Last Saturday, My girlfriend and I had sex Twice that day. The first time was around 25-30 mins, then close to three hours after that we did it again, this time it took 1 hour and 10/15 mins. Im Just wondering if the first time we did it that day seemed long, because the second time was long.
I just figured that the second time was long because I have already had sex that day but im really not sure. That saturday was only my 5th time having sex overall and with my girlfriend. The times before were around the half hour mark also.
Im asking everyone eleses opinon on this.... is it normal... or is it somthing like opp. of pre mature ejac? idk I think im thinking to much.....:(
Thanks for everything!
(edit) I would like to add that.... My parents weren't home during both encounters and could come home at any min. during the two times.... The first time my parents were out for 2 hours.... then they came back.... then they left again for a while ..... but i was thinking... Most guys try to last as long as they can... but with me and my situation i tried to get over real quick and one point of each encounter beacuse i was getting to the point were i felt my parents would be home any second. Could this be somthing with it?
Nerves always affect performance.
i think ur thinkin too much. some guys cum within minutes!! doesn't sound like to me that ur sufferin from prem ejac!
> Last Saturday, My girlfriend and I had sex Twice that day. The first time was around 25-30 mins, then close to three hours after that we did it again, this time it took 1 hour and 10/15 mins. Im Just wondering if the first time we did it that day seemed long, because the second time was long.
Please explain or define what you mean by "had sex"? This can mean you had intercourse, or, you simply made out, climaxing as a result of a hand job and/or oral. Another reason for the question is that if you were having intercourse, were you spending 25-30 minutes and 1 hour 10/15 minutes inside stroking away trying to build your arousal; or, do you mean that you climaxed at the end of these events in which the two of you spent most of these times making out? Here is why the second part is important:
First, if the two of you were making out, kissing and caressing, for these times then climaxing at the end then this is just fine. It is important to know and understand that while the male of the species can be up for and ready for an orgasm in a matter of minutes, not so the female. Women generally require a long build up that requires making out for at least half an hour, and longer within reason if you have the time.** Of course, we all can enjoy a "quickie" now and then but for normal love making this is the timeframe.
Second, if the two of you were engaged in intercourse and you were stroking away for all these times then you are going about it all wrong.
Making love is a process that begins with kissing and caressing and ends there after climaxing whether by hand and/or mouth, or intercourse. If you are bypassing this important aspect of love making in order to get right to the climax then a climax as a result of intercourse might take a very long time.
Third, many women report that they become tired, bored, and sore if intercourse lasts longer than about ten minutes. It is the purpose of stroking to maintain a pre-existing high state of arousal, not to build your arousal from scratch. It is the purpose of thrusting to peak that high state and to trigger your orgasm. **Quickies aside, I believe you will find that by devoting no less than half an hour to the process of necking and petting and foreplay that the quality and intensity of your orgasms will greatly improve.***
Premature Ejaculation is defined as having a climax within the first minute, triggered either upon initial entry, upon the initial return stroke; or, within the first few strokes. If you last longer than two minutes you are not suffering from PE. If an orgasm occurs in between here and the ten minute mark that was a surprise, it is simply an untimely event, nothing more.
> i was thinking... Most guys try to last as long as they can... but with me and my situation i tried to get over real quick and one point of each encounter beacuse i was getting to the point were i felt my parents would be home any second. Could this be somthing with it?
***OK, it sounds like you are defining "sex" as having intercourse and that you were rushing right into this without devoting most of your available time to the all important aspect of making out. Both of you need to build each other up with lots of kissing and lots more caressing, first. Second comes the foreplay that is comprised of genital stimulation by hand and/or mouth. Once you have been brought to the brink of an orgasm--pause, let your sense of urgency subside, so that you will not loose control getting into position. Once in position, use the stroking to maintain your excitement and then somewhere within that ten minute limit, decide to transition to thrusting and have a climax.
Lastly, if your girlfriend is capable of having and enjoying orgasms, also, you should know that very few positions let her reach an orgasm from stroking and thrusting. So, what wise and caring lovers do is to reach around and finger the clitoris and pieces-parts at the same time. If it is her desire, you can help her to have orgasms before as well as after intercourse, also.
I hope this is of help. Got questions?
Thanks for the advice... But I don't think I was clear enough on some things. Before the iniatial entry.. there was foreplay and making out, the foreplay tho was more touching that would be from more extreme making out i guess you could say, but isn't the to the extreme of fingering. I really didn't count that into when i said i lasted 20 min or i lasted 1 hour.....those times were from intercourse.
Also when i said i wanted to finish up... we have been going at for close to a 1/2 hour... So thats when i figured I have to get done (when this was happening it wasn't like i was just thinking of non stop pounding... it was a lil more aggressive but you could say i had her worked up to the point of an orgasm, and made her (from reading the reactions of her) closer to the point even more).
Overall on all the experencies i have shared with my girl friend i always thought of pleasing her....
If there is anything eles i forgot to clear up just ask
(edit) Also this wasn't somthing that i think she got bored about (the 1 hour encounter) she usually starts on top... then we do missionary... then rear entry(which was new at that time)... but she seemed alot more into it then before
i myself can go to 45 minute mark on not having intercoarse for a while. up to and over an hour.
My girlfriend has no problems with this and i have also asked her if she gets sore/bored after to make sure so that next time i could have pulled out and done something else.
My girl has no problem with the time frames and i can usually make her orgasm once or twice before me whilst during intercoarse.
On another note to make it more fun for a girl during intercoarse you can orgasm her right before you are having intercoarse.. If done well enough the girl should be having a non-stop orgasm so to speak through intercoarse and thus enjoying it just as much as you.
Good luck with it all... with the parents issue try to find a time when u know they will be out for half a day or a long time so you don't have to worry about it. Sex is alot more fun when you can just enjoy it.
Or have the 'Knock and wait for a reply' rule (start this rule generally at your house.. dont use it just when your girlfriend is over. you can say things like 'in case i am changing etc etc) will also help your situation knowing your parents wont walk in on you
Thanks Vper... you have some good ideas
you normally take longer to cum the second time in one day cos your penis hasnt fully recovered yet - i think thats the case, i didnt read the docs reply - its too long! lol!
lol haha yeah.