn self control and we do this by keeping a part of the brain focused on what we are feeling moment to moment and then learning to connect these feelings to certain benchmarks leading up to an orgasm. Once you can associate the feelings just preceeding a climax when you can stop and not coast beyond the point of no return, you can stave off an orgasm and extend your pleasure. Once you pause the stimulation, you do not move a muscle and just let the sense of urgency subside. Once it has you can continue to stimulate your self one or more times, each time backing down from the trigger point of an orgasm until you decide to end it.
For this to be a success, you have to sort of "multi-task", like a computer. Part of your brain can be all involved in the bliss of the moment; however, another part must be aware of where you along your arousal curve at any given time. When you want to stop, this part of you has to take over and tell the part driven by hormones and bliss that to have more, you must stop and not just go with the flow so to speak. This requires a real conscious effort on each person, so practice.
It is up to each person each event to decide when s/he is ready to enjoy a climax. One time it may be quickly and another time we may choose to draw the enjoyment out for many more minutes--or, to even have multiple orgasms. For guys, multiples can occur after several minutes of down time that lasts anywhere from about ten minutes to half an hour for teens to middle age adults. Most guys can experience one or two additional orgasms before the body refuses to respond for several hours.
[QUOTE]For guys, multiples can occur after several minutes of down time that lasts anywhere from about ten minutes to half an hour for teens to middle age adults.[/QUOTE]
though not for everyone.. i managed to make love with my partner, wait about 15 mins or so until we were climaxed and had hormones racing and went again, then after ejactulating we swapped over condoms and happily went again with no dramas. (though yes after that i did need quite a big rest and thus we just enjoyed the company of each other)
[QUOTE=dancingdoc2;152930]For guys, multiples can occur after several minutes of down time that lasts anywhere from about ten minutes to half an hour for teens to middle age adults.[/QUOTE]
It can certainly be quite a bit less than ten minutes, though that depends on the situation.
Just relax, try the techniques that the good doctor prescribed.
Don't worry about not being able to please a woman. I have to point out that you're probably still maturing and the ejaculation will get better with time. Not to mention the fact that most women would overlook PE if you have an eagerness to please otherwise. (There is nothing sexier than a man who wants to satisfy a woman and focus on her needs.)
It isn't so much how quickly you orgasm but how quickly you recover. You should find that the more you engage, the longer each one will last as you stop being 'overly-excited'. Focusing upon her and how she responds to this, and wondering (and trying out) how she'll react to that should help keep your mind busy hich will also help.
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P E has more to do with intercourse than masturbation. When home alone, we do not become as turned-on and aroused as when in the company of a lover. The reason we become more highly aroused when with our lover is becase of all the pheromones flying around as well as the emotional component that are missing when masturbating. Couple this with anticipation and the lack of being aware of when we are about to trigger an orgasm and we have every liklihood of experiencing Premature Ejaculation. This is usually defined as having an orgasm upon initial entry, upon the initial return stroke or during one of the strokes within the first minute or so. If we climax after this when not intending to it is simply an unfortunate event.
You are talking about reaching a climax within the first minute or so. In and of itself this is not good or bad, it just is. Regardless, the fix for this and the situation, above, is to learn self control and we do this by keeping a part of the brain focused on what we are feeling moment to moment and then learning to connect these feelings to certain benchmarks leading up to an orgasm. Once you can associate the feelings just preceeding a climax when you can stop and not coast beyond the point of no return, you can stave off an orgasm and extend your pleasure. Once you pause the stimulation, you do not move a muscle and just let the sense of urgency subside. Once it has you can continue to stimulate your self one or more times, each time backing down from the trigger point of an orgasm until you decide to end it.
For this to be a success, you have to sort of "multi-task", like a computer. Part of your brain can be all involved in the bliss of the moment; however, another part must be aware of where you along your arousal curve at any given time. When you want to stop, this part of you has to take over and tell the part driven by hormones and bliss that to have more, you must stop and not just go with the flow so to speak. This requires a real conscious effort on each person, so practice.
It is up to each person each event to decide when s/he is ready to enjoy a climax. One time it may be quickly and another time we may choose to draw the enjoyment out for many more minutes--or, to even have multiple orgasms. For guys, multiples can occur after several minutes of down time that lasts anywhere from about ten minutes to half an hour for teens to middle age adults. Most guys can experience one or two additional orgasms before the body refuses to respond for several hours.
I hope this is of help. Got questions?
[QUOTE]For guys, multiples can occur after several minutes of down time that lasts anywhere from about ten minutes to half an hour for teens to middle age adults.[/QUOTE]
though not for everyone.. i managed to make love with my partner, wait about 15 mins or so until we were climaxed and had hormones racing and went again, then after ejactulating we swapped over condoms and happily went again with no dramas. (though yes after that i did need quite a big rest and thus we just enjoyed the company of each other)
[QUOTE=dancingdoc2;152930]For guys, multiples can occur after several minutes of down time that lasts anywhere from about ten minutes to half an hour for teens to middle age adults.[/QUOTE]
It can certainly be quite a bit less than ten minutes, though that depends on the situation.
vper, WHOAAA
you two must have had a good night lol :)
idonotknow: im gunna go with a maybe.
there ARE many ways in pleasing a woman besides your penis.
though i would say try the extentions of ejaculating.
hopefully yourll find a woman who doesnt care, and is comfortable. just relax and work it up slowly :)
Just relax, try the techniques that the good doctor prescribed.
Don't worry about not being able to please a woman. I have to point out that you're probably still maturing and the ejaculation will get better with time. Not to mention the fact that most women would overlook PE if you have an eagerness to please otherwise. (There is nothing sexier than a man who wants to satisfy a woman and focus on her needs.)
Good luck.
It isn't so much how quickly you orgasm but how quickly you recover. You should find that the more you engage, the longer each one will last as you stop being 'overly-excited'. Focusing upon her and how she responds to this, and wondering (and trying out) how she'll react to that should help keep your mind busy hich will also help.