im just wondering.. i dont have much experience and when i was fooling around with this guy, we were kind of just going all over the place.. like i never gave him a handjob or blowjob to really come, like we just did everything for a little bit and would move on to something else. but i think everytime i went back to his penis, it would be a little bit limp. so like the first couple strokes it would grow in my hand. but then later when i went down on him it like grew again when i put it in my mouth.
does that happen a lot? i dont think it ever went limp completely, it was hard to tell. but i wonder if it just lowered every time i stopped touching it or something?
depending on how long it took to go from position A to position B, then yeh, it makes sense.
it just meant that he was getting less arroused when there was no friction with his penis. but, when you came back to it he got aroused quick.
sounds perfectly normal to me. it was just him getting his erection back.
Another way to look at this, in addition, is to know and understand the power that is within your hands. It should please you that you can take his penis within your grasp and make it grow and become hard. As this event happens just add a shy, knowing, wry little smile and all will be good to go.
My reply to guys who write in and are concerned about the size of their endowment is to inform them that it is not the size that matters as long as it is long enough for their partner to get a good grasp. The why is because for women the penis is viewed as a combination throttle and brake over which they command great power and control over his response. You can build him up, pause, let him slide back down his response curve just a bit and then repeat this again a couple of times all the while building his excitement, anticipation, and tension to even greater heights.
You are probably correct in that he did not go completely flaccid; even if he did, so what, knowing what I just outlined? Building an erection from a limp state should really put a smile on your face! That you sometimes choose to tease him by not letting him have his orgasm immediately just adds spice and will drive him wild with desire and passion. Now, having said this, please do not let this delay tactic be an every day ritual.
I'll just ditto doc's post with an addition.
If you do make it regular. That is get him hard then soft repeatedly, he might develope blue balls and then almost be in too much pain to continue anything. This would happen to me with my last girfriend.
It was like she had ADD when it came to fooling around. One place then the next. Two nights in a row I got blue balls and to continue to fool around just made the pain worse. That's not a pleasant experience.
okay so even if i had made him come at the end... would he have experienced blue balls like all throughout? because he was sometimes hard and sometimes a little softer and went back and forth
Not usually.
The Blue Balls condition usually is the result of being very turned on by whatever means and not having an orgasm at the other end. The condition usually does not manifest itself during the time he is being aroused; rather, after the activity stops and does not end with him having a climax. Such would be the case when a couple is fooling around in the car or at home and she is not able to "finish" him off either because the couple are not to the point in their relationship where she can touch his penis, or, even if she has been able to in the past, perhaps the fear of discovery prevented her from helping him orgasm in the end as might be the case when home.
His erections are waxing and waining as a normal fluctuation to the stimulation. There is no cause for concern. If you do notice him becoming soft while you are off doing something else to him, just go back and tweak his penis from time to time until ready to give it your full attention.