Okay, so my g/f and I were messing around doing the usual. She jumps on top of me with no condom on for about 1 minute ( as usual ) everything is fine. I then give her oral which makes her burst into orgasm. Immediately after that, I put it in just because she likes it (still unprotected--as usual). Then after about 30 seconds, I put the condom on. When I put it in, it hurt her. We tried for about 1 more min, then I decided I wasn't going to go through with it because it hurt her. When she got up, she said it hurt to walk and I could tell she was in pain :( My theory is that I soaked her all up without the condom on and then when I put that rubbery stubstance on, her vagina wasn't lubed enough. Any thoughts? It hurt today as well, but not nearly as bad. I just wanted to confirm if I was right or wrong on my theory.
Sun, 05/14/2006 - 06:38
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Question about internal hurting
In theory your theory sounds right.
A condom, even a lubricated style, should always have lubrication applied to it, regardless of whether she is wet or not in my never to be so humble opinion.
Yes, lack of lube is likely the immediate cause of this problem. You are, however, living on the edge of a greater problem - parenthood. People who put bare penis in un protected vagina do it to become partents. Put one applicator full of vaginal jelly in her and the put the penis, in a condom in her. Anything else has too high a risk.
It's been 5 days and she is still complaining that it hurts (it comes and goes at random times.. most of the time when she is lying down). Is this normal? She is concerned that the dryness of a condom + my soaking her up is not the issue. She is considering seaking professional help, but would also like additional information from the forum experts here. Any advice is appreciated thanks.
Yes Brandye, I realize. We were using spermicidal injections and decided to give condoms a 2nd try. We've been together for about 1.5 yrs and are comfortable with it and are well aware of the consequences, which is why we're moving to more effective methods of birth control.
I, however, do think that my original theory is right. In the moment, my putting of a dry penis (with condom on) was probably the cause to her pain. I think that it is just very sore and is recovering. The cause of her on and off pain while laying down is maybe because that is how she was laying when we were about to engage in intercourse.
Symptoms rep[orted through an intermediary are suspect. Perhaps it is time for her to get it checked.