A local massage parlour lists service fees as follows (room charges extra):
Nude $60
Reverse $80
V.I.P. $100
Over the phone receptionist claims that no sex is involved. Hard for me to believe that. Can someone give me a summary of each service ?
Fri, 12/22/2006 - 06:20
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Question about Massage Parlours
are you looking for a woman to have a relationship with, or just to satisfy your sexual needs? you seem to be missing sex with a partner and also lonely. if you're looking for a proper partner then you're certainly looking in an unlikely place...
Of course they SAY no sex is involved but I betcha there's at least a hand job in there somewhere.
Just guessing here, but it seems that maybe:
"Nude" means about what you think it does.
"Reverse" means the customer gets to massage, or at least touch, the massager
"V.I.P." includes a hand job.
I think most people have a need for intimacy. Masturbation can satisfy a need for release (for us males), but it doesn't satisfy the need to touch and be touched.
Unfortunately, trying to start a relationship with a woman often seems to be a source of continual frustration. In the meantime, there is a need for touch and intimacy that often goes unsatisfied in one's search for a partner.
There are women in the sex industry who understand this, and will provide that sort of intimacy in the service they provide. (Contrary to popular belief, it is not always just about providing sex.)
You are unlikely to find that in a massage parlour though. In those places, it is more about providing a physical release, but you won't get the hugs and kisses.
"are you looking for a woman to have a relationship with, or just to satisfy your sexual needs? you seem to be missing sex with a partner and also lonely. if you're looking for a proper partner then you're certainly looking in an unlikely place..."
What you say makes sense. Had no luck on dating sites so in desperation I have decided to try massage parlours for some relief. Now I'm worried that the 3 years off from any physical female contact has conditioned my body to respond only to my method of masturbation in order to get the job done. Not being in a true love situation may explain the inability for them to make me cum or is it just the guilty feeling of having to go this low for some pleasure knowing full well that female only cares for my money. Rarely did this problem ever happen with my ex-wife of 19 years.
All I think of now is to go back to first girl again and again even if I just have to masturbate on top of her - don't even care if she attempts to satisfy me with a hand job. I like her body and personality isn't bad either. Looks like I could be getting into an expensive addiction. Probably need to see a shrink to figure this out.
Decided to try it out for first time ever:
Nude: Includes her providing sensual massage and hand job in the nude
Reverse: Includes above + customer can massage her
V.I.P.: All of the above + more contact
Chose 40 minute V.I.P. with a girl that I considered very attractive (in my eyes anyway). She was from Venezuela, intelligent and claimed to be 24 years old. Sensual massage was very good. The feeling I had when I hugged and squeeze her in the nude was priceless. This was the first time I was this close to any female after being separated for 3 years.
She tried very hard (hand job and even sucked tip of penis) to make me cum to no avail. I was very frustrated and gave up trying. She told me not to worry too much about it since it happens frequently especially to first timers. Not till I went to shower and masturbated in front of her that I finally did it.
In any case I left a little disappointed.
Decided to go back and try again 2 days later with same girl. Same thing happened again. Not until she allowed me to masturbate on top of her did I get the job done this time. Went home more satisfied this time but still concerned so next day I went to another parlour and received a similar treatment with a fairly attractive girl from Canada. Told her about previous days episodes. As confident as she was that she could get the job done it didn't happen until I masturbated at her side and she finished me off.
Just spent $430 Cdn. !!! What's happening ?? Is this normal ??
I' m a 51 year old male who has been obtaining sexual pleasure in the last 3 years only by masturbating. I did this since I had no interest in females as a result of the separation (wife took off with another guy etc.) but now have a change of heart and suddenly in desperate need of a sex partner.
well it all depends on what sort of relationship you want. but it looks like you want a partner as a companion too, more than just for sex, especially since youre not satisfied with the 'massages' and the fact that its becoming a habit. if you think youre getting addicted and dont like that, then try to make yourself stay away. do other stuff, like if you have any hobbies, chill out with friends, make trips, etc. that will take your mind off it.
if dating services didnt work, thats not the end of the world. sometimes with such arrangements, theres that presure at the back of your mind to make something out of the date, and if both people are desperate for a relationship, it could make you lose sight of actual socialising and getting to know each other, and you might tend to rush things. ask your friends if they know anyone who's single and would like to date. just spend time with them or your friends, even if its not a date. try new things, enroll in some classes or something, where youre likely to meet new people but not necessarily with the intention to date. that way the need for companionship and the loneliness will subside, and you're not in so much pressure to have a relationship with someone
If you are looking for sex with a partner why not try some of the adult sites? Rather then a "parlor" why not try Adultfriend finder or I want u. com? There is no BS on these sites, just people looking for sex dates. You can post a profile about yourself and what you are looking for, if you want female comanionship (for sex and fun) you may find what you want and with NSA.
prettynonsense:
Just came back from another session with the Venezuelan. Same thing happened - had to masturbate on top of her. Still I'm satisfied and love the much needed contact. Conversation level ok as well.
Although after 3 visits with her now I am finally coming to my senses to understand the impact of photography, makeup, clothing, high heels, etc. in enhancing the appearance of even an average looking person. She looks striking but after closer observation in the nude she does not look that much better than my ex-wife did who is atleast 20 years older. Hopefully I will take that into consideration before dishing out $150 so easily again. Also should keep reminding myself about the true quality of girls working in these places.
Like your advice though. Even though I'm pretty active - play/coach hockey, workout regularily I may need to find activities catered to singles etc..
sera3000:
Tried what you said (adultfinder/sexsearch.com) -> not much luck.
Don't think it's easy for 50+ to get much attention at these sites even though I have a body that looks much younger. Probably need to lie about age which is hard for me to do.
By the way, I wouldn't generalise about the 'quality' of the girls working in those places. I've visited a number of those sort of places here in Australia over the last couple of years, and met a number of different women.
Although I've had a few disappointments, for the most part I've encountered a remarkable level of compassion and understanding with the women I've met. The important thing is to treat them with respect, which is something that many of their customers don't do. In most cases, if you do the right thing, it will be appreciated and will lead to a better experience.
Angeleyes:
I wantu.com seemed pretty good. I am 41 and found that the majority of people are younger and looking for the younger type. But...if you are 50+ remember these days women who are 30 would be interested in you. I have noticed the new rule out there (single for 7 years) is men date women half their age, or are involved with women half their age. Why do I notice? Hmmm...Most men who are in their 40-50 believe I am too old for them...go figure. I have actually met some really nice and decent people on the site, and really developed beyond just a physical relationship to a good long-term friendship. I found you have to be persistant and keep at it. I am not really certain what you are looking for but I do think this is a good alternative, kind of like a "friend with benefits". Why not just find a good sex partner? A woman who has no expectations? It might be easier, and more rewarding in the end then a parlor. Yet, you are not in a romantic relationship...just a few thoughts...good luck.:)
sera300:
Well, I am a 51 year old single male, and I have always preferred women around my own age. These days I am interested in women in the age range 40+ to early 50s. I like maturity, I find that attractive.
Finding a sex partner sounds like a great idea, but its not so easy to achieve. Most single women my age are looking for a long term relationship rather than just sex.
I don't suppose there's any chance that you might be planning a trip to Australia some time soon, sera300? (Only kidding - I think!)
Hi Cyclefreak...
It's ironic you say you prefer women around your own age. I have found (recently) just the opposite, men want women half their age...so that leaves me with dating 80+ y/o! A bit over the edge for me.
When I posted a profile a few years back on the site, it worked for me...met some really nice men too. I definately did not want a relationship, just a "bed-buddy" with NSA...I just found I had to be careful and weed through some of the responses; I was more amazed at the friendships which developed as a result of a "meeting". I was recently divorced at the time and the last thing I wanted was a relationship, much less a romantic interest, at that time. I just wanted to meet someone for sex.
I am not planning any trips to Australia in the near future!!! Hey, Happy New Year!
Darn, foiled again! A Happy New Year to you too.